We have all been hurt before. We have all felt the pain of a broken heart. We have all been in situations where there was complete disregard for our feelings. Conversely, we have all been on the other side of that coin where we have hurt someone. In addition, during an argument there have been times where we were so upset that we did not care to consider the other persons emotional state. We were trusted with a delicate and precious heart yet we still managed to break it. Overall, how we choose to respond in circumstances like these is essential to our growth and development as individuals.
Some people hold on to negative memories. Some people choose not to move pass the past. Holding on to negative memories is like taking small doses of poison each day; you may not die immediately but eventually the poison will become too toxic to bear. Overtime, those types of memories tend to weigh you down tremendously preventing you from moving forward. I know it may seem impossible, especially after a recent disagreement, argument or falling out but do your very best to let it go.
Some of the people who hurt us the most are the ones we never expect to. Some of them are individuals who are closest to us. This makes sense because those who are the closest to us have greater and readily access to our heart strings. Who cares what a stranger thinks of you? The greatest impact comes from the ones we love because they have been trusted with the care of our delicate hearts. The expectation is mutual.
If you want to be a better communicator and show that you care, then the first thing you must do is meet people where they are. Simply put yourself in their shoes before you choose to respond to a particular situation. Next, listen before you speak. You have two ears and one mouth because you are expected to listen twice as much as you speak. You must also act rather than react. Oftentimes when we feel hurt we enter into a reactionary mode when we should be thinking about how our actions can foster a better more fruitful relationship. Lastly, forgive. Not just think or say it but truly forgive. You will know you have forgiven someone when you can think about them or how they’ve hurt you and you no longer hold grudges nor harbor negative feelings toward them. That’s true forgiveness.
Although it can be challenging to forget how someone has hurt you, it is imperative that you forgive them.
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