Morning Cup of Joe – Accountability

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Have you ever reached out to someone and asked for help but the person didn’t come through? Have the roles ever been reversed? There is nothing worse than someone no one can count on. Many of our relationships have been severed because of this very reason while countless others are ticking time bombs waiting to detonate. You can serve as the diffusor if you do your part. Doing your part simply means holding up your end of the bargain by doing what you said you would do. The fact of the matter is you’ve got to be someone others can depend on.

If you are someone who cannot be counted on, it also means that you are someone who makes it difficult to gain the trust of others. Building rapport is key. This makes sense because if you drop the ball on a particular request, it makes it increasingly challenging for the requester to trust that you won’t drop it again. The people you can depend on most are those who give without the expectation of getting back. There are those who assist because they know their part is critical to the overall accomplishment of the common goal. We do it because we know you’re depending on us and want that same security if the tables were turned.

Your word is and shall forever be your bond; be a person of your word. If you say you are going to do something, do it. Make no excuses. Don’t make empty promises when you know you aren’t going to follow through. Save yourself and others some time, effort and trouble by declining the offer immediately. But of course that route is too easy. Isn’t it? Saying no increases your chances of missing an opportunity to experience a miracle or help influence one. When a person in need reaches out to connect to someone who is trust-worthy, dependable, accountable and incredibly responsive, be sure you’re on the other end of the conversation.

Are you someone others can count on? If not, what are you going to do to change it?

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – The Outsiders

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No one should know what’s going on inside your house, especially if they’re standing on the outside. When you look at some people you can tell exactly what they are going through. Indeed some people are interested in the attention they may attract and others fall into the category of “misery loves company”. Wearing your feelings outwardly is obviously done at your discretion. The issue comes when you allow those feelings to dictate your actions and/or in-actions for that matter. For some strange reason, the opinions of others matter to us so much so that many of us live our lives based on this premise. That is something you must work on eliminating from the equation. What others think should not matter to you and it shouldn’t prevent you from striving to be your very best at all times. What others think about you is none of your concern.

Wearing your feelings outwardly is only one piece of this puzzle; another vital piece is your appearance. It is critically important that you look the part. Fake it ‘til you make it simply means look like you already have that which you are seeking and it will appear into your life more willingly. Please be clear, I’m not saying “perpetrate” or try to be something you are not. I am saying take pride in your appearance. I remember my father once saying; “It doesn’t matter how much money you have in your pockets, you need to look like you have a million dollars somewhere.” Wiser words have never spoken.

The final piece to the puzzle is your words. There is so much power in the spoken word. Your words are so powerful in fact that they can cut deeply and heal a broken heart simultaneously. What you say to yourself or your self-talk dictates how you interact and impact the world around you. Your words are powerful. Speak confidence into your life. Do not wait for others to compliment you, walk in the understanding that all God’s children are beautiful. What you show to the world is exactly what you can expect to attract back into your life.

Understand that you are in complete control over your own life so start acting like it.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Perfect Imperfection

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She stands in front of the mirror staring at herself wondering if anything has changed. She has an image of what she feels she is supposed to look like buried in her head yet that image is incongruent with how she sees herself in reality. With eyes wide open, a hopeless gaze overcomes her eyes as she stares hopelessly at the image in front of her. She wonders why her body hasn’t changed, not taking into consideration that it has been over six months since she last visited a gym. You cannot reasonably believe and/or expect that your circumstances will change if you are not the change agent.

We have all had the unpleasant experience of having to face the man-in-the-mirror and questioned the person staring back at us. We consistently make the error of comparing ourselves to others; wondering why God did not bless us with what He seemed to freely give to them. Learn to accept the person you are. You are made in his image, and according to Him, you are perfect. If you believe that he does not make mistakes and he made you than surely you realize that he did not make a mistake when he made you. Learn to love yourself unconditionally.

Although it is important to strive for perfection, it is equally important to understand that no one is perfect. Nope; not even the person you imagined after you read that statement. Not even them. Everyone wishes they could improve some aspect of their lives. I encourage you to continuously seek opportunities that will make you better. There is nothing wrong with how you were created; you must honor and protect your temple. You already know what you have to do if you are unsatisfied with your situation; do something about it. It’s not enough to simply wish things were different; you must take charge and influence the change you seek.

It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not. – Author Unknown

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Number One

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Never let anyone determine what you can do; that choice is solely yours. We live in a world where everyone has an opinion. This should not come as a shock to you especially since opinions are free. And since they are free we all feel the need to hand them out handsomely. We think we have the answer to every problem yet less than half of us have experienced the issue we’re giving advice on. Stop listening to others and learn to trust yourself. You alone should know what is best for you. Practice listening to and trusting your inner voice.

Learn to make decisions that ultimately benefit you in the long run. I know this may sound a bit selfish to some degree but it is necessary if you are going to succeed in life. You must always seek opportunities to be better at something. The moment you feel comfortable is the moment you need to change. You can’t teach hunger and passion; either you have it or you don’t. If you are reading this then you clearly have what it takes. Go and make it happen.

If you don’t look out for number one, seriously, who will? Understand that you cannot be good to anyone if you aren’t good to yourself first. You must take care of yourself. You must understand the importance of setting and exceeding your personal goals. Trust and believe in yourself and your abilities. Embrace the fact that you may be the one who everyone is counting on so it makes perfect sense for you to ensure that you intently focus on accomplishing your dreams.

When you accomplish your dreams, you open the door for others to accomplish theirs.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Direct Your Own Path

Are you the captain of your ship and the master of your soul? Do you direct your own path or do you count on others to direct you? Do you make your own decisions or are the decisions that affect your life based on what others think you should do? Aside from assistance from a trained professional, not only is it wise but it would behoove you to make your own decisions. After all, you have to live with the outcome not the person directing you.

Advice is free which is precisely why most people seek it and most people give it. We all know that you get what you pay for. Hence, if you aren’t paying for the advice you are seeking, how much value could that advice have? Do not be misled; some advice is priceless and can certainly come from someone who is not a professional but you should certainly limit those options to people who have “been there and done that”. Most people seek advice from people who have never even been in their specific situation. That’s like asking someone to guide you through a path they’ve never traveled themselves.

Unlimited power comes from your ability to direct your own path. There is a decision that you are keeping from making perhaps because you are not sure what the outcome could be. I submit to you that you will never know until you make the first move. Stop asking others and make a decision, now, today. There are clear benefits and consequences to every decision you make. The only person that should be thinking for you is you. In short, make your own decisions and live by them. Your own two feet are the only ones that can direct your path.

Think for yourself.

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Joe Paul

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Morning Cup of Joe – Don’t Take It Personally

No matter how hard you try, it is difficult to force anyone to do something they don’t want to do. Moreover, it is even more difficult to get someone to see something they don’t want to see. It matters not your intentions, good or bad, if someone is not ready to receive something they simply will not. Trying to force your point of view is like a quarterback throwing to a receiver that is either not open, heavily covered or simply ran the wrong route. In either case, they won’t be able to receive or catch it no matter how accurate your throw or message is.

Most of us want nothing but the best for our friends, family and loved ones but they have to want the same thing for themselves. Conversely, you must be willing to trust the eyes of others. What I mean is simply that your eyes point outwardly and you are able to observe things that others may not be able to see or may simply have a different perspective on. Similarly, you must be opened to accepting constructive criticism and be willing to embrace opportunities of improvement.

The impasse occurs when one does not accept responsibility for their actions and are not willing to change based on the observation of others. Don’t join that group and if you already are a card carrying member, cancel your membership. You are going nowhere fast. I am more fortunate than most to have learned a long time ago to not take anything personally, especially constructive criticism. If someone offers you advice, receive it, accept it and thank them. Thank them because they think enough of you to offer opportunities where you can be better. Most people don’t have folks like that in their lives who care enough to offer them opportunities for improvement. Embrace it.

A major sign of maturity is being able to accept constructive criticism and not be offended when it is offered. Don’t take it personally.

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Joe Paul

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Morning Cup of Joe – Blame Yourself

Some people are wired to automatically defer the cause of their demise to external forces never taking responsibility for their own actions. They will say that the reason why they aren’t succeeding is because of this person or that situation. They will say and falsely believe that if ‘this’ was a certain way or if ‘they’ gave me a chance then I could be successful; never once pointing out the real reason why they have not experienced success. Maintain the understanding that when you point out your finger, three are pointing right back at you.

If you are in a place where you haven’t succeeded, there is only one person responsible for your outcomes; YOU! You are the reason why you haven’t succeeded. Stop blaming it on your circumstances because there are some who have overcome much worse who are doing much better than you are. Stop blaming it on the fact that other people won’t help you because there are some who have built their dreams from the ground up brick-by-brick by themselves. Stop blaming it on the stars not aligning because if you are waiting on the right time to act understand that the right time may never come.

One of the main reasons why some people never reach their full potential is because they lack the fortitude necessary to succeed. The first step is prioritizing your life. Maintain the understanding that some things that you are putting at the top of your list of priorities should not have ever made the list. Reevaluate what you consider to be important because there is a huge chance that it isn’t. If you want to get your life together you must first distinguish between what is important and what is not.

The second step is to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You were born to win, commit that to memory. If it seems that no one will help you then you must help yourself. If you were in a burning building, would you wait until someone came to rescue you or would you try to find a way out? Clearly you would do whatever it takes to stay alive and find a way out. Success is no different. Stop waiting on the shooting star and start trying to figure out how to be one.

The third and final step is perhaps the most challenging; acceptance. Accept the fact that God, in his infinite wisdom, created you just the way you are for reasons you may not even know. Accept the fact that if you want to succeed you have to be hungry. You have to want it. Accept the fact that the people who love you the most will not enable you to continue to fail by supporting your destructive behavior. Accept the fact that the only reason why you fail is because of your own efforts or lack thereof. Accept the fact that if you want your situation to change then you must be that change you seek. It is impossible for your situation to change if you are not willing to change yourself.

Throughout my life’s journey, I have succeeded and I have failed. I have been lied on, talked about and mistreated. I have been told that I would never amount to a hill of beans. I have been ostracized and neglected. In the eyes of so many I have been all of the aforementioned and more. The one thing I will never be is defeated. I will never be defeated because I take responsibility not only for my actions but for my outcomes.

If you are not successful and your life is in shambles, don’t blame the world; blame yourself.

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Morning Cup of Joe – A Blessing To Others

We have all been uniquely blessed with specific gifts and talents. There are some people who have yet to recognize their gifts as truly gifts. Your gift is the “thing” that you are able to do almost better than everyone else. Once you’ve recognized your gift, it is imperative that you begin focusing on how to share this gift with the world. Sharing our gifts with the world, if executed properly, is exactly what will yield financial freedom. In essence, when you do what you love and love what you do, the money will come in abundance.

The good news is that many of us are past the stage of recognizing our gifts. For the most part, most people know exactly what their specialized talents are yet a majority of those people are not quite sure how to cultivate them. For those of us who do, we have been able to use those gifts to begin to create wealth. We must not only find satisfaction in earning, we must also find satisfaction in giving. We are blessed in order to be a blessing to others. What good is a man’s treasure if he cannot share it with the world?

To whom much is given, so much more is required. You have used your gifts to receive your blessings yet the transaction is only partially complete. The final piece is the blessing you are and the blessings you give to others. Most people don’t realize that their blessings come from blessings others; which explains why less people give. Understand that we are all connected. And since we are connected, it is imperative that we understand that we all have a humanitarian obligation to support one another. I am absolutely my brother’s keeper.

If God has blessed you with increase and abundance, the expectation is that you return the favor by being a blessing to others. To whom much is given, so much more is required. That’s the key to receiving more blessings.

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Morning Cup of Joe – Can I Count On You?

Don’t be someone no one can count on. When someone asks you for a favor, do you typically respond affirmatively? When someone calls you, do you answer your phone? When you are expected to be somewhere, do you show up? Do you make promises that you cannot keep? If you see someone in need, do you stop to show compassion?

I have learned and have seen firsthand how God blesses those who bless others. If you are lacking in blessings it may be because you are too focused on yourself and what’s best for you. When you do for others, God in his infinite omniscience returns the favor tenfold. Do not be misled; your heart must first be in the right place. Your motivation should not be to do for others because you want God to do for you. It doesn’t quite work that way. Give to others because you innately want to.

I am more than blessed to have people in my life who I can count on. Those who are simply a phone call away. Those who answer when I call. Those who show up when they are expected to and when they are needed most. Understand that these relationships are mutually beneficial. They know without a shadow of a doubt that I am someone they can count on which is why they never let me down. People will begin to trust you when you show that you are trustworthy. Furthermore, people will show you that you can count on them when they can count on you.

Be accountable, responsible, and present at all times. Most of all be someone everyone can count on. Can I count on you?

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Joe Paul

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