Morning Cup of Joe – Ignore the Naysayers

Ignore2In 1773, Phyllis Wheatley became the first Black person to publish a book.

In 1872, Victoria Woodhall became the first woman to run for president of the United States.

On May 6, 1954 Roger Bannister became the first man to run a mile in under four minutes.

In 2008, Barack Obama became the first Black President of the United States of America.

You may be wondering what exactly is so significant about these facts. What do these facts have in common? Simple, they are all firsts. What’s significant is the fact that they became the first to ever do it. Meaning there was no framework or “how to” guide to describe steps that one should take in order to experience the success that these folks have experienced.

Another thing these firsts have in common is the fact that 1) they had an unequivocal belief that winning was possible; 2) they ignored the naysayers; 3) They were crazy enough to believe in their dreams.

There are many factors to consider when measuring the success of a person. One major factor is that most successful people refuse to surround themselves with people who do not dream as big or bigger than they do. Winners surround themselves with people who believe that ANYTHING is possible. If you have people in your circle who constantly try to bring you down or downplay your dreams, you must separate yourself from them. If you can’t do it physically, separate yourself from them mentally.

During your journey towards success, it is imperative that you understand naysayers are absolutely unavoidable. The main issue with naysayers is that their vision is limited and/or nonexistent. They do not possess the same wherewithal to see past today and into a future overflowing with possibilities. They cannot see what you can. They do not believe the same way you believe. Thus, they will not be able to achieve what you inevitably will.

It takes a very special person to create a way where there was seemingly no way. To travel places that they had no idea even existed. To reach for the stars when they cannot even see past the glass ceiling. To think bigger than their limitations. To take unconventional routes through a conventional system. To unequivocally believe without a shadow of a doubt that anything is possible. Are you that special person?

The one thing that you cannot stop nor control is other peoples opinions about your life. People will share their opinions because it doesn’t cost them anything. Your job is to ignore anyone who does not support your dreams and goals. You are going to run into people who will discourage you from seeking out your goals simply because they lack the ability to dream themselves.

If you believe in your dreams you must be willing to do whatever it takes to make them possible. You must work like hell, trust yourself, dream big and ignore the naysayers. Believe that ANYTHING is possible and it shall be so.

When the world tells you “you can’t” because it’s never been done before, use that as motivation to show them why it’s possible.

If its never been done before, it simply means you have an opportunity to be FIRST.

To The Top!
Joe Paul
Motivational Thought Leader, Corporate Trainer & Keynote Speaker

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“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

Morning Cup of Joe – Trust Yourself

Trust YourselfOne of the greatest barriers to success is placing your trust in someone else’s opinions about what you should do with your own life. Everyone will have an opinion as it relates to your life but only yours matter. Often times we seek out the advice and guidance of others to help direct our path, all the while we are the answer to the questions we’ve been asking all along. One of the most important factors to experiencing wild success is trusting yourself.

Growing up, my mother would constantly say how proud she would be if her baby boy ever became a doctor. I didn’t think her vision for my life was far-fetched nor did I think it was unreachable; it just wasn’t my goal. It wasn’t a future I envisioned for myself. Now don’t get me wrong, I had no idea that I would become a keynote speaker either. My goal was simply to use the gifts God has blessed me with to help leave an indelible mark on the world by positively affecting the lives of those whose paths I am fortunate to cross.

One of the most common mistakes we make on the road to success is talking ourselves out of inevitable blessings simply because we don’t trust ourselves enough. In my humble opinion, I do not believe that there are right or wrong decisions but rather each decision we make leads us closer to our predestined fate. Those same decisions should be yours and solely yours. Everyone is equipped with an incredible sense of intuition, always trust yours.

The fact is, right or wrong, you must live with every decision you make. It’s critically important that you trust yourself and trust that the decision you make is the right one for you. Do not be misled; am I saying not to seek the advice of others? Absolutely not. I’m just saying to trust yourself a little more. You may not even need the advice of others. The answer you seek is well within you.

The late visionary Steve Jobs once said, “Don’t let the noise of other peoples opinions drown out your inner voice.” Remember to trust yourself always.

To The Top!
Joe Paul
Motivational Thought Leader, Corporate Trainer & Keynote Speaker

www.JoePaulSpeaks.com
Tel. :202.553.7718
hello@JoePaulSpeaks.com
Twitter : @JoePaulSpeaks

Morning Cup of Joe – College Isn’t For Everyone

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College isn’t for everyone but it’s a GREAT PLAN B!
Do you need a college degree in order to be successful? Absolutely not. It also depends on how you define success. For our purposes, let’s use the universal definition of success by linking it to the attainment of profit or wealth. While there are some clear outliers like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Larry Ellison and Mark Zuckerberg, there are far more who have experienced success with a college degree than those without one. A person with a bachelor’s degree earns twice as much in a lifetime as a high school graduate. Clearly there are instances where a high school graduate will earn more than a college graduate but that is not the norm.

Sometimes I reflect on the fact that I’m an “accidental college graduate.” You may be wondering what exactly is an accidental college graduate. An accidental college graduate is one who attended and graduated from college accidentally. I say accidentally because the plan for my life was not to attend college initially. I wasn’t even supposed to go to college. No really, I wasn’t. Neither of my parents graduated high school and I did not have any real life examples of people close to me who attended or graduated from college. The highest education level for everyone I knew was a high school diploma so naturally that was my end goal.

My friends were applying to colleges all across the country and I still did not know what I was going to do with my life. With much hesitation and a bit of uncertainty, I decided to jump on the bandwagon and start applying as well. I took both the ACT and SAT late and did not score favorably on either test. That did not prevent me from applying. I received many denial letters until an acceptance from Florida State University came; what a wonderful feeling. I remember it like it was yesterday. The years that followed presented new life experiences, friendships that will last forever, unexpected paradigm shifts, complete transformation, growth, analytical and critical thinking, blood, sweat and tears. In the end, it was all worth it.

If you are reading this and are uncertain about your future, don’t be. It doesn’t have to be college that you pursue, just trust the next opportunity that comes your way and pursue it vigorously. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. once said, “Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” I had no clue what college would bring but I went anyway and it changed my life. The next time you are presented with a great opportunity, don’t even think twice about it; take it.

Don’t worry about what tomorrow will bring when there is more than enough to worry about today. Step out on faith and see where your path will lead.

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Joe Paul

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Morning Cup of Joe – Be Significant

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No one ever became successful by accident, despite some claims of success happening overnight. The only thing that ever happens overnight is sleep. Everyone who enjoys the fruits of their labor had to first plant the seed, water it and work hard to ensure that their harvest is productive. Those who become successful simply work harder, smarter and longer than their counterparts. They understand the importance of being the first in and the last out. In fact, their goal is not to be successful at all but to change the world by what they do.

During an interview, Oprah Winfrey was asked about what she attributes to her success and she made a profound statement which I will share with you. She said, “What I know for sure is that if you want to have success, you can’t make success your goal”, “The key is not to worry about being successful, but to instead work toward being significant – and the success will naturally follow.” It is imperative that your goal be to make an impact on the world by the work you do, that’s the only way you will experience success.

Most people see the results of hard work yet fail to recognize the hard work that it takes to arrive at those favorable results. Oprah Winfrey is one of the most successful and wealthiest people in the world and her incredible success is not accidental. She worked hard at perfecting her craft while maintaining the mind-set that no matter what others think, say or feel about where I should be and what I should do, I will follow my heart. The results clearly speak for themselves.

By choosing to become significant rather than successful, you are choosing to leave your mark, and by leaving your mark you will in turn enjoy the benefits of success.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – The Sun Rise

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Treat each day as if it were your last. I do not mean that you should use the idea of living only once as a basis for not being responsible. I am simply encouraging you to live in the present and live in the moment. There are many people who live as if tomorrow is promised. While it is important to expect the sun to rise the following day, understand that not everyone is fortunate enough to rise with it. Please understand that this is not an attempt to scare you; it is simply an attempt to wake you up.

There are only twenty-four hours in each day; eight of which are typically spent asleep. Which leaves you with a balance of sixteen and of those sixteen; eight of those hours are typically spent at your place of employment. If we check our balance, we are only left with a mere eight hours to work on making our dreams come true. How are you currently using your time? Of the things you are involved with during your eight hour balance, are they the highest and best use of your time? In a majority of cases, I would argue that the answer would be absolutely not. If you can read this, there is still hope in the future.

We did not plan the blessing which is the date of our birth and we certainly do not know when our expiration date will be. Treat yourself like a carton of milk. Typically when we buy milk we observe the date this perishable item will expire. Our goal is typically to use every drop from that carton before it expires as it will be of no use after that expiration date. Unlike milk, we are not fortunate enough to know our expiration date. However, that should not prevent us from maximizing the use of our talents, gifts and blessings to help leave our mark on the world.

The two dates that many people remember are your birth-date and your expiration date. Focus intently on the dash in the middle. What are you going to do to ensure that you are not simply wasting time while you are occupying your earth suit? It is critically important that you use your time wisely. Every day that you are blessed to see presents another opportunity to bring you closer to your dreams. It is imperative that you not reach your expiration date hoping you would have done more. There is no time like the present to ensure that you do what you can with what you have in order to have what is already meant for you.

Do not reach your expiration date prior to using every ounce of your talents and gifts. Your daily goal should be to live up to your full potential. Are you using your time wisely? Take an inventory of your time and refocus your energy on one of the most important pieces in your life; yourself.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Self-Motivated

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My mother always had dreams of me becoming a medical doctor; a profession I have absolutely no interest in. Could I have been a doctor? Without a shadow of a doubt. Would I have been happy? Probably not. Instead, I choose to do something that makes me happy. I choose to do something that I would do for free. I choose to do something that I am truly passionate about. I choose to improve the lives of those around me by serving as an example of what could be in spite of the devastating events that can occur in one’s life.

One of the key ingredients to experiencing wild success is self-motivation. While others around you serve a definite purpose in shaping your limitations, it is ultimately up to you to determine how far you will truly go. You are uniquely made the way you are for a reason. Focus on your strengths and what you were born to do, not what others think you should do. After all, you are responsible for your own fate.

What specifically motivates you to be better than you already are? What explicitly drives you to accomplish your goals? Is it your children? A spouse? Is it the possibility for advancement at your current place of business? Is it to gain the validation of a parent? Is it a fear of failing? Whatever it may be, if you don’t already know, it is imperative that you discover what motivates you to be better. The answer is usually in the mirror.

Your motivation to be better should come from no one and nothing else but yourself. Don’t worry, I’ll be here to help give you a push when you need it most but ultimately it’s up to you.

To The Top!
Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Better Late Than Never

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One morning I woke up unmotivated; imagine that. I woke up and really did not feel like facing the world. I think most winners are entitled to at least one or two of these types of days per year. The key is to snap out of it the second you’re being drawn in. Simply, as soon as you start feeling down, press the proverbial pause button, gather your thoughts and do not accept the negative path that your subconscious mind may be trying to lead you. Press pause and regroup.

That same morning I had a meeting to attend. It was not a mandatory meeting but it was certainly one that I should attend. Still feeling unmotivated, I gazed at the ever ticking clock hoping there was a pause button for that too. Finally, I decided to drag myself out of bed. I knew I was going to be late but I decided to show up like I promised. This wise decision would end up changing my life.

The message I’d like you to take away from the aforementioned experience is that even if you don’t show up on time, it is better to be late than not show up at all. There are divine appointments that have already been set for you; your goal is to simply meet these appointments half-way. Had I not shown up to this meeting, I would’ve not been able to connect with my divine appointment. The person that was specifically sent for me based on what I asked of God through prayers coupled with His omniscient understanding of our hearts desires.

No matter what you do, show up. Ninety percent of winning is simply being at the right place at the right time. The right time is when you decide to show up, even if it’s a little late.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Choose Wisely

To me, it is a little disturbing to think about the substantial amount of people who simply accept things as they are. Going about their day without a care in the world; satisfied with their mediocrity. If you are going to be anything in this world, you cannot be comfortable with the status quo. Don’t be misled, some people are perfectly fine with where they are and are not interested in advancing. That’s simply their prerogative which they’re entitled to. While I have a serious issue with this, I am fully aware that we are all responsible for ourselves.

For a long time in my life I accepted things as they were hoping they would get better. After I realized that this method of thinking and acting was not getting me anywhere, I decided to start demanding things. The one thing that remains constant is the cordiality that exists with my every demand. Before you can demand anything, you must first be confident in knowing what you want; be clear. Once you are clear on what you want, you will be more discerning as it relates to your options. Basically, you won’t be so quick to accept just anything and you shouldn’t.

This is also true in the relationships that we forge. If you are with someone who is not treating you the way you are supposed to be treated, reevaluate your situation and create an exit strategy immediately. The fact of the matter is; you deserve better than what you are currently choosing to accept. Make smart decisions and wise choices that benefit you in the long run. Remember that life’s journey is all about the choices we make; choose wisely.

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Joe Paul

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Morning Cup of Joe – Who’s On Your Side?

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This may come as a shock to some but there are people who do not want to see you succeed. I would even go so far as to say that there are some who even pray for your failure. In some cases, these same people are disguised as friends and/or supporters; all the while they are secretly hoping that you miss your mark. I am here to tell you that their opinions don’t matter.

People are going to establish their own opinions about you, most of which are going to be negative and against you; expect it. Others may even be bold enough to publicly cheer against you. As a winner, you must learn to develop blinders that keep you focused on the task at hand and not on the ill-wishers. It is unrealistic to expect that everyone will be on your side; work as if it’s just you and God.

Although others opinions about us failing should not matter, we should use those words as motivation. You can turn any bit of information into the fuel necessary to drive you to accomplish your goals. What motivates me most is when someone believes that I can’t do something. I’ve eliminated the ‘apostrophe t’ from my vocabulary and so should you; specifically the word can’t. There will be people who will think that you cannot win and there will be people who will hope to see you lose; your only mission is to prove them wrong.

When you prove people wrong, you are proving who was right all along. The only person in control of your destiny is YOU!

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – God Has A Plan

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There is a clear difference between your timing and God’s timing. Your timing deals with hours, minutes and seconds while God’s timing specifically deals with what I like to call “blessing readiness”. Basically, blessing readiness is when you have worked tirelessly towards accomplishing a goal while trusting God to meet you half-way and help create the miracle. Be ready to receive the blessing when God is ready for you to have it, not necessarily when you feel you are ready. This is when your patience is most tested. This is when most people give up, usually three seconds before the miracle happens. I have learned that miracles happens right after the storm. You have to make it through the storm to see the sunshine. Keep pushing.

A common problem some people have is when they try to force a particular desired outcome. If it isn’t meant to be, it just simply won’t be. Learn to accept the things you cannot change. You cannot force something that is not destined to happen. That is like trying to force a square peg through a round hole; it simply won’t work.

God has a plan and his plan trumps yours. If it isn’t in his plan, then it simply will not be. While you are feverishly working towards achieving your goals, maintain the understanding that you may not reach them when you think you will reach them. In fact, it may be sooner and in some cases later. What matters most is that you reach them eventually. Don’t rush to get what you are seeking and don’t expect to get it overnight.

Nothing worth having ever came easily; it takes an exceptional amount of effort and a significant amount of patience.

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Joe Paul