Morning Cup of Joe – Don’t Be Afraid to Fail

Failure 2Do you ever wonder why there are only a handful of people in the world who experience off the charts success? Well, I have and I’ve discovered there is a really good reason for that. One of the main reasons why only a few people experience this type of success is because they do not stop at the first sign of failure nor do they stop at the first sign of defeat. They keep going! Unfortunately, most people want the fruits that are available for someone who commits themselves to hard work but are not willing to commit themselves to the hard work necessary to bear the fruit. Hard work is only half the battle, the fear of failure is the other side of the coin.

The main reason why so many people don’t try is because they are afraid to fail. It’s as simple as that. They are afraid that if they try they may not succeed. My question to those people is “How do you know if you’ll succeed or not if you never try?” Theodore Roosevelt once said “It is hard to fail but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.” I believe that 100%. Failure sucks but not trying because you are afraid is far worse.

Failure is one of the most difficult experiences anyone can experience. No one wants to experience failure; not even me. Yet I know and understand that failure shows up right before a win; sometimes several times. When Thomas Edison and his team of talented engineers were trying to figure out how to bring light through a light bulb, they failed hundreds of times. That did not stop them. He said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” It is because of the way he viewed failure coupled with great tenacity and an unwillingness to accept failure or defeat that we can flip a switch and say “Let the be light” and it actually works. That is the risk you must be willing to take if you want to be successful; the risk of ongoing failure.

In order to be successful you must take risks including the risk of failure. Failure is inevitable, success is not. The good news is, one typically comes before the other. The fear of failing can be debilitating, it can also be a great motivator. Remember that F.E.A.R. is simply false evidence appearing real. We create our own barriers to success. The main barrier to success is the fear of failing. Do not be afraid.

    A few of my favorite quotes on the fear of failing…

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, and how you can still come out of it.” – Maya Angelou

“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.” – JK Rowling

“There is only ONE THING that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” – Paulo Coelho

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Failure

Morning Cup of Joe – From Start to Finish

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When things are meant to be, it seems as if all of the pieces start to magically fall into place. There is a test that I used to conduct just to test this theory and see if it’s true; I have never been disappointed. I first start by picking a start date, an end date and sticking firmly to both of them. Next I commit myself to ensuring that everything is in place so my desired outcomes happen on the specific date I choose, if not before. Then, almost like magic, all of the other pieces start coming together almost seamlessly.

Oftentimes, we ignore the obvious signs that are pointing us in a different direction. This happens when we try to force a square peg into a round hole; it simply won’t fit. Learn to quickly recognize which steps are ordained and which ones are not. You will know if what you’re doing is the right thing to do if you experience very little resistance or obstacles along the way.

I firmly believe that God wants to see His children succeed. I seriously doubt we were placed on this earth to fail. Walk in the understanding that God’s got your back. Work on creating a plan of action then work even harder on the execution of this plan. If you start, God will help you finish.

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Morning Cup of Joe – The Greatest Difference

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There is an ongoing battle between being cooperative and being competitive. Oftentimes, the thin line which separates the two becomes obscure. Some extreme competitors expect to win and most inevitably do. The problem comes when our expectations aren’t met and the results aren’t favorable. Many of us are so competitive that experiencing a loss would result in complete disappointment and utter devastation.

When I was in college, I ran for Student Body President. I truly gave that election my all and I mean ALL. After several grueling months of campaigning from dorms to classrooms, Election Day had finally arrived. Almost ten hours later a winner was announced. My name was not called. That was my first experience losing an election. There are countless people who quit after they’ve experienced a loss. My life experience has taught me that if perhaps I don’t win today, it doesn’t mean I can’t win tomorrow. Every loss presents an opportunity to learn, grow and get better.

Although I did not win the election, I was not willing to accept that this one loss would ultimately dictate my future. A winner understands that it is not over until it is completely over and even then you must fight some more. Whether you win or lose, remember to always give it your best shot. While I was devastated at the time, I had to wrap my mind around the fact that failure is an event, it is not a person. No matter the results, you should never walk away from an experience hoping you had done a little more. Leave it all on the battlefield.

The greatest difference between a winner and a loser is that a winner always gets back up.

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Morning Cup of Joe – A Brilliant Mind

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An idea is worthless if it is trapped in your head. The only way you can profit from an idea is if you share it with the world. Most of us wait until an idea is perfect before we share it. Unfortunately for some, the idea will never be perfect enough to share. We work out the details until it is crystal clear yet continue to create flaws in the design. Take it from me; your ideas are ready for launch. If they aren’t, they simply won’t take off.

You are and always will be your worst critic. Understand that no one will scrutinize your ideas as much as you will; that’s a good thing. The fact that some of you are waiting for the “right” moment before you share your billion dollar idea simply baffles me. News Flash! There is no such thing as a perfect time to do anything. The perfect time is when you decide to act; the perfect time is now!

Your goal is to not keep your ideas to yourself; if you do, the world around you will continue to lose out on the opportunity to benefit from your brilliance. Your ideas could save lives, time and even alter the world as we know it. Imagine what life would be like if Mark Zuckerberg said, “I’ll keep facebook to myself and not share it with the world until it’s absolutely perfect”. Today, most of us cannot imagine life without facebook.

Don’t be afraid to share and execute your ideas; ask yourself, what do I have to lose? The answer will always be, nothing at all.

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Morning Cup of Joe – What is Failure?

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Here’s one thing I’ve learned since I’ve been blessed to occupy this earth suit; I’ve learned that you are going to fail at some things. I’ve learned that if you try at anything, you will always reach one of two outcomes; a win or a loss. While most people hope for a win, the chances for a loss are just as equal. With that said, I want you to understand that a loss does not dictate who you are nor does it dictate who you will be in the future.

Failure is not a person, it’s simply an event. While it is possible for a person to fail at an attempt at something, contrary to popular belief, it is impossible for a person to be a failure. Unless and until they accept such nonsense as their truth, which is highly inadvisable. Failure teaches us to go back to the drawing board and start again until the outcome is favorable.

Remember this fact; failure is not falling down, it’s staying down. Understand that you will encounter defeat; it’s truly a part of life. Allow your defeats to build character and let your bruises remind you of this beautiful journey towards success. Maintain a firm understanding that if you fall, getting back up is the only other option. Be humble through your wins and learn as much as you can from your losses.

Fall seven times, stand up eight. – Japanese Proverb

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Morning Cup of Joe – Hidden Blessing

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I know it may not seem that way sometimes but if you look closely you will notice that every cloud has a silver lining. Yes, it is true that this particular cloud or clouds may be blocking your view of the sun but aren’t all clouds are temporary? Simply, there is something to be said about how you look at your circumstances. It may not be as bad as you perceive it to be.

The other day a friend and I went to grab some lunch downtown after moving a few items. As we anticipated the food we were going to devour we took turns exclaiming how starved we were. We turned a corner and there lied a destitute man with no shoes and withered clothing who was obviously homeless. He was sleeping on a bench surrounded by bags filled with his worldly items. His face was weathered from all of the storms he had lived through and his body clearly suffering from lack of proper nourishment.

As we headed towards the restaurant I couldn’t get that image out of my head. While we felt we are starving we at least knew that it was temporary and were going to remedy that issue immediately because we had the capacity to do so. The man on the bench put everything into perspective; you may think you have it bad and that your problem is the biggest one in the world but someone else is going through worse. While that doesn’t make your problem any less important than the next and it certainly doesn’t solve it, it should help you understand the dynamics of your situation and help put things into perspective. Simply, while it could be better it could always be much, much worse.

Thank goodness for all of the blessings that are bestowed upon you and be even more thankful for the challenges you face in life. For it is in solving a problem, overcoming an obstacle, and beating the odds where our incredible strength to endure and carry on comes from. You have made it this far and this is truly the beginning. No problem is too great to solve, ask Albert Einstein. Take a step back, assess the situation, create a plan then execute until your desired results are met. It’s that simple.

Do not allow an issue, problem or challenge to be greater than the blessing that comes from overcoming it.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Learning From Losses

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There aren’t too many folks who enter a competition innately expecting to lose. While this may seem obvious, many people actually believe they will lose before throwing their hat in a race. The issue isn’t with the fact that most people count themselves out before jumping in, it’s that we don’t learn from the losses. There is something to be said about learning a lesson after each experience no matter the outcome; win or lose.

The greatest difference between a win and a loss is the lesson you choose to learn from that particular experience. Just because you win doesn’t meant there aren’t lessons to be learned. A couple of key questions that deserves an answer after a disappointing loss are “why” and “what”. If you ask “why” this particular situation ended up the way it did and “what” you could’ve done differently then you are less likely to repeat those errors that initially contributed to the loss. The same formula works with a win. Visionaries are quick learners and always ask what they can do differently that will yield different results.

Losers are devastated after a loss while winners understand that in order to conquer the world it takes winning one battle at a time. Losers fight battles they know they can win while winners understand the importance of accepting a challenge; great or small. Every experience has a lesson. It doesn’t matter if you win or lose, it’s how you analyze and execute the game. Learn to understand the key differences and similarities between your wins and your losses and you will be able to have a greater influence on your outcomes.

Losers fight until they are tired and winners fight until they’ve won.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Your Value

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What is your stock value? Many people allow others to determine their stock value by simply regarding the situations that occur in their lives as strictly happenstance. Simply, while they may be the principle subject of the book, they are not the author; be the author of your own book. It can be very difficult to determine a particular stock’s value if we don’t have adequate product knowledge enough to articulate the highlights of the commodity; the commodity in this case is you. You are the only person who can determine your worth; do not allow others to do that for you. Your worth is determined by your works.

If your stocks are in a holding pattern or have been decreasing overtime, this must mean that you haven’t adjusted with the times. Every great CEO of a corporation understands that in order to be successful they must not only be willing to do whatever it takes to ensure success but also invest countless hours into perfecting their product or service. If you want others to believe that you’re human stock value is of blue chip caliber, you’d better start investing time into increasing your value every day. Accept the fact that high quality stocks are the ones that are forever evolving and are forever improving.

Lastly, your self-worth or human stock value is determined by the company you keep. If you are the best person in your group, you need to find a new group. Do not be misled; I am not saying to dump all of your underperforming friends, I am saying to reevaluate the people you allow to influence your value. Birds of a feather typically flock together. The people around you should constantly motivate you to be better than you already are; this is another thing that has a major impact on determining your stock value. While most people are satisfied with the status quo, I am always looking for ways to better myself and so should you.

I challenge you to rededicate yourself to increasing your stock value by investing countless hours in improving yourself in every way on each and every day.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Who Are You?

She stands in front of the mirror staring at herself wondering if anything has changed. She has an image of what she feels she is supposed to look like buried in her head yet that image is incongruent with how she sees herself in reality. With eyes wide open, a hopeless gaze overcomes her eyes as she stares hopelessly at the image in front of her. She wonders why her body hasn’t changed, not taking into consideration that it has been over six months since she last visited a gym. You cannot reasonably believe and/or expect that your circumstances will change if you are not the change agent.

We have all had the unpleasant experience of having to face the man-in-the-mirror and questioned the person staring back at us. We consistently make the error of comparing ourselves to others; wondering why God did not bless us with what He seemed to freely give to them. Learn to accept the person you are. You are made in his image, and according to Him, you are perfect. If you believe that he does not make mistakes and he made you than surely you realize that he did not make a mistake when he made you. Learn to love yourself unconditionally.

Although it is important to strive for perfection, it is equally important to understand that no one is perfect. Nope; not even the person you imagined after you read that statement. Not even them. Everyone wishes they could improve some aspect of their lives. I encourage you to continuously seek opportunities that will make you better. There is nothing wrong with how you were created; you must honor and protect your temple. You already know what you have to do if you are unsatisfied with your situation; do something about it. It’s not enough to simply wish things were different; you must take charge and influence the change you seek.

It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not. – Author Unknown

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Morning Cup of Joe – Stand Up

Here’s one thing I’ve learned since I’ve been blessed to occupy this earth suit; I’ve learned that you are going to fail at some things. I’ve learned that if you try at anything, you will always reach one of two outcomes; a win or a loss. While most people hope for a win, the chances for a loss are just as equal. With that said, I want you to understand that a loss does not dictate who you are nor does it dictate who you will be in the future.

Failure is not a person, it’s simply an event. While it is possible for a person to fail at an attempt at something, contrary to popular belief, it is impossible for a person to be a failure. Unless and until they accept such nonsense as their truth, which is highly inadvisable. Failure teaches us to go back to the drawing board and start again until the outcome is favorable.

Remember this fact; failure is not falling down, it’s staying down. Understand that you will encounter defeat; it’s truly a part of life. Allow your defeats to build character and let your bruises remind you of this beautiful journey towards success. Maintain a firm understanding that if you fall, getting back up is the only other option. Be humble through your wins and learn as much as you can from your losses.

Fall seven times, stand up eight. – Japanese Proverb

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