Morning Cup of Joe – Don’t Be Afraid to Fail

Failure 2Do you ever wonder why there are only a handful of people in the world who experience off the charts success? Well, I have and I’ve discovered there is a really good reason for that. One of the main reasons why only a few people experience this type of success is because they do not stop at the first sign of failure nor do they stop at the first sign of defeat. They keep going! Unfortunately, most people want the fruits that are available for someone who commits themselves to hard work but are not willing to commit themselves to the hard work necessary to bear the fruit. Hard work is only half the battle, the fear of failure is the other side of the coin.

The main reason why so many people don’t try is because they are afraid to fail. It’s as simple as that. They are afraid that if they try they may not succeed. My question to those people is “How do you know if you’ll succeed or not if you never try?” Theodore Roosevelt once said “It is hard to fail but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.” I believe that 100%. Failure sucks but not trying because you are afraid is far worse.

Failure is one of the most difficult experiences anyone can experience. No one wants to experience failure; not even me. Yet I know and understand that failure shows up right before a win; sometimes several times. When Thomas Edison and his team of talented engineers were trying to figure out how to bring light through a light bulb, they failed hundreds of times. That did not stop them. He said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” It is because of the way he viewed failure coupled with great tenacity and an unwillingness to accept failure or defeat that we can flip a switch and say “Let the be light” and it actually works. That is the risk you must be willing to take if you want to be successful; the risk of ongoing failure.

In order to be successful you must take risks including the risk of failure. Failure is inevitable, success is not. The good news is, one typically comes before the other. The fear of failing can be debilitating, it can also be a great motivator. Remember that F.E.A.R. is simply false evidence appearing real. We create our own barriers to success. The main barrier to success is the fear of failing. Do not be afraid.

    A few of my favorite quotes on the fear of failing…

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, and how you can still come out of it.” – Maya Angelou

“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.” – JK Rowling

“There is only ONE THING that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” – Paulo Coelho

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Morning Cup of Joe – F.E.A.R.

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So many people waste so much time at the line wondering if their shot is going to go in. The issue comes when you think so much that you neglect to act. If you don’t take the shot, eventually time will run out on the clock and the game may be over. This metaphor is a direct reflection of our lives. Most people have the necessary tools at their disposal to create anything they want yet are afraid or unwilling to simply try or do. Stop worrying about whether you will MAKE or MISS the shot, you’ll never know until you TAKE the shot!

A self-induced scare tactic is when you talk yourself out of a situation simply because you are afraid of the outcome. I read somewhere that FEAR stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear can only control what you allow it to control. The false evidence is what we create in order for it to appear real yet some lack the skill of discernment necessary to determine its validity. Simply, fear nothing. Most of us refrain from acting because we believe what we fear is real when in actuality it is not. We create our own fears and thus are the only ones who can eradicate them.

You are standing at the edge of a cliff yet cannot see the bottom. Do you jump? You never know if you will land on a bed of pillows or a bed of thorns but you will never know until you JUMP! Don’t be afraid to follow your dreams. Do not allow fear to get in the way of accomplishing your goals. Understand what role fear plays in this quest of dream realization and your dreams will be realized much sooner. Fear should merely motivate us to act not distract us from the overall goal of winning.

Remember, the greater the risk the greater the potential reward.

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Morning Cup of Joe – Fear Factor

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So many people waste so much time at the line wondering if their shot is going to go in. The issue comes when you think so much that you neglect to act. If you don’t take the shot, eventually time will run out on the clock and the game may be over. This metaphor is a direct reflection of our lives. Most people have the necessary tools at their disposal to create anything they want yet are afraid or unwilling to simply try or do. Stop worrying about whether you will MAKE or MISS the shot, you’ll never know until you TAKE the shot!

A self-induced scare tactic is when you talk yourself out of a situation simply because you are afraid of the outcome. I read somewhere that FEAR stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear can only control what you allow it to control. The false evidence is what we create in order for it to appear real yet some lack the skill of discernment necessary to determine its validity. Simply, fear nothing. Most of us refrain from acting because we believe what we fear is real when in actuality it is not. We create our own fears and thus are the only ones who can eradicate them.

You are standing at the edge of a cliff yet cannot see the bottom. Do you jump? You never know if you will land on a bed of pillows or a bed of thorns but you will never know until you JUMP! Don’t be afraid to follow your dreams. Do not allow fear to get in the way of accomplishing your goals. Understand what role fear plays in this quest of dream realization and your dreams will be realized much sooner. Fear should merely motivate us to act not distract us from the overall goal of winning.

Remember, the greater the risk the greater the potential reward.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Nothing to Fear

During the 1930’s, the great depression was in full swing and fear was rampant. At his inaugural presidential address, Franklin D. Roosevelt’s words to the American people were as timely then as they are now. His words are so poignant that they are permanently etched into history and are displayed at the Roosevelt Monument in Washington DC. A brief excerpt of his speech is as follows; “This great Nation will endure as it has endured, will revive and will prosper. So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself—nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.” Pay close attention to his definition of fear.

Fear of the unknown prevents us from moving forward. There are things you are thinking about doing yet are afraid to make the first move because you don’t know what the outcome will be; do it anyway. That fear you feel, unless transferred into fuel to drive you to achieve your goals, is unhealthy. Fear can paralyze you if you let it or motivate you as it should. In addition, fear is not real. It is a perceived danger based on the unfamiliarity of the present and uncertainty of the future. You fear what may happen tomorrow even though it is not happening now. A popular acronym for F.E.A.R. is False Evidence Appearing Real.

Allow your fear of the unknown to encourage you to at least try. Don’t be afraid to take a chance and risk it all on one move; the dividends may be well worth the risk. I have taken countless risks in my life; from starting my own company without any assistance to moving to several major cities without any support yet those decisions have landed me where I am today. Was I fearful, worried, and concerned that I may fail? Sure I was. Was that a belief of mine? Absolutely not. I believed that if I take a risk, the payoff will always be greater than the risk itself; it always is.

Don’t let fear keep you from being your best self and living your best life. Fear is not real and overcoming it is easier than you think. Look your fears in the eyes and declare victory. You were born to win and there is nothing anyone or anything can do to change that.

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Morning Cup of Joe – Cool, Calm & Collected

Remaining calm under pressure is a necessary leadership and life skill strengthened by overcoming situations that test your patience. You have been and will continue to be in situations where your patience will be tested. Some situations, issues and problems are designed to test your ability to remain calm during episodes of calamity. It doesn’t matter if a firestorm is brewing inside of you; your primary goal should be to always look cool, calm and collected on the outside. Perception is reality.

When you are under extreme pressure it is easy to simply throw your hands in the air and adopt a “who cares” attitude. It is easy to allow the pressures of the world to break you down and pick you apart piece by piece. It is easy to let your opponent win especially if you allow the pressure of the moment to force you to easily give up. Unfortunately, this type of attitude is not conducive to winning and finding solutions nor will it invite the possibilities that come with keeping a level head.

Like a prize fighter, focus on the final round and finishing strong. The rounds where you may have been knocked down don’t matter as much as the final round where you ultimately determine the outcome. Never let them see you sweat. No matter how tough it may be or how hard the situation may seem, don’t give anyone including your problems the satisfaction of thinking that they “got to you” or was able to throw you off course.

Stare doubt, fear and uncertainty in the face and declare victory over them. You are a champion and champions are able to rise above and stay above the fray. Your ability to remain calm under pressure will determine a majority of the outcomes in your life. Pressure has the ability to bust lead pipes; adopt a steel mentality and you will be able to handle anything that comes your way.

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Morning Cup of Joe – Fear Nothing

During the 1930’s, the great depression was in full swing and fear was rampant. At his inaugural presidential address, Franklin D. Roosevelt’s words to the American people were as timely then as they are now. His words are so poignant that they are permanently etched into history and are displayed at the Roosevelt Monument in Washington DC. A brief excerpt of his speech is as follows; “This great Nation will endure as it has endured, will revive and will prosper. So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself—nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.” Pay close attention to his definition of fear.

Fear of the unknown prevents us from moving forward. There are things you are thinking about doing yet are afraid to make the first move because you don’t know what the outcome will be; do it anyway. That fear you feel, unless transferred into fuel to drive you to achieve your goals, is unhealthy. Fear can paralyze you if you let it or motivate you as it should. In addition, fear is not real. It is a perceived danger based on the unfamiliarity of the present and uncertainty of the future. You fear what may happen tomorrow even though it is not happening now. A popular acronym for F.E.A.R. is False Evidence Appearing Real.

Allow your fear of the unknown to encourage you to at least try. Don’t be afraid to take a chance and risk it all on one move; the dividends may be well worth the risk. I have taken countless risks in my life; from starting my own company without any assistance to moving to several major cities without any support yet those decisions have landed me where I am today. Was I fearful, worried, and concerned that I may fail? Sure I was. Was that a belief of mine? Absolutely not. I believed that if I take a risk, the payoff will always be greater than the risk itself; it always is.

Don’t let fear keep you from being your best self and living your best life. Fear is not real and overcoming it is easier than you think. Look your fears in the eyes and declare victory. You were born to win and there is nothing anyone or anything can do to change that.

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