Morning Cup of Joe – Heartbreak Hotel

Heartbreak is inevitable but it isn’t the end of the world. Have you recently experienced a loss? Have the wounds healed or are you still scarred from the experiences of a past relationship? Did you wake up this morning thinking to yourself if life will ever get better? Well I have great news for you, it absolutely will. Your life will absolutely get better, if and only if you believe that it will and commit yourself to ensuring that it does. Coping with a loss of any kind is tough to deal with. Unfortunately, the right formula to heal you fast enough doesn’t exist and there is no magic button that you can press to make it go away. What you should focus on is what you have control over; today and tomorrow.

We are not responsible for the challenges life throws our way but we are responsible for how we choose to respond to them. How are you choosing to react and respond to your situation?

There is no set time for someone to get over an experience that may have broken their hearts. It could take days, weeks, months and in some cases years to get over a traumatic experience. The bright side of that is time truly does heal all wounds.

Sooner than later, you will overcome the obstacle that is in your way, you will run out of tears to cry and the memory of the experience will not have the same impact it initially had. It may still hurt a bit but it wont be as bad.

Sooner than later, you will be able to turn this heartbreak into an opportunity to be better you.

Remember what doesn’t kill us, only makes us stronger.

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Joe Paul

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Morning Cup of Joe – Happiness From Within

When we try to please people we become their slaves. We become their slaves because everything we do is to ensure their own happiness. The problem with that equation is that you are forfeiting your own happiness for the happiness of others. With the exception of a spouse, you must ask yourself; “If I’m trying to please everyone, who is trying to please me?” Chances are the answer is no one.

Don’t get caught up in trying to make everyone happy. I know I always say that anything is possible but this is the exception. It is impossible to make everyone happy. In fact, that should never be a goal of yours. Shift the focus to yourself; work on making yourself happy. Your ultimate goal is to try to please God anyway, not man.

Think of your life as a subway train and you’re the conductor. You have a finite destination and many people will come into your life along the way; some will get off early, some may never get on and very few will ride with you until the end. At any rate, at all times focus on the destination. Bill Cosby once said, “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody”. Remove that need of wanting to make everyone happy; you simply can’t.

Happiness comes from within; you cannot reasonably expect someone else to fill that void.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Smile! It’s Contagious!

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Whatever you do, don’t take life so seriously. I often sit and watch others expressions on their faces as they walk pass me. Whether I’m in a crowded subway or a quaint and cozy coffee shop, most people never take the time to smile. You can absolutely tell who is having the worst day of their lives just by their facial expression. You truly only have one life to live so why not enjoy it while you’re here.

Life is too short to be angry. There aren’t too many things in the world that upset me. In fact, I can’t think of one. You may be thinking, “C’mon Joe, nothing upsets you?” My answer will still be no. Here’s why. We are not responsible for others actions towards us. However, we are responsible for how we react to their actions. I simply choose to react sensibly, reasonably and with the idea that I cannot let someone else control my feelings. I am in complete control.

A very good friend always says, “You attract more bees with honey than you do with a fly swatter”. If you aren’t attracting the right kind of attention, it is because you are not projecting that which you seek. A smile always attracts a smile. It takes little to no effort to smile. If you want to be happy, you must choose happiness and the rest will fall into place.

Take a moment right now to smile. See how good that feels? I challenge you to smile more often despite what your circumstances may be. I smile even when frowning may be the “normal” response to a particular situation. Remember, life is meant to be lived to the fullest; you can’t do that if you’re unhappy.

Smile; it’s contagious and it’s attractive.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – A Choice

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Do you ever wonder why some people seem to have it better than others? Do you ever find yourself asking why is that person smiling and what are they so happy about? Do you ever get upset when you see others experiencing happiness? If you answered yes to any of the aforementioned questions then your change starts now.

The truth is I used to wonder the same thing. I would walk into a restaurant or a public place and wonder what was making some folks so happy. I too would ask why they are smiling. Then one day it clicked; instead of wondering why someone else is happy or what is causing them to feel that way why not just worry about what I need to be happy. What I started to do was smile more often even if I had nothing to smile about. By virtue of being on this side of the dirt is reason enough to smile.

A great friend once told me, “You attract more bees with honey”. Simply, the sweeter you are in your disposition, the more attractive you will be to others. Most of us carry fly swatters around and wonder why we aren’t attracting any bees. Change your attitude and you’ll change your circumstances. You have every reason to be happy. Your happiness will never come from material things nor will they come from others; happiness is a choice you make to feel that way in spite of what your circumstances may be.

The reason why many people attract negative energy into their lives is because they have bad attitudes. Understand that the world responds reciprocally and like always attracts like. If you want the benefits that come from being happy then you must start by choosing happiness; happiness really is a choice.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Happiness

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When we try to please people we become their slaves. We become their slaves because everything we do is to ensure their own happiness. The problem with that equation is that you are forfeiting your own happiness for the happiness of others. With the exception of a spouse, you must ask yourself; “If I’m trying to please everyone, who is trying to please me?” Chances are the answer is no one.

Don’t get caught up in trying to make everyone happy. I know I always say that anything is possible but this is the exception. It is impossible to make everyone happy. In fact, that should never be a goal of yours. Shift the focus to yourself; work on making yourself happy. Your ultimate goal is to try to please God anyway, not man.

Think of your life as a subway train and you’re the conductor. You have a finite destination and many people will come into your life along the way; some will get off early, some may never get on and very few will ride with you until the end. At any rate, at all times focus on the destination. Bill Cosby once said, “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody”. Remove that need of wanting to make everyone happy; you simply can’t.

Happiness comes from within; you cannot reasonably expect someone else to fill that void.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Joy of Happiness

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Do you ever wonder why some people seem to have it better than others? Do you ever find yourself asking why is that person smiling and what are they so happy about? Do you ever get upset when you see others experiencing happiness? If you answered yes to any of the aforementioned questions then your change starts now.

The truth is, I used to wonder the same thing. I would walk into a restaurant or a public place and wonder what was making some folks so happy. I too would ask why they are smiling. Then one day it clicked; instead of wondering why someone else is happy or what is causing them to feel that way why not just worry about what it takes for me to be happy. What I started doing was making a conscious effort to smile more often even if I had nothing to smile about. The simple fact that you are on this side of the dirt is reason enough to smile.

A great friend once told me, “You attract more bees with honey”. Simply, the sweeter you are in your disposition, the more attractive you will be to others. Most of us carry fly swatters around and wonder why we aren’t attracting any bees. Change your attitude and you’ll change your circumstances. You have every reason to be happy. Your happiness will never come from material things nor will it come from others. Happiness will always be a choice you make in spite of your circumstances.

The reason why many people attract negative energy into their lives is because they have bad attitudes. Understand that the world responds reciprocally and like always attracts like. If you want the benefits that come with being happy then you must start by choosing happiness; happiness really is a choice. How have you been choosing to react to your circumstances?

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Cost of Happiness

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A recent study found that there is no significant difference in the level of happiness between individuals who earn $50,000 per year in income and someone who earns $50,000,000. I find this fascinating because most people define happiness based on the accumulation of wealth falsely adopting a mindset of and sincerely believing that the more money they make or have the happier they will be. Fortunately, that could not be further from the truth. Happiness is a choice and is not defined by the stuff you have but by the love you give.

The happiest among us are those who appreciate what they have, are not concerned with this feeling of excess or need to acquire things and those who have good and close relationships with friends and family. Nothing and no thing can bring you happiness. You may think that having a nice car, precious jewelry or fancy clothes will bring you happiness but it truly does not. What those “things” give you is fleeting pleasure but not long-lasting happiness.

Happiness comes from the service we provide for others and the consideration we show for our fellow man. Doesn’t it feel good to give or do for someone else? Of course it does. Do not be so hung up on the idea that you need to be rich in order to be happy. Choose happiness right where you sit by first appreciating the life you live and everything in it. Contrary to popular belief, what makes you rich isn’t the amount of money you have. What makes you rich is love and being at peace with oneself; not having a whole bunch of cash, things or stuff.

Reevaluate your idea of what it means to be rich and wealthy and start appreciating all of the blessings you currently have in your life. It doesn’t matter how much money you have, you will never be able to buy happiness.

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Joe Paul

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