Morning Cup of Joe – Ignore the Naysayers

Ignore2In 1773, Phyllis Wheatley became the first Black person to publish a book.

In 1872, Victoria Woodhall became the first woman to run for president of the United States.

On May 6, 1954 Roger Bannister became the first man to run a mile in under four minutes.

In 2008, Barack Obama became the first Black President of the United States of America.

You may be wondering what exactly is so significant about these facts. What do these facts have in common? Simple, they are all firsts. What’s significant is the fact that they became the first to ever do it. Meaning there was no framework or “how to” guide to describe steps that one should take in order to experience the success that these folks have experienced.

Another thing these firsts have in common is the fact that 1) they had an unequivocal belief that winning was possible; 2) they ignored the naysayers; 3) They were crazy enough to believe in their dreams.

There are many factors to consider when measuring the success of a person. One major factor is that most successful people refuse to surround themselves with people who do not dream as big or bigger than they do. Winners surround themselves with people who believe that ANYTHING is possible. If you have people in your circle who constantly try to bring you down or downplay your dreams, you must separate yourself from them. If you can’t do it physically, separate yourself from them mentally.

During your journey towards success, it is imperative that you understand naysayers are absolutely unavoidable. The main issue with naysayers is that their vision is limited and/or nonexistent. They do not possess the same wherewithal to see past today and into a future overflowing with possibilities. They cannot see what you can. They do not believe the same way you believe. Thus, they will not be able to achieve what you inevitably will.

It takes a very special person to create a way where there was seemingly no way. To travel places that they had no idea even existed. To reach for the stars when they cannot even see past the glass ceiling. To think bigger than their limitations. To take unconventional routes through a conventional system. To unequivocally believe without a shadow of a doubt that anything is possible. Are you that special person?

The one thing that you cannot stop nor control is other peoples opinions about your life. People will share their opinions because it doesn’t cost them anything. Your job is to ignore anyone who does not support your dreams and goals. You are going to run into people who will discourage you from seeking out your goals simply because they lack the ability to dream themselves.

If you believe in your dreams you must be willing to do whatever it takes to make them possible. You must work like hell, trust yourself, dream big and ignore the naysayers. Believe that ANYTHING is possible and it shall be so.

When the world tells you “you can’t” because it’s never been done before, use that as motivation to show them why it’s possible.

If its never been done before, it simply means you have an opportunity to be FIRST.

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Joe Paul
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“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

Morning Cup of Joe – Don’t Be Afraid to Fail

Failure 2Do you ever wonder why there are only a handful of people in the world who experience off the charts success? Well, I have and I’ve discovered there is a really good reason for that. One of the main reasons why only a few people experience this type of success is because they do not stop at the first sign of failure nor do they stop at the first sign of defeat. They keep going! Unfortunately, most people want the fruits that are available for someone who commits themselves to hard work but are not willing to commit themselves to the hard work necessary to bear the fruit. Hard work is only half the battle, the fear of failure is the other side of the coin.

The main reason why so many people don’t try is because they are afraid to fail. It’s as simple as that. They are afraid that if they try they may not succeed. My question to those people is “How do you know if you’ll succeed or not if you never try?” Theodore Roosevelt once said “It is hard to fail but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.” I believe that 100%. Failure sucks but not trying because you are afraid is far worse.

Failure is one of the most difficult experiences anyone can experience. No one wants to experience failure; not even me. Yet I know and understand that failure shows up right before a win; sometimes several times. When Thomas Edison and his team of talented engineers were trying to figure out how to bring light through a light bulb, they failed hundreds of times. That did not stop them. He said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” It is because of the way he viewed failure coupled with great tenacity and an unwillingness to accept failure or defeat that we can flip a switch and say “Let the be light” and it actually works. That is the risk you must be willing to take if you want to be successful; the risk of ongoing failure.

In order to be successful you must take risks including the risk of failure. Failure is inevitable, success is not. The good news is, one typically comes before the other. The fear of failing can be debilitating, it can also be a great motivator. Remember that F.E.A.R. is simply false evidence appearing real. We create our own barriers to success. The main barrier to success is the fear of failing. Do not be afraid.

    A few of my favorite quotes on the fear of failing…

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, and how you can still come out of it.” – Maya Angelou

“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.” – JK Rowling

“There is only ONE THING that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” – Paulo Coelho

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Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – Trust Yourself

Trust YourselfOne of the greatest barriers to success is placing your trust in someone else’s opinions about what you should do with your own life. Everyone will have an opinion as it relates to your life but only yours matter. Often times we seek out the advice and guidance of others to help direct our path, all the while we are the answer to the questions we’ve been asking all along. One of the most important factors to experiencing wild success is trusting yourself.

Growing up, my mother would constantly say how proud she would be if her baby boy ever became a doctor. I didn’t think her vision for my life was far-fetched nor did I think it was unreachable; it just wasn’t my goal. It wasn’t a future I envisioned for myself. Now don’t get me wrong, I had no idea that I would become a keynote speaker either. My goal was simply to use the gifts God has blessed me with to help leave an indelible mark on the world by positively affecting the lives of those whose paths I am fortunate to cross.

One of the most common mistakes we make on the road to success is talking ourselves out of inevitable blessings simply because we don’t trust ourselves enough. In my humble opinion, I do not believe that there are right or wrong decisions but rather each decision we make leads us closer to our predestined fate. Those same decisions should be yours and solely yours. Everyone is equipped with an incredible sense of intuition, always trust yours.

The fact is, right or wrong, you must live with every decision you make. It’s critically important that you trust yourself and trust that the decision you make is the right one for you. Do not be misled; am I saying not to seek the advice of others? Absolutely not. I’m just saying to trust yourself a little more. You may not even need the advice of others. The answer you seek is well within you.

The late visionary Steve Jobs once said, “Don’t let the noise of other peoples opinions drown out your inner voice.” Remember to trust yourself always.

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Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – 6 Rules of Success

SuccessAnyone who has ever amounted to anything became a diligent student of their craft. They learned the ins and outs of what makes someone successful in their industry. They’ve read countless books and articles on how to perfect their craft by learning from others who have been in their field and have experienced some form of wild success. As a keynote speaker it is incredibly important for me to learn from other successful speakers. My principle goal when studying successful people is to learn about the nuances of what works and what doesn’t when you’re on stage. I study other speakers as if it’s a final exam that I want so badly to ace.

While studying I received a phone call from one of my very good friends and I explained to him what I was doing. He explained how he is also a student in his craft and how he’s constantly learning about new things and how to be better at what he does. He is an engineer. He directed me towards a commencement speech given by Arnold Schwarzenegger to the graduating class at the University of Southern California where he was awarded an honorary doctorate degree. The speech is entitled “Six Rules of Success.”

Over the next several Morning Cup of Joe’s, I’m going to break down Arnold’s six rules in order to help you better apply it to your life and experience the wild success that Arnold has.

Arnold Schwarzenegger’s 6 Rules of Success
1) Trust yourself
2) Break the rules
3) Don’t be afraid to fail
4) Ignore the naysayers
5) Work your butt off
6) Give Back!

Here’s a link to the speech. Check it out!

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Joe Paul
Motivational Thought Leader, Corporate Trainer & Keynote Speaker

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Morning Cup of Joe – Last Minute

Procastinate3 “If you do it when you’re expected to and do it right the first time, you won’t have to worry about doing it over.” I can still hear the house mom’s voice in the group home I grew up in when I lived in Miami. She would tell us this when we had to redo our chores, which all of the youth in the home were required to do. She never made idle threats and none of us in the home were brave or senseless enough to challenge her. Well, there was one person who thought he could and was sadly mistaken. That foolish person was me.

Kim, our house mom, would always tell us that if we did not complete our chores from the day before that she would wake us up at three in the morning to complete them. We never believed that she would do it but we also never challenged her. Until one day when the list of chores stated that it was my turn to rake the leaves in the front and back yard. I had homework and a big test I was preparing for so I figured I’d get to it the next day. Kim had other plans for me.

I was fast asleep, perhaps on my second dream, when all of a sudden thunderously loud knocks began to break down the door. I looked over at the alarm clock and it was exactly three in the morning. I thought the house was on fire until I heard, “Joseph! Get up and get out there and rake those leaves like you were supposed to”. I always thought she was bluffing about that threat until I was raking those leaves at three in the morning and was still expected to go to school the next day.

That day, I was forced to understand the importance of getting a job done when you are expected to get it done. Even more so, I understood the importance of getting it done right the first time. I also learned that procrastination only delays the inevitable. Simply, you have to get it done anyway so why not get it done when you’re supposed to. Stop stalling and get it done.

There are some things that you have been putting off completing for whatever reason. Choose today to get it done. There is no reason why you should wait another minute. Get it done and get it done right the first time.

Procrastination is the thief of time. Stop waiting and start acting.

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Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – A Life Without Regrets

Life This message is inspired by the book “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying” by Bronnie Ware. This book is especially important because it focuses on people who have lived their lives and are at their final days when they start to do some serious introspection and self-evaluation. What excites me about this study is the fact that these folks were willing to share their regrets. And by sharing their regrets, it is imperative that we use them as teachable moments to ensure that we don’t experience these same doubts.

Here are the five regrets.
1) I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2) I wish I hadn’t work so hard.
3) I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
4) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5) I wish I had let myself be happier.

Of these five regrets of the dying, one of them stood out to me more than the others and also happens to be the most common regret of all; “I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” It truly takes courage to live a life that’s pleasing to God and not to your fellow man. I think it’s fair to say that when people realize that their life is almost over and look back on it that it’s much easier to see how many dreams went unfulfilled, how many friends you lost along the way and how in the end nothing really matters except for the people who love you and the people you love.

I made a commitment to myself that I will not be one of those people who chooses to live a life filled with regrets and unfulfilled promises. I made a commitment that I wouldn’t give the best years of my life to forwarding someone else’s mission and vision. I’d rather spend the rest of my life chasing my dreams then chasing someone else’s.

In the end, love is all that will matter. Don’t get caught up in the daily grind where you lose your real reason for living. Trophies will eventually tarnish, the ink on all of those degrees and certificates will eventually wear off and money runs out. All of that “stuff” really doesn’t matter. You won’t be spending your last days wishing you had worked more hours. In the end, you’ll be left with the ones you love and the ones who love you.

To The Top!
Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – It’s a Small World

Explore I think back to a conversation I had while living in Houston with an individual who’d never travelled more than five miles outside of where they were born. According to them, they really did not have any reason to explore or travel outside of their comfort zone. The elementary school, middle school and high school they attended are all within a 3 mile radius from their home. This person grew up in a small town which may explain to some degree why they never had a desire to leave. It could also explain why so many others do.

I’ve never been one to sit around and wonder what’s on the other side of the wall. I would much rather climb the wall and find out for myself. I guess you can say I have always been curious about the world around me, even as a child. I’m glad that I have not lost my childlike curiosity because this is truly what motivates me to learn more and maintain a sense of fearlessness.

Think about it for a second. Most children exhibit no fear because they don’t know what fear is. They will test their boundaries, test their limits and if you have any, they’ll also test yours. The fear of the unknown will either restrict you from learning about something that you would otherwise never have an opportunity to learn or it will broaden your horizons by introducing you to elements that you wouldn’t otherwise be exposed to. Dare to step out of your own way.

When was the last time you traveled to another state or country? When was the last time you dared to figure out what was on the other side of the wall? When was the last time you were out of your comfort zone? A winner will always have an issue with being comfortable simply because we’re always looking for ways to better ourselves. Comfort is the cousin of laziness.

There is a beautiful world out there waiting to be explored by you. There are perfect strangers out there waiting with baited breath to start a conversation with you. There are cultures that would embrace you as one of their own. There is a life that’s worth enriching through experiences gained through traveling and exploring. You can learn so much from reading but there is no substitute for real-life experience. The Eiffel tower in person is much more breathtaking than any picture can capture.

I’ve studied abroad in Spain and Russia and my life hasn’t been the same as a result of these experiences. I traveled to Haiti after the devastating earthquake to bring resources to my family and their community. I have driven cross-country from Los Angeles, California to Orlando, Florida. I’ve travelled to almost every continent except Australia & Antarctica but they’re on the list. And on almost every one of these trips I tried to talk myself out of going by creating a myriad of excuses like not having enough money, bad timing or the fact that I didn’t have one connection in some of these countries. These excuses came because I was stuck in my comfort zone. I decided to step out on faith and just do it. Some of the best decisions of my life.

There is a trip you’ve been putting off for whatever reason, stop thinking about it and just go! The world is waiting for you.

“The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only a page.” – Saint Augustine

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Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – The Power of Giving

givingIf it’s one thing I’ve learned thus far it’s that everything in life is connected in some way shape or form. And by connected I mean that there is a link between you, myself and the rest of the world. A link, in my humble opinion, that means we are responsible for one another.

If you are anything like me, you may find it difficult to walk past another human being who happens to be asking or perhaps even begging for money. If I have it in my pocket, I feel compelled to give. Sort of like it’s a requirement to share what God has blessed me with. And this may sound weird, but if I have it and decide not to give for whatever reason, I often feel guilty especially since I feel like it’s an obligation. My belief that we are all connected causes me to help because I could very well be on the difficult end of making the ask. If I don’t help, I feel as if I am interrupting the ebb and flow of the law of reciprocity.

The concept for the law of reciprocity is quite simple: what goes around comes right back around. The law of reciprocity allows us to receive as a result of what we give or do. If you are wondering why you may be experiencing lack, it is most likely because you are not giving. If you are giving yet notice that you are not receiving, then it may be because you are not giving from the heart. Mother Teresa once said, “It’s not about how much we give but how much love we put into giving.” One should not give for the sake of getting back.

To whom much is given, so much more is required. It’s not just a biblical principle; it’s a way of life.

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Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – An Ounce of Motivation

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I often sit and wonder what motivates others to succeed. What exactly is that thing? Who is the person or people that motivates them to get out of bed and take on the day? I am sure we would get a myriad of responses to these questions and some may include the accumulation of wealth, family, spouse, not wanting to fail or simply wanting to be remembered. While all of these are pretty good reasons to be motivated to succeed, I’ll share with you what has helped me and continues to help me be successful; it’s the art of self-motivation.

It’s critically important that you learn how to motivate yourself and not rely on others and/or inanimate objects. Think about it for a second, if the accumulation of wealth is your motivation to succeed then what will you do once you accumulate wealth? What will be your motivation then? At one point in my life, the only thing that mattered to me was money. All I thought about was how I could get more. I was driven by the almighty dollar. One day after some serious self introspection, I realized that money or the pursuit thereof is not a positive motivation; at least for me it wasn’t.

Today, my motivation is a healthy combination of a fear of failing mixed with a sincere desire to win and an unequivocal passion to provide for my family. That is what drives me. Wealth will always be a byproduct of success. What drives you? Who or What motivates you to be successful? Whether it’s a picture of a significant other, your children or maybe it’s money, whatever it is that motivates you to be successful always keep it in front of you. If you can see it, you can believe it and if you believe it then it shall be so.

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Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – Follow Your Heart

Follow Your Heart

I can guarantee without a shadow of a doubt that I am not the only one who has made a decision or decisions in the past that they regret. And it doesn’t necessarily have to be negative decisions but decisions that you wish you had a second chance at or the pleasure of having a proverbial reset button. Every decision we make, wrong or right, serves a light that illuminates our path.

I maintain an unequivocal belief that we are all equipped with an incredible sense of insight and intuition; I also believe that a majority of us don’t completely trust it. I can think back to several experiences in my life where I reached a fork in the road and was forced to make a decision; I think we all can. At the time, I did not know whether the decision I inevitably made would lead me on the path I’m currently on nor did I know if it would derail me altogether, yet I made a decision and didn’t look back. At the very least, make a decision. I decided to follow my heart.

During life’s beautiful journey, you will have countless people who will want to direct your path; that’s not their job to do. It doesn’t mean they don’t know where they’re going; it simply means that they don’t know where you are going. Only you can direct your path. In these instances, it is critically important that you trust yourself. People will give you advice because it doesn’t cost them anything. You are the one who has to live with the decision, not them. I’m not saying to not seek advice, I am saying to use it sparingly. Trust that the decisions you make will ultimately be to your benefit.

In the end, you only regret the chances you didn’t take, the moves you didn’t make, and the opportunities you didn’t pursue. Follow your heart; it will never lead you down the wrong path.

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Joe Paul
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