Morning Cup of Joe – 6 Rules of Success

SuccessAnyone who has ever amounted to anything became a diligent student of their craft. They learned the ins and outs of what makes someone successful in their industry. They’ve read countless books and articles on how to perfect their craft by learning from others who have been in their field and have experienced some form of wild success. As a keynote speaker it is incredibly important for me to learn from other successful speakers. My principle goal when studying successful people is to learn about the nuances of what works and what doesn’t when you’re on stage. I study other speakers as if it’s a final exam that I want so badly to ace.

While studying I received a phone call from one of my very good friends and I explained to him what I was doing. He explained how he is also a student in his craft and how he’s constantly learning about new things and how to be better at what he does. He is an engineer. He directed me towards a commencement speech given by Arnold Schwarzenegger to the graduating class at the University of Southern California where he was awarded an honorary doctorate degree. The speech is entitled “Six Rules of Success.”

Over the next several Morning Cup of Joe’s, I’m going to break down Arnold’s six rules in order to help you better apply it to your life and experience the wild success that Arnold has.

Arnold Schwarzenegger’s 6 Rules of Success
1) Trust yourself
2) Break the rules
3) Don’t be afraid to fail
4) Ignore the naysayers
5) Work your butt off
6) Give Back!

Here’s a link to the speech. Check it out!

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Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – Last Minute

Procastinate3 “If you do it when you’re expected to and do it right the first time, you won’t have to worry about doing it over.” I can still hear the house mom’s voice in the group home I grew up in when I lived in Miami. She would tell us this when we had to redo our chores, which all of the youth in the home were required to do. She never made idle threats and none of us in the home were brave or senseless enough to challenge her. Well, there was one person who thought he could and was sadly mistaken. That foolish person was me.

Kim, our house mom, would always tell us that if we did not complete our chores from the day before that she would wake us up at three in the morning to complete them. We never believed that she would do it but we also never challenged her. Until one day when the list of chores stated that it was my turn to rake the leaves in the front and back yard. I had homework and a big test I was preparing for so I figured I’d get to it the next day. Kim had other plans for me.

I was fast asleep, perhaps on my second dream, when all of a sudden thunderously loud knocks began to break down the door. I looked over at the alarm clock and it was exactly three in the morning. I thought the house was on fire until I heard, “Joseph! Get up and get out there and rake those leaves like you were supposed to”. I always thought she was bluffing about that threat until I was raking those leaves at three in the morning and was still expected to go to school the next day.

That day, I was forced to understand the importance of getting a job done when you are expected to get it done. Even more so, I understood the importance of getting it done right the first time. I also learned that procrastination only delays the inevitable. Simply, you have to get it done anyway so why not get it done when you’re supposed to. Stop stalling and get it done.

There are some things that you have been putting off completing for whatever reason. Choose today to get it done. There is no reason why you should wait another minute. Get it done and get it done right the first time.

Procrastination is the thief of time. Stop waiting and start acting.

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Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – A Life Without Regrets

Life This message is inspired by the book “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying” by Bronnie Ware. This book is especially important because it focuses on people who have lived their lives and are at their final days when they start to do some serious introspection and self-evaluation. What excites me about this study is the fact that these folks were willing to share their regrets. And by sharing their regrets, it is imperative that we use them as teachable moments to ensure that we don’t experience these same doubts.

Here are the five regrets.
1) I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2) I wish I hadn’t work so hard.
3) I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
4) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5) I wish I had let myself be happier.

Of these five regrets of the dying, one of them stood out to me more than the others and also happens to be the most common regret of all; “I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” It truly takes courage to live a life that’s pleasing to God and not to your fellow man. I think it’s fair to say that when people realize that their life is almost over and look back on it that it’s much easier to see how many dreams went unfulfilled, how many friends you lost along the way and how in the end nothing really matters except for the people who love you and the people you love.

I made a commitment to myself that I will not be one of those people who chooses to live a life filled with regrets and unfulfilled promises. I made a commitment that I wouldn’t give the best years of my life to forwarding someone else’s mission and vision. I’d rather spend the rest of my life chasing my dreams then chasing someone else’s.

In the end, love is all that will matter. Don’t get caught up in the daily grind where you lose your real reason for living. Trophies will eventually tarnish, the ink on all of those degrees and certificates will eventually wear off and money runs out. All of that “stuff” really doesn’t matter. You won’t be spending your last days wishing you had worked more hours. In the end, you’ll be left with the ones you love and the ones who love you.

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Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – It’s a Small World

Explore I think back to a conversation I had while living in Houston with an individual who’d never travelled more than five miles outside of where they were born. According to them, they really did not have any reason to explore or travel outside of their comfort zone. The elementary school, middle school and high school they attended are all within a 3 mile radius from their home. This person grew up in a small town which may explain to some degree why they never had a desire to leave. It could also explain why so many others do.

I’ve never been one to sit around and wonder what’s on the other side of the wall. I would much rather climb the wall and find out for myself. I guess you can say I have always been curious about the world around me, even as a child. I’m glad that I have not lost my childlike curiosity because this is truly what motivates me to learn more and maintain a sense of fearlessness.

Think about it for a second. Most children exhibit no fear because they don’t know what fear is. They will test their boundaries, test their limits and if you have any, they’ll also test yours. The fear of the unknown will either restrict you from learning about something that you would otherwise never have an opportunity to learn or it will broaden your horizons by introducing you to elements that you wouldn’t otherwise be exposed to. Dare to step out of your own way.

When was the last time you traveled to another state or country? When was the last time you dared to figure out what was on the other side of the wall? When was the last time you were out of your comfort zone? A winner will always have an issue with being comfortable simply because we’re always looking for ways to better ourselves. Comfort is the cousin of laziness.

There is a beautiful world out there waiting to be explored by you. There are perfect strangers out there waiting with baited breath to start a conversation with you. There are cultures that would embrace you as one of their own. There is a life that’s worth enriching through experiences gained through traveling and exploring. You can learn so much from reading but there is no substitute for real-life experience. The Eiffel tower in person is much more breathtaking than any picture can capture.

I’ve studied abroad in Spain and Russia and my life hasn’t been the same as a result of these experiences. I traveled to Haiti after the devastating earthquake to bring resources to my family and their community. I have driven cross-country from Los Angeles, California to Orlando, Florida. I’ve travelled to almost every continent except Australia & Antarctica but they’re on the list. And on almost every one of these trips I tried to talk myself out of going by creating a myriad of excuses like not having enough money, bad timing or the fact that I didn’t have one connection in some of these countries. These excuses came because I was stuck in my comfort zone. I decided to step out on faith and just do it. Some of the best decisions of my life.

There is a trip you’ve been putting off for whatever reason, stop thinking about it and just go! The world is waiting for you.

“The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only a page.” – Saint Augustine

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Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – The Power of Giving

givingIf it’s one thing I’ve learned thus far it’s that everything in life is connected in some way shape or form. And by connected I mean that there is a link between you, myself and the rest of the world. A link, in my humble opinion, that means we are responsible for one another.

If you are anything like me, you may find it difficult to walk past another human being who happens to be asking or perhaps even begging for money. If I have it in my pocket, I feel compelled to give. Sort of like it’s a requirement to share what God has blessed me with. And this may sound weird, but if I have it and decide not to give for whatever reason, I often feel guilty especially since I feel like it’s an obligation. My belief that we are all connected causes me to help because I could very well be on the difficult end of making the ask. If I don’t help, I feel as if I am interrupting the ebb and flow of the law of reciprocity.

The concept for the law of reciprocity is quite simple: what goes around comes right back around. The law of reciprocity allows us to receive as a result of what we give or do. If you are wondering why you may be experiencing lack, it is most likely because you are not giving. If you are giving yet notice that you are not receiving, then it may be because you are not giving from the heart. Mother Teresa once said, “It’s not about how much we give but how much love we put into giving.” One should not give for the sake of getting back.

To whom much is given, so much more is required. It’s not just a biblical principle; it’s a way of life.

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Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – An Ounce of Motivation

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I often sit and wonder what motivates others to succeed. What exactly is that thing? Who is the person or people that motivates them to get out of bed and take on the day? I am sure we would get a myriad of responses to these questions and some may include the accumulation of wealth, family, spouse, not wanting to fail or simply wanting to be remembered. While all of these are pretty good reasons to be motivated to succeed, I’ll share with you what has helped me and continues to help me be successful; it’s the art of self-motivation.

It’s critically important that you learn how to motivate yourself and not rely on others and/or inanimate objects. Think about it for a second, if the accumulation of wealth is your motivation to succeed then what will you do once you accumulate wealth? What will be your motivation then? At one point in my life, the only thing that mattered to me was money. All I thought about was how I could get more. I was driven by the almighty dollar. One day after some serious self introspection, I realized that money or the pursuit thereof is not a positive motivation; at least for me it wasn’t.

Today, my motivation is a healthy combination of a fear of failing mixed with a sincere desire to win and an unequivocal passion to provide for my family. That is what drives me. Wealth will always be a byproduct of success. What drives you? Who or What motivates you to be successful? Whether it’s a picture of a significant other, your children or maybe it’s money, whatever it is that motivates you to be successful always keep it in front of you. If you can see it, you can believe it and if you believe it then it shall be so.

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Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – Follow Your Heart

Follow Your Heart

I can guarantee without a shadow of a doubt that I am not the only one who has made a decision or decisions in the past that they regret. And it doesn’t necessarily have to be negative decisions but decisions that you wish you had a second chance at or the pleasure of having a proverbial reset button. Every decision we make, wrong or right, serves a light that illuminates our path.

I maintain an unequivocal belief that we are all equipped with an incredible sense of insight and intuition; I also believe that a majority of us don’t completely trust it. I can think back to several experiences in my life where I reached a fork in the road and was forced to make a decision; I think we all can. At the time, I did not know whether the decision I inevitably made would lead me on the path I’m currently on nor did I know if it would derail me altogether, yet I made a decision and didn’t look back. At the very least, make a decision. I decided to follow my heart.

During life’s beautiful journey, you will have countless people who will want to direct your path; that’s not their job to do. It doesn’t mean they don’t know where they’re going; it simply means that they don’t know where you are going. Only you can direct your path. In these instances, it is critically important that you trust yourself. People will give you advice because it doesn’t cost them anything. You are the one who has to live with the decision, not them. I’m not saying to not seek advice, I am saying to use it sparingly. Trust that the decisions you make will ultimately be to your benefit.

In the end, you only regret the chances you didn’t take, the moves you didn’t make, and the opportunities you didn’t pursue. Follow your heart; it will never lead you down the wrong path.

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Morning Cup of Joe – 88 Keys and 6 Strings

Learn Something New

88 Keys and 6 Strings

When was the last time you did something for the first time? I have always wanted to learn how to play an instrument. Specifically the piano and guitar. It’s one of the few things remaining on my bucket list that I feel compelled to accomplish. To be honest with you, it’s not even about learning to play an instrument per se but more about stimulating my brain by learning something new altogether.

Granted, learning something new can be quite challenging which is probably why most people tend to avoid doing it. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being out of your comfort zone; it forces you to learn, to adapt and to overcome. When is the last time you were out of your comfort zone? Hopefully not too long. Winners are never comfortable and are constantly looking for ways to improve. There is a sense of accomplishment and pride that also comes along with conquering a new skill.

The most important reason why you should consider learning a new skill is that you will challenge your mind and/or body to reach new and unexpectedly high levels. You’ll go places and do things that you never even thought possible. You’ll be able to push yourself intellectually and grow in all aspects of your life. You will serve as an example of infinite possibilities in a world starving for hope. You will be a better version of yourself.

Look on the bright side, many professional athletes, speakers and artists actually never knew what they were capable of until they tried something for the first time and saw great potential. I never knew if people would listen until I started speaking. What are you willing to do for the first time today? What new skill will you commit yourself to mastering?

Don’t just learn something new, master it! Don’t just master it, teach others.

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Morning Cup of Joe – Rainy Day Fund

Rainy Day Fund
Save your money for a rainy day – You’ll have more rainy days than sunny ones, trust me.

One thing we can count on parents for is advice. The unfortunate thing about it is just because they offer up advice doesn’t mean that we’ll automatically accept it; sometimes the greatest lessons are the lessons that we learn on our own. One advice in particular comes from my father who even today continues to encourage me to “save your money.” That is one lesson that I had to learn the hard way.

I’m not quite sure what causes people to spend money frivolously. To buy things that we don’t really need. To accumulate things that adds no real value to our lives. To live beyond our means just to appear as if we have it all together. All the while we’re living paycheck to paycheck hoping that we can scrape enough to pay our mortgage or rent, car note, cell phone and other monthly expenditures. Aside from real property, do we really need all those depreciating assets that we’ve been accumulating?

If you haven’t done so already, it’s critically important that you begin to save a portion of your net income for a rainy day. You never know what tomorrow will bring but if you’re prepared for it then it can certainly soften the blow. Anything can happen at any time without warning and without notice. I’ve lost my job unexpectedly before. I’ve had unexpected car issues that cost thousands of dollars. I know folks who’ve experienced unexpected medical issues. My point is you never know what can happen which is why it’s important that you must prepare.

It’s not just about saving money; it’s really about transforming the way you think about money. I’m getting to a point where I try to focus mostly on my needs than my wants. That’s really the only way I can save money. I realized that most of my money was going towards things that I wanted and really didn’t need. Let’s be honest, how many shoes can one person have? It’s a rhetorical question but most of us are guilty of buying things just because we can with no consideration for the future. That has to change.

There’s no better time to start saving for a rainy day than right now. If you don’t have a rainy day fund, start one today. You never know, it may storm tomorrow.

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Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – College Isn’t For Everyone

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College isn’t for everyone but it’s a GREAT PLAN B!
Do you need a college degree in order to be successful? Absolutely not. It also depends on how you define success. For our purposes, let’s use the universal definition of success by linking it to the attainment of profit or wealth. While there are some clear outliers like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Larry Ellison and Mark Zuckerberg, there are far more who have experienced success with a college degree than those without one. A person with a bachelor’s degree earns twice as much in a lifetime as a high school graduate. Clearly there are instances where a high school graduate will earn more than a college graduate but that is not the norm.

Sometimes I reflect on the fact that I’m an “accidental college graduate.” You may be wondering what exactly is an accidental college graduate. An accidental college graduate is one who attended and graduated from college accidentally. I say accidentally because the plan for my life was not to attend college initially. I wasn’t even supposed to go to college. No really, I wasn’t. Neither of my parents graduated high school and I did not have any real life examples of people close to me who attended or graduated from college. The highest education level for everyone I knew was a high school diploma so naturally that was my end goal.

My friends were applying to colleges all across the country and I still did not know what I was going to do with my life. With much hesitation and a bit of uncertainty, I decided to jump on the bandwagon and start applying as well. I took both the ACT and SAT late and did not score favorably on either test. That did not prevent me from applying. I received many denial letters until an acceptance from Florida State University came; what a wonderful feeling. I remember it like it was yesterday. The years that followed presented new life experiences, friendships that will last forever, unexpected paradigm shifts, complete transformation, growth, analytical and critical thinking, blood, sweat and tears. In the end, it was all worth it.

If you are reading this and are uncertain about your future, don’t be. It doesn’t have to be college that you pursue, just trust the next opportunity that comes your way and pursue it vigorously. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. once said, “Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” I had no clue what college would bring but I went anyway and it changed my life. The next time you are presented with a great opportunity, don’t even think twice about it; take it.

Don’t worry about what tomorrow will bring when there is more than enough to worry about today. Step out on faith and see where your path will lead.

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