Morning Cup of Joe – Born To Die

As I sat on the tourist filled train patiently yet eagerly awaiting my stop, I put my book down and took a moment to inspect my surroundings to see who my temporary neighbors were. To my immediate left a new couple embrace as they lovingly stare into each others eyes. Behind them an elderly man focuses intently on the stories of the day written in a semi-crumpled newspaper someone left behind as an unruly and clearly unsupervised child raced up and down the center isle of the pod.

Sitting directly across from me is a man, seemingly tired from a long days work as he unsuccessfully attempts to take a quick nap before he reaches his final destination. His weathered uniform with dusted flour stains and slightly worn cap deduced that he must be a line cook at a restaurant. What stood out most about this man was an abnormally large tattoo scribed from to the top of his forearm all the way down to where his wristwatch would normally go in a dark green hue that read “Born To Die.”

As I looked momentarily trying to avoid being caught staring, I started to wonder why anyone would get a permanent reminder of something so dreadful and uninspiring? I started to think about what his life-experiences must have been to motivate him to get this “message” tattooed on himself. How bad does life get for you to think and even believe that you were in fact born to die?

While death is a guaranteed experience that we all grudgingly yet inevitably share, I am not entirely convinced that it is something we should remind ourselves of daily. Our focus should remain on maximizing the beauty, opportunities and blessings each day presents. I truly believe that our thoughts have the incredible power to become things. I also believe that there is an immeasurable amount of power in the written word and the message you continue to drill into your head.

You create the reality in which you exist. If you want the best life has to offer, you must first believe that you deserve it then go and create it. The world has the potential to give you constant reminders that you simply dont measure up. Dont allow a third party to run your private corporation! In other words, OWN YOUR DESTINY!

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Joe Paul

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Joe Paul is an author, speaker and coach. www.JoePaulSpeaks.com

Morning Cup of Joe – We Shall Overcome

overcome3I know it may not seem that way sometimes but if you look closely you will notice that every cloud has a silver lining. Yes, it is true that this particular cloud or clouds may be blocking your view of the sun but aren’t all clouds are temporary? Simply, there is something to be said about how you look at your circumstances. It may not be as bad as you perceive it to be.

The other day a friend and I went to grab some lunch downtown after moving a few items. As we anticipated the food we were going to devour we took turns exclaiming how starved we were. We turned a corner and there lied a destitute man with no shoes and withered clothing who was obviously homeless. He was sleeping on a bench surrounded by bags filled with his worldly items. His face was weathered from all of the storms he had lived through and his body clearly suffering from lack of proper nourishment.

As we headed towards the restaurant I couldn’t get that image out of my head. While we felt we are starving we at least knew that it was temporary and were going to remedy that issue immediately because we had the capacity to do so. overcome2The man on the bench put everything into perspective; you may think you have it bad and that your problem is the biggest one in the world but someone else is going through worse. While that doesn’t make your problem any less important than the next and it certainly doesn’t solve it, it should help you understand the dynamics of your situation. Simply, while it could be better it could always be much worse.

Thank goodness for all of the blessings that are bestowed upon you and be even more thankful for the challenges you face in life. For it is in solving a problem, overcoming an obstacle, and beating the odds where our incredible strength to endure and carry on comes from. You have made it this far and this is truly the beginning. No problem is too great to solve, ask Albert Einstein. Take a step back, assess the situation, create a plan then execute until your desired results are met. It’s that simple.

Do not allow an issue, problem or challenge to be greater than the blessing that comes from overcoming it.

To The Top!
Joe Paul
Motivational Thought Leader, Corporate Trainer & Keynote Speaker

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Morning Cup of Joe – A Life Without Regrets

Life This message is inspired by the book “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying” by Bronnie Ware. This book is especially important because it focuses on people who have lived their lives and are at their final days when they start to do some serious introspection and self-evaluation. What excites me about this study is the fact that these folks were willing to share their regrets. And by sharing their regrets, it is imperative that we use them as teachable moments to ensure that we don’t experience these same doubts.

Here are the five regrets.
1) I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2) I wish I hadn’t work so hard.
3) I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
4) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5) I wish I had let myself be happier.

Of these five regrets of the dying, one of them stood out to me more than the others and also happens to be the most common regret of all; “I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” It truly takes courage to live a life that’s pleasing to God and not to your fellow man. I think it’s fair to say that when people realize that their life is almost over and look back on it that it’s much easier to see how many dreams went unfulfilled, how many friends you lost along the way and how in the end nothing really matters except for the people who love you and the people you love.

I made a commitment to myself that I will not be one of those people who chooses to live a life filled with regrets and unfulfilled promises. I made a commitment that I wouldn’t give the best years of my life to forwarding someone else’s mission and vision. I’d rather spend the rest of my life chasing my dreams then chasing someone else’s.

In the end, love is all that will matter. Don’t get caught up in the daily grind where you lose your real reason for living. Trophies will eventually tarnish, the ink on all of those degrees and certificates will eventually wear off and money runs out. All of that “stuff” really doesn’t matter. You won’t be spending your last days wishing you had worked more hours. In the end, you’ll be left with the ones you love and the ones who love you.

To The Top!
Joe Paul
Motivational Thought Leader, Corporate Trainer & Keynote Speaker

www.JoePaulSpeaks.com
Tel. :202.553.7718

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Morning Cup of Joe – Calm After The Storm

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You may find this hard to believe but I love trials and tribulations. I love challenges. I love when the going gets tough. I love having to go through difficult and challenging times in my life. I love when things seem out of control and in disarray. I love when it seems like there’s nowhere else to go and no one around to help you. I bet you’re wondering, how can anyone love all of these seemingly negative things? It’s quite simple actually, here’s why.

If you’re reading this then one can reasonably assume that you are alive. You may not be well but you are certainly alive. And if you’re alive then no situation is insurmountable. Meaning, there is no situation or circumstance too big for you to overcome. I truly believe in the saying “what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.” I love going through trials and tribulations because without these trials and tribulations there’s absolutely no way I can build the type of muscles necessary to overcome any obstacle.

What gets me nervous is when things are going well. It’s not that I don’t want things to flow smoothly, it’s just that I know with every test comes a testimony. With every loss comes a discovery. With every fall there’s a rise. The reason why I said I love experiencing trials and tribulations is because I know what naturally follows; a triumph. When things don’t seem to be going your way, embrace it and try to learn the lesson you were meant to learn from this situation. If you don’t learn the intended lesson, you are bound to experience these trials over and over again until you do.

Believe it or not, if your current situation seems unstable, unhappy or uncertain, you are in a great place! Think of your circumstances as a storm and maintain the understanding that all storms must pass. You may have to pick up the pieces once the storm has passed but that should be the least of your worries. Surviving the storm is what’s most important.

If you are going through a storm in your life, keep going!

To The Top!
Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Overcome

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The incredible strength some develop as a result of achieving in spite of the devastating events that may have occurred in one’s life is directly related to the fact that they never gave up hope that one day they would find a way out. It is also related to the fact that if you must win then quitting can never be an option. One additional major factor some people ignore is the fact that many times the trials we face are simply to test our will and endurance. What most people fail to understand is that whatever it is you are going through, it is because God knows that you are equipped to handle it.

Understand that God will never give us more than we can handle even if it seems like the problem is insurmountable. The thoughts of a successful person is to always figure a way out of their circumstances by constantly focusing on solutions rather than the problem that is in front of them. All problems have within them a solution and are meant to be solved; no exceptions. When you feel like giving up, focus on the fact that you are experiencing turmoil because you will be stronger once you overcome it. You have within you the ability to overcome any and all obstacles. Do you believe that? You should.

It is imperative that you understand that what does not kill you will only make you stronger. Simply, death as a result of your circumstances, which is the worst case scenario, is the only obstacle that is impossible to overcome. If you do not die as a result of your circumstances then you would have gained incredible strength as a result of that experience. Fortunately, most problems will not kill you. Moreover, the problems we face are designed for us to overcome them. That is how strength is developed; by outlasting and overcoming your obstacles.

All mazes have one entrance and one exit. If you are currently trapped in the proverbial maze of life, simply continue to walk until you find the exit. You may run into dead ends, turn around and try another route. Eventually, if you don’t give up, you will find your way out.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – A Child of God

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Some people act as if they are fighting their own battles. So much so, that they neglect to notice the real reason why they haven’t lost a battle. We cannot reasonably say that we have lost any battles in our lives to date, especially if we are on this side of the dirt. The fact that you are alive today is proof that you haven’t lost the battle. Keep fighting.

We all go through trials and tribulations but none of us have to go through it alone. That is a choice most of us make, thinking that we are fighting a one man battle employing the concept of “me against the world”. News Flash! The real reason why you haven’t lost a battle is because you haven’t been fighting alone. Some people may think that they are the reason why they haven’t experienced a loss but they are sadly mistaken; God is omnipresent.

Understand that some battles aren’t yours to fight to begin with. I know a King who has never lost any battles. Would you believe me if you told you that you are a child of that King? If you believe that then what does that make you? You are exactly right, you are royalty. And royalty has its privileges. Remove from your mind the idea that you are the reason you’ve been winning. Give credit where credit is due; He deserves it all.

If you truly understood the power your Father has, you would walk a little taller and embrace more challenges. Do you know who your Father is?

To The Top!
Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – From Start to Finish

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When things are meant to be, it seems as if all of the pieces start to magically fall into place. There is a test that I used to conduct just to test this theory and see if it’s true; I have never been disappointed. I first start by picking a start date, an end date and sticking firmly to both of them. Next I commit myself to ensuring that everything is in place so my desired outcomes happen on the specific date I choose, if not before. Then, almost like magic, all of the other pieces start coming together almost seamlessly.

Oftentimes, we ignore the obvious signs that are pointing us in a different direction. This happens when we try to force a square peg into a round hole; it simply won’t fit. Learn to quickly recognize which steps are ordained and which ones are not. You will know if what you’re doing is the right thing to do if you experience very little resistance or obstacles along the way.

I firmly believe that God wants to see His children succeed. I seriously doubt we were placed on this earth to fail. Walk in the understanding that God’s got your back. Work on creating a plan of action then work even harder on the execution of this plan. If you start, God will help you finish.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Too Stressed

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I have been alive long enough to know that our time on this earth is limited. We are constantly reminded of how blessed we are when we open our eyes each morning. Each time God wakes you up, always remember that there are some people who weren’t so lucky. We tend to think, if not believe, that our problems are larger than they appear. We allow these same problems to create an incredible amount of stress in our lives.

Life is too short to be worried about anything; you ought to be convinced that you are too blessed to be stressed. Conversely, you leave no room to receive your blessings if you are too stressed to even recognize them when they’re coming. Know that you can overcome any obstacle if you are on this side of the dirt. Spending time thinking about your issues instead of focusing on solutions will only create additional obstacles.

Do not allow your problems to stress you out to the point that you leave no room for God to enter. Your focus should not be on how big the problem seems to be or how difficult your challenges appear. Rather, focus intently on the fact that God is bigger than the sum of your problems and He created you for a purpose. Yes, your life has purpose. Your purpose will increasingly become obscure if you continuously focus on your problems rather than possible solutions.

God brought you this far, hasn’t He? There is a reason for that. Trust Him and start giving less authority to your problems and more authority to the fact that every problem has a solution; that is the only way you will position yourself to receive your blessings.

Now ask yourself, Are you too stressed to be blessed?

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Power & Authority

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There are so many people who truly don’t understand the amount of power and authority they give to their problems. The power they give to their problems is so much greater than the power they give to their blessings. In many cases, the blessings bestowed upon you up to this day are far greater than the problems you’ve experienced yet most will give their problems more authority than their blessings. When you compare the two, I would dare to say that you have had more good things happen in your life than bad. Focus on the good.

While we may be doing many things right, for some, all it takes is one bad thing to interrupt the ebb and flow of the pursuit of perfection. Always ask yourself, “What am I supposed to learn from this experience?” When negative things inevitably happen to us, it is critically important that we spend as little time as possible focused on the problem. Most people allow their problems to seem bigger than they really are. The goal is to redirect your attention and focus to what matters most; self-improvement.

It is imperative that you invest as much time and energy into counting your blessings and as little time as possible on things that you constantly worry about and cannot control. After all, worrying doesn’t change nor solve anything. Worrying about your problem is certainly not going to fix it. Worrying about your problem is not going to change the fact that you still have a problem. The goal should be not to waste precious time worrying when you could be using that same time and energy to find a solution to your problem.

Do not allow one negative event to overshadow all the positive ones in your life.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – God is Able

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Let Go & Let God only after you have exhausted all of your options. Letting go and letting God simply means you have to know when your part ends and His part begins. It is imperative that you maintain an understanding that God is in complete control. The sooner you release control over to God, the sooner He can start working on your problem or situation. Do not be misled, letting go doesn’t mean completely releasing all responsibility to God; you must absolutely do whatever it takes to make sure that the outcome you are seeking is what you help make happen.

Obviously, God will never give you more than you can handle and we have countless examples in our lives where this is true. You must also know that He will never leave you nor forsake you. The strength and security of your faith will determine whether you overcome your obstacles or not. Letting God simply means trusting God to make a way out of seemingly no way. Maintain the unwavering faith and believe that He is able and you will never be disappointed. However, faith without works is dead. Not only is it important that you have faith that God will make a way but you must also work towards that which you seek. Just like you can’t do it alone, neither can He; do your part.

Take a moment to reflect back to when He created a miracle in your life. Think back to a point in your life when you thought no hope was left and even considered quitting as an option but he came through like a clutch player in the 9th inning. God made a way before and is capable of doing it again. The fact that you are reading this is proof of one thing, you are alive. And since you are alive, understand that you are greater than the sum of your problems. Understand that you have in your corner a King that has never lost a battle; you don’t have to wait until the going gets tough to reach over and tag Him in. Do it now!

He is more than able.

To The Top!
Joe Paul