“If you do it when you’re expected to and do it right the first time, you won’t have to worry about doing it over.” I can still hear the house mom’s voice in the group home I grew up in when I lived in Miami. She would tell us this when we had to redo our chores, which all of the youth in the home were required to do. She never made idle threats and none of us in the home were brave or senseless enough to challenge her. Well, there was one person who thought he could and was sadly mistaken. That foolish person was me.
Kim, our house mom, would always tell us that if we did not complete our chores from the day before that she would wake us up at three in the morning to complete them. We never believed that she would do it but we also never challenged her. Until one day when the list of chores stated that it was my turn to rake the leaves in the front and back yard. I had homework and a big test I was preparing for so I figured I’d get to it the next day. Kim had other plans for me.
I was fast asleep, perhaps on my second dream, when all of a sudden thunderously loud knocks began to break down the door. I looked over at the alarm clock and it was exactly three in the morning. I thought the house was on fire until I heard, “Joseph! Get up and get out there and rake those leaves like you were supposed to”. I always thought she was bluffing about that threat until I was raking those leaves at three in the morning and was still expected to go to school the next day.
That day, I was forced to understand the importance of getting a job done when you are expected to get it done. Even more so, I understood the importance of getting it done right the first time. I also learned that procrastination only delays the inevitable. Simply, you have to get it done anyway so why not get it done when you’re supposed to. Stop stalling and get it done.
There are some things that you have been putting off completing for whatever reason. Choose today to get it done. There is no reason why you should wait another minute. Get it done and get it done right the first time.
Procrastination is the thief of time. Stop waiting and start acting.
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When it comes to being successful in life, all of the issues that we face bring us down to making two choices; we can either fight or we can take flight. With fighting, at least you have a chance to overcome this obstacle. However, choosing to flee from your problem doesn’t mean that it’s going to go away. It almost never does until you handle it. Our problems are designed to offer us only two possible outcomes; we can either choose to swim and stay above the water or we can allow the problem to force us to sink. Either way, they are both choices we are choosing to make. Since you now know this to be fact, choose to swim.
Choosing to swim simply means that you are not going to allow your problem to defeat you. In fact, the power we possess to change our circumstances is often handed freely to our problems. Take back control of the power you possess to change your circumstances and start finding solutions now. You have every resource you will ever need to be successful. Your greatest obstacle will always be yourself and what you allow your mind to think. A successful person’s mind always thinks of possibilities, not limitations.
Challenges in life are meant to strengthen us, if and only if we are strong enough to outlast them. It is indeed a test of endurance. You must be willing to do whatever it takes to stay above the water, even when you feel the constant tug of your problems trying to pull you under. It simply means that you must paddle harder and swim faster. Make the conscious decision to not let your problems win. With every challenge there are hidden opportunities to be better. Always search for the opportunities in your problems and shift your focus towards solution-driven thinking.
You control your destiny. You control your fate. You control your outcomes.
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There are so many people who start off strong but they never end up finishing what they’ve started. Some people fail to finish because they lack the drive, discipline and persistence necessary to see a goal through to the end. Others lose interest in the very thing they’d hoped to accomplish because it seemed to be taking a little longer than they had expected. At the top of the list are those who seek validation from others in order to gauge whether or not they should continue. If you are guilty, much like I was, there is a way out.
Before I understood the importance of persistence and the value of perseverance, I too sought out validation from others. Many of the projects I started I simply wanted people to like and if they didn’t I would inevitably scrap the whole thing or subconsciously start losing interest myself. I prayed to God to remove my need for others to like what I was doing and to free me from the need for others to validate my work and He did. I am no longer held captive by what others think and feel about me. Those things are irrelevant to my growth as an individual.
When you are passionate about a certain thing, your passion is enough fuel to drive that thing to immeasurable heights; keep your foot on the gas. Just because you may not be receiving the feedback you hoped for does not mean that it isn’t a great thing. Keep going until you get what you are looking for. It may take weeks, months and even years before the right person notices; all you need is one. Remember, no one will notice your work if you stop working.
At all times remain focused on your dreams, even if your eyes are the only pair on the prize.
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Have you ever looked through your emails to see what you sent a year, two even three or more years ago? Well, I have. Recently I was looking through some old emails and came across this tag line at the end of a friends email. Many people have quotes at the end of their emails which mean little to nothing and most of the quotes do not articulate the message the user intended. However, every now and then, you come across a gem like the quote I found. When that happens, share it. That is what I have chosen to do.
The quote at the end of the email stated “The world stands aside to let anyone pass who knows where he is going.” by David Starr Jordan. This quote could not be more true. If you know where you are going, those who don’t will automatically step aside to let you pass. Think about it. When you’re driving and the person in front of you is driving a little slower than you are, if you don’t honk, chances are they will switch lanes to allow you to pass. It works the exact same way as it relates to accomplishing your goals.
It is imperative that you continue to push forward no matter what. There will be people who try to stand in your way, keep moving! There will be roadblocks that seem to have no way through, keep moving! There will be seemingly insurmountable obstacles in your way, keep moving! If you choose to keep moving, others will have no other option but to get out of the way; especially if it looks like you know where you’re going.
When you know where you are going, no one can stand in your way!
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One of the most difficult things to do is to watch others around you continue to succeed while you seem to be in a holding pattern. You work twice as hard as the next person yet your results are not the same. You wake up early and you go to sleep late working on living the dream. I want you to understand and commit to memory that your day will come. Eventually your day will come but only if you refuse to give up on your dreams.
Understand that everything happens as it is designed to happen. If you aren’t receiving the fruits of your labor it simply means that it isn’t your season to experience harvest. Yet that should not prevent you from working as if your harvest will come tomorrow. No one ever knows when their time to shine will come. I do know this much, the people who are shining stars have one thing in common; they never gave up.
After his very first audition, Sidney Poitier was told by the casting director, “Why don’t you stop wasting people’s time and go out and become a dishwasher or something?” Poitier made a decision that day to prove that he could make it in the acting business and in 1963 he became the first and youngest Black actor to win an Oscar for Best Actor. He was also nominated 5 years prior for Best Actor. Imagine if Sidney would’ve listened to the doubters.
Your time will come if you focus on your goal and work as hard as you can for as long as you can. It matters not what others are doing to reach their goals; at all times focus on self. Truthfully, you may seem like the one who is wildly successful in the eyes of others. I want you to really think about what success looks like in your eyes and focus intently on that. Never compare the blessings of others to your own blessings; yours will never seem enough.
Don’t be afraid of failing; that’s the only way you will ever learn how to win. Successful people set high goals and will do whatever it takes to reach them. Don’t be concerned with what the next man is doing, stay in your line and race towards the finish line.
If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.
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Nearly 18 months ago, I travelled over 1500 miles by car leaving behind people, places and things in search of something new, exciting and different. This morning is unlike any other morning I’ve ever had in my entire life; this morning I woke up enlightened and wanted to share that with you. Truthfully, every morning is different and is essentially based on our perception and reception of the day which makes it a gift. I digress because this message isn’t particularly about that. This morning, I want to emphasize the importance of persistence. It is critically important that you maintain a high level of persistence in the face of danger; persistence in the face of uncertainty and persistence in the face of doubt.
The key to success is staying the course and seeing a goal through to the end. Throughout the entire 1500 mile pilgrimage, one single thought continued to rewind and play over and over again in my head; “If I keep driving, sooner or later, I’ll reach my destination”. There is so much we all can and should learn from my journey. The main lesson is, stay the course! On my way to my final destination, I encountered traffic; I watched fellow road warriors get pulled over by police officers and issued speeding tickets and I even witnessed several serious car accidents. One can reasonably parallel this road trip experience to similar experiences in our lives.
Essentially, in life we are going to experience some obstacles, trials and tribulations along the way toward the achievement of our goals. The key thing to remember is that if we stay focused on the end result, the chances of accomplishing that specific result is extremely favorable; almost 100% of the time. Keep in mind that as long as you keep grinding, keep driving and stay focused, eventually you too will reach the finish line. The goal is to not stop driving; to not stop moving; to stay busy and to work diligently until your desired end result is realized. It can be done if you stay the course.
Don’t stop until you have reached the top.
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Don’t ever start something you aren’t willing to maintain and eventually finish. It takes little to no effort to start something, perhaps that explains why so many people have so many great starts. This theory is also applicable to Olympic runners awaiting the sound of the starters’ gun. Many times, the person who takes off first or the fastest off the block isn’t always the one who ends up with the gold medal at the end of the race. The person who wins is typically the one who finishes strong.
No one will remember how you started but the world will never forget how you finished. If you are going to exhaust effort on anything affiliated with your dreams, I encourage you to focus intently on finishing. I am guilty of not finishing a few things that I’ve started, we all are. The goal is to develop and strengthen the skill of follow-through. Following through with the careful execution of any goal is the greatest gift you can give yourself.
There is an unexplainable feeling that you experience when you accomplish anything. The ultimate goal is to experience this feeling early and often. There is a way to accomplish this. Step one, finish strong. It doesn’t matter how you start, it’s how you finish that matters. It’s funny what our minds have the capability of retaining. As I write this, all I hear is an old friend’s voice echoing, “Finish Strong!” I choose to finish what I start and so should you or don’t bother starting it at all.
Be a finisher and finish strong.
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Many people have difficulty handling rejection. Naturally, no one wants to hear no. Think back to when you were a child and you would ask permission in order to acquire a certain thing, only to be told no. Most of us responded angrily, unless you grew up in my home where that wasn’t allowed. No truly meant no. There were no arguments, no jury, and one judge.
As an adult and through my vast experience with sales, I learned to develop and strengthen the muscle that allows me to transfer no’s into yeses. Initially, when I attempted to “sell” a product or service and was met with rejection, I would take it personally and become very disappointed thinking that there must be something wrong with me and my ability to sell; fortunately, I was wrong. When someone rejects us, it doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with us or our abilities, it means that it just might not be the right time. Simply, everything isn’t for everybody.
Some people are simply not interested in being accommodating by nature. Others create this imaginary force field that is designed to discourage you from offering them your product or service, even if that product is you. Those are the people I cherish the most because their “no” saves me time, effort and energy. Your goal is to reduce and limit the amount of time you spend trying to convince a “no” into transforming into a “yes”. Believe me, your efforts will be futile. The same amount of energy you put into getting a “no” is the same amount of energy it takes to get a “yes”. Some minds are simply made up; it has nothing to do with you as a person or your abilities.
Understand that every “no” simply means you’re that much closer to a “yes”. Embrace every “no” you hear because each time you hear it, focus on the “yes” that’s right around the corner. The goal is to keep going and not be discouraged by rejection. Remember, they are not rejecting you as a person; they are most likely rejecting the idea, product or service you are offering.
When you hear a “no”, dust yourself off and try again. If you don’t give up, inevitably, someone will say “yes”.
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Appreciate what you have because it could all be gone tomorrow. This relates to everything but I want to pay special attention to your employment. If you are employed, you are obviously not part of the millions of Americans who are out of work. It baffles me how little pride many people have in their work. Not only do some employed people lack pride and a good work ethic but some are even ungrateful. Ungrateful of the fact that they at least have a job to complain about.
The most foolish man is one who has a job and complains about it. Learn to recognize simple blessings. Being employed is certainly a blessing. Don’t think so? Ask someone who has been unemployed for more than a year. Instead of complaining about your job, do something about it.
I firmly believe that as easy as it is to identify a problem, it is equally as easy to identify possible solutions. If you are not happy, change your environment or change yourself.
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Problems are actually opportunities in disguise. It is critically important that you start to recognize the opportunity in your problems. Whatever the issue, you certainly cannot compare it to the end of the world. Yes, the end of the world is a bit drastic but compared to that, do you really have any problems? I’ll answer for you; no, you truly don’t. The opportunity that inevitably arises from overcoming an obstacle is what you should always remain focused on; not the problem itself. Learn to look pass the problem to find the opportunity.
Think back to a time in your life when you encountered a difficulty and how you overcame that difficulty. What did you do to overcome that particular obstacle? What is it about you specifically that made you overcome that obstacle? The answers these questions should serve as a “How to” guide to fixing your problems. The fact that you have not experienced a similar difficulty is proof that you have learned the particular lesson you were meant to learn through that experience. Even if you did experience it again, there’s a valuable lesson learned in every human experience.
Embrace the obstacles that may come your way as they are designed to increase our awareness that we are going down the right path. Most roads that are travelled are laden with bumps; the road to success is not exempt. The tools you need to get over this hump are the same tools you used to get over the last one; the only difference is the problem itself. Opportunities come several times a day, it’s up to you to recognize them as opportunities and chase after them no matter the cost. More problems means more opportunities.
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