Morning Cup of Joe – Foolish Pride

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We have all been in arguments which seemed to have no end and no solution in sight. We have all had to agree to disagree at some point in our lives; most of the time with people who we really care about. We have all been in situations where we felt hurt because of something someone said or did. During an argument, we all feel the need to win. Winning an argument has nothing to do with the person who can scream the loudest nor does it have anything to do with the person who makes the biggest threat. Winning an argument has nothing to do with winning at all.

Understand one important fact; you are not going to win every argument and it should not be a goal. The goal is to maintain cordiality at all times, especially during the times when we allow our emotions to get the best of us. Let’s face it; no one likes to lose at anything, especially arguments. If you look at it from a win/lose perspective, you will have difficulty overcoming this minor obstacle. In order to establish a win/win situation, you must be willing to be the bigger person. You must also be willing to look past the present situation and hope that tomorrow will bring the possibility of a better relationship and possible solutions.

A good friend once told me, “Sometimes being the bigger man sucks but it sure beats the alternative”; and we can only imagine what the alternative is. I am not interested in finding out and neither should you. Being the bigger person doesn’t mean that you are weak. Being the bigger person doesn’t mean that you are any less effective at arguing your point. Being the bigger person means that you made a conscious decision to move forward. Don’t lose a friend or spouse over your foolish pride. Don’t end a good relationship because your pride won’t allow you to apologize first. Be the bigger person, apologize and choose to move forward.

Not every battle is worth your energy. Sometimes we are the hardest on the people who are the closest to us simply because we want to prove a point. Prove that you can stay above the fray and be the bigger person.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Life Is Too Short

The motivation behind this message is a text message my sister sent to our entire family. At first, I didn’t know the basis behind her text but she later shared. She mentioned how a co-worker of hers had passed on unexpectedly and how important it was to forgive. The message read “If you have anyone you know you’re holding a grudge against, please let it go and forgive them.”

We all have someone or some past event that is adding extra weight to our lives due to the fact that we have not forgiven them. It is critically important that you learn how to forgive and forget in order to move forward. If you do not forgive someone who has done you wrong or mistreated you in the past, you will continue to be stagnant. You cannot turn to a new chapter if you haven’t read the previous one completely nor can you move on if you don’t turn the page. Simply, you cannot fully move on with your life if you haven’t determined nor completely dealt with what has been holding you back in the first place.

One of the most difficult things to do in life is to forgive. What’s even more challenging is to forget how someone has hurt you. Once you build up enough nerve to forgive someone, only then can you start living a more free & fruitful life. Some folks may argue that forgetting is much easier than forgiving and I there is some truth to that. However, forgetting takes little to no effort yet in still the issue remains and has not been resolved. In fact, it is possible to forgive someone and they never even know about it. You can forgive by choosing to let go of the past and forgiving all those who have trespassed against you.

The reason why you have not hit the next level is because you are holding on to the memory of someone from your past who has done you wrong. Let go of that right now today. Forgive them for their wrong doings. Forgive all those people who came in and out of your life and added no value. Forgive everyone who thought you would never amount to anything. Forgive those people who didn’t realize how special you truly are. Forgive and you will find that a more fruitful life awaits you.

Some people may say that there are certain things that are unforgivable and I disagree completely. There are certain things that may seem unforgivable, but your heart should never be one of those. Choose to forgive today because life is too short to hold grudges.

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Joe Paul

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Morning Cup of Joe – Grace To The Humble

Sometimes God has to humble us before he blesses us. Maintain the understanding that it is easier for God to lift us up when He finds us humble. The challenge many people face is that they are too prideful. There is some truth to the idiom which states that pride comes before the fall. What that simply means is that if you are too confident and are ostentatious in your ways, it is inevitable that something will happen to show you that you are not as great as you think you are. It is better for you to learn humility than it is for God to teach you.

The more humble you are the easier it is for you to receive your blessings. There is a man who was unemployed and was in search of employment for several months. He was an executive at his former company and felt as if he needed to find employment that was comparable to his last opportunity so he restricted his search to higher level employment opportunities. He solicited the assistance of temporary agencies as well in order to cast a larger net. One day a temporary agency called him and offered an opportunity with a company to serve as the receptionist. What do you think he did? Do you think he took the job? Would you have taken the job or would you falsely believe that the job was beneath you?

Well, he accepted the opportunity because he fully understood that where you start isn’t always where you finish. He also understood that sometimes God puts us in places and situations so that we can learn humility. Once you fully understand and accept this premise, then and only then will you be ready to accept the blessings He has waiting for you. This man had credentials that rivaled with the best in the corporate world yet he did not hesitate to accept a job to serve as one of the lowermost positions in the company.

One thing you must understand about opportunities is that God opens doors for those who are humble. God opens the door but it is up to you to walk through it. After working as the receptionist for a short while, he received a call to interview for the opportunity he’d been waiting for. He was blessed to have learned a lesson in humility while working as the receptionist and was ready to receive the blessing of the job he’d always wanted. Do not limit yourself because you think that you are too good to accept a job that is “beneath” you. Do not restrict yourself from blessings God has for you simply because you are too proud to accept an opportunity that will get you where you need to go.

Remember, every time we humble ourselves, we position ourselves to receive God’s grace and blessing.

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Joe Paul

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Morning Cup of Joe – Golden Opportunity

Sometimes you have to take one step back in order to take 1000 steps forward. Just because an opportunity does not perfectly match your expectations does not mean that it is not the opportunity that was meant specifically for you. Opportunities are such that you can mold them into what you think they should be. For most of us, our pride restricts us from recognizing clear and present blessings.

During a recent conversation with a friend who is actively searching for a job, I was able to discover a fundamental error in the way he was viewing his circumstances. He expressed to me that he has participated in over fifteen job interviews and has received over nine offers but none of them matched the salary he felt he should be paid based on his years of experience and his advanced degrees. He felt insulted by their offer at such a low salary. After he shared this story with me, I scratched my head and thought to myself “he turned down nine answers to his prayers”.

Had he taken one of the nine job offers, he could have easily changed the scope of that opportunity by putting forth maximum effort no matter the circumstances. Your work ethic should always speak for itself. This action will always yield positive results. So what if the salary is not up to your standards, the fact of the matter is the salary they are offering is much greater than the nothing you are currently earning. You never know if the opportunity that gets you in the door is the same opportunity that will help you climb the ladder. First you must accept the opportunity then make it what it should be.

Stop turning down blessings that are specifically meant for you. Many of you are guilty of not accepting blessings then blaming God for not giving them to you. Learn to recognize when your prayers are being answered. Just because the opportunity does not appear to be fruitful to you does not meant that it is any less of an opportunity. Understand that cream eventually rises to the top. Even if you accept an opportunity that does not meet your standards it is imperative that you work as if you are the President of the corporation and inevitably the title will catch up to the work.

Do not decline opportunities because you are too proud; your pride will keep you penniless and hungry. It’s not the opportunity that is offered to us but what we do with that opportunity that matters most.

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Joe Paul

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Morning Cup of Joe – Don’t Take It Personally

No matter how hard you try, it is difficult to force anyone to do something they don’t want to do. Moreover, it is even more difficult to get someone to see something they don’t want to see. It matters not your intentions, good or bad, if someone is not ready to receive something they simply will not. Trying to force your point of view is like a quarterback throwing to a receiver that is either not open, heavily covered or simply ran the wrong route. In either case, they won’t be able to receive or catch it no matter how accurate your throw or message is.

Most of us want nothing but the best for our friends, family and loved ones but they have to want the same thing for themselves. Conversely, you must be willing to trust the eyes of others. What I mean is simply that your eyes point outwardly and you are able to observe things that others may not be able to see or may simply have a different perspective on. Similarly, you must be opened to accepting constructive criticism and be willing to embrace opportunities of improvement.

The impasse occurs when one does not accept responsibility for their actions and are not willing to change based on the observation of others. Don’t join that group and if you already are a card carrying member, cancel your membership. You are going nowhere fast. I am more fortunate than most to have learned a long time ago to not take anything personally, especially constructive criticism. If someone offers you advice, receive it, accept it and thank them. Thank them because they think enough of you to offer opportunities where you can be better. Most people don’t have folks like that in their lives who care enough to offer them opportunities for improvement. Embrace it.

A major sign of maturity is being able to accept constructive criticism and not be offended when it is offered. Don’t take it personally.

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Joe Paul

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Morning Cup of Joe – Pride Aside

One of the toughest things to do is put your pride aside and ask for help. Perhaps a principle reason could be because you don’t want to seem vulnerable or weak in the eyes of the person you are seeking assistance from. It could be because you falsely believe that you are “strong and independent” enough to handle any challenge that may come your way. Whatever your reason, understand that everybody needs help sometimes. If you are afraid or ashamed to ask for help, how will you ever get it? While you may even believe that you can do it alone, no one who has ever experienced any level of success did so alone.

Could you try figure things out on your own? Of course you can. Keep in mind that not asking for help only makes the burden tougher to bear. Almost everyone has had to move from one home to another at least once in their lifetime. Imagine not soliciting the assistance of movers, friends or family to help you and attempting to do it yourself. Imagine trying to carry a refrigerator by yourself or move a dresser on your own. You probably can’t even imagine it because you probably wouldn’t do it. Asking for help should not be limited to certain things. When you’ve asked for help in the past, you typically received it. Didn’t you? This time will be no different.

Understand that two heads will always be better than one. Much like two hands working to solve the same problem will help achieve a solution more expediently. Your pride is what will keep you from reaching the next level. Your pride is the difference between climbing out of the hole you are currently in and spending a little more time in it. Don’t be afraid to ask for help; you never know who will come to your rescue.

Don’t allow your pride to come in between you and your blessings.

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Joe Paul

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