This message is inspired by the book “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying” by Bronnie Ware. This book is especially important because it focuses on people who have lived their lives and are at their final days when they start to do some serious introspection and self-evaluation. What excites me about this study is the fact that these folks were willing to share their regrets. And by sharing their regrets, it is imperative that we use them as teachable moments to ensure that we don’t experience these same doubts.
Here are the five regrets.
1) I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2) I wish I hadn’t work so hard.
3) I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
4) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5) I wish I had let myself be happier.
Of these five regrets of the dying, one of them stood out to me more than the others and also happens to be the most common regret of all; “I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” It truly takes courage to live a life that’s pleasing to God and not to your fellow man. I think it’s fair to say that when people realize that their life is almost over and look back on it that it’s much easier to see how many dreams went unfulfilled, how many friends you lost along the way and how in the end nothing really matters except for the people who love you and the people you love.
I made a commitment to myself that I will not be one of those people who chooses to live a life filled with regrets and unfulfilled promises. I made a commitment that I wouldn’t give the best years of my life to forwarding someone else’s mission and vision. I’d rather spend the rest of my life chasing my dreams then chasing someone else’s.
In the end, love is all that will matter. Don’t get caught up in the daily grind where you lose your real reason for living. Trophies will eventually tarnish, the ink on all of those degrees and certificates will eventually wear off and money runs out. All of that “stuff” really doesn’t matter. You won’t be spending your last days wishing you had worked more hours. In the end, you’ll be left with the ones you love and the ones who love you.
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