Morning Cup of Joe – Moving On

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Letting go doesn’t mean giving up. Just because you release yourself from a toxic relationship doesn’t mean that you’ve completely given up. In fact, you are freeing yourself from the possibility of recurring hurt and disappointment. How much hurt can you take before you decide that enough is enough? Some relationships simply run their course. Some relationships are naturally incompatible yet many of us try to force that relationship to work; this method is doomed from the start. When we try to force something that doesn’t naturally fit we will be met with countless road blocks.

When you let go of a toxic or unhealthy relationship, you are releasing yourself from the grip of one in order to open yourself to the possibility of another. Simply, when you decide to move on, you are increasing the possibility of moving forward. Relationships come and they certainly go. Some are permanent, some are not. The constant in all of this is you. You need to constantly change what you are doing and in some cases how you are doing those things until you get what you’ve always wanted. Be true to yourself. When we change our lives for the sake of others, we end up losing in the long run. The goal is to find someone who you are compatible with, someone who knows you well and someone who shares the same morals and values as you do. Most importantly, the goal is to establish a relationship with someone who loves you just for you.

Don’t be afraid to let go of the past; that is truly the only way you can progress into the future. Remember, letting go doesn’t mean giving up; it simply means you came to an understanding that there are some things that simply cannot be and perhaps were not meant to be. Just because your relationship failed doesn’t mean that you did.

Letting go doesn’t mean giving up and giving up doesn’t mean you are weak. It simply means that you are strong enough to let go.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Just Say Yes!

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There is extraordinary power that lies within this three letter word. If practiced, this word can open doors you had no clue even existed. The opposite of this word will yield a particular set of results; most likely unfavorable. The overuse of this word has been known to build bridges that will lead to the discovery of your dreams. The magic word I speak of is – Yes.

Saying yes to a challenge, especially if you are not prepared and/or are unaware of the details of the task at hand, tests your tenacity. You truly never know what this simple gesture will lead to but you must practice saying it more often. For the past few summers, I’ve facilitated a leadership and internship program for underprivileged youth. During one of the leadership sessions, the Vice President walks in and shouts, “I need one volunteer who can help me with a project?” Without hesitation, one student jumps up and enthusiastically says, “I’ll do it”! The young man had no clue what the project entailed but was willing to accept the challenge without that knowledge. That risk turned out to be one of the best decisions he has made in his young life. When he completed the small project and submitted it to the Vice President, he had an opportunity to speak to her about his aspirations. Once the conversation was complete, she informed him that she was a part of a group that selected students for full college scholarships and that she would like to nominate him to be a recipient of the award. He was beside himself, especially since he had no plans to attend college prior to this experience. That’s the power of Yes!

The power of yes is a simple gesture that leads to extraordinary outcomes. Learn to understand the power in that word and what it means to say it often. We all have examples where saying “yes” began a chain of events that eventually lead to a miracle. Are you committed to being the best? Do you deserve the very best life has to offer? Are you willing to do whatever it takes to get what you desire? I am convinced that you know the answer to these questions.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Return On Investment

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Many of us make the serious error of not investing simply because the return on our investment may take a little longer than we’d like. The investments I speak of are not the same kind of investments you would see on Wall Street yet the mathematics is the same. Invest your time and effort towards improving the lives of others and you will yield incredible returns. Just like investments, some of your returns may not be great and others may take time yet that should not keep you from initially investing.

Sometimes we have to trust the teacher within. Trust the teacher so much so that you are confident that you imparted the necessary knowledge that will take them to the next level. Oftentimes as the teacher we restrict from teaching because we are not sure if the lesson will stay with the recipient. Ask any teacher you know and they will tell you the same, just because a student is not willing to learn doesn’t mean we shouldn’t teach them. In the same token, just because someone is not willing to accept the gift of your efforts doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t give it anyway.

Trust that your efforts will make an impact. Trust that the time and resources you invest in a person will always yield great results. The world needs seed planters like yourself. The world needs folks who aren’t afraid of seeing the promise in someone even if they don’t recognize it themselves. Do not be afraid of putting in the hard work even if someone else is going to get paid. If you are not someone who gives of themselves often, make the conscious effort to change that today. In the end, since we are all connected, we all benefit.

There is so much fertile land in the world to be shared amongst the human race. There are countless people who do not recognize nor do they fully understand the incredible contributions they can make to the world. This is implicitly why we should plant a seed in others with the faith and understanding that one day, with the necessary care, effort and attention, it will grow into the tall oak tree it was destined to become. But first, we must plant the seed.

You may not be around to see the tree it will inevitably become yet that shouldn’t prevent you from planting the seed anyway.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Learning To Let Go

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GUILTY! Yes, You! You are guilty of trying to force others to see, feel, and think the way you do. You are guilty of trying to change others who are unwilling to change. You are guilty of forcing your own beliefs on countless others. We are all guilty in one way or another of attempting to convert another person yet they refuse to budge. As the old adage states, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them drink it. It’s true, you can’t.

Learn to accept that which you cannot change and face the fact that some people are going to stay who they are; you can’t change them. We must realize when we’ve reached as far as we’re allowed to go with someone. We must quickly come to the realization that we cannot force people to be who we want them to be for the simple fact that we control our own destinies. And since we control our own destiny, we should restrict from altering another person’s destiny for the sake of protecting our own.

When we try to force a horse to drink, they most likely will not. The fact of the matter is you will lead many horses to the very thing they need the most yet many will be unwilling to accept it, at that time. Eventually, the horse will have to drink the water. Similarly, we must practice patience and trust that those we lead will eventually find the way. It is not enough to blaze the trails for others to follow; we must also get out of the way. Learn to recognize when your efforts become futile, that should be the point where you decide to let nature take its course. It’s out of your hands.

Release the harness and allow the horse to drink and drink at his own pace. Simply, plant the seed.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Priorities & Options

Today, I encourage you to change the way you look at things. I also want to encourage you to take a closer look at your list of priorities. There are some things that you are making a priority that should not even have made the list. Furthermore, there are some people in your life who you are making a priority while they only consider you an option. Choose today to pull out that list and check it twice.

You know who these people are and they need to be removed from that list of top 5 that don’t even include you. How someone can have a list of priorities and not have themselves at the top of that list is beyond me. The only exceptions may perhaps be your children and your spouse and the higher power you believe in. Even with those considerations, most folks still don’t round out the top 5 with them making the list.

Once you are clear about what you will and will not take, then and only then can your intentions be made clear. Don’t put up with someone who does not treat you the way you deserve to be treated simply because you are afraid to be alone. Don’t you think you deserve better? I know you do and so do you. Reevaluate your list and consider making some changes. Sometimes we have done all we can with what we have and still nothing changes. It does not necessarily mean that we are doing something wrong; it simply means that we are directing those actions at the wrong person. The right person will respond reciprocally.

Someone will appreciate the amazing person that you are but first you have to make room to invite them in. Never make someone a priority when they only consider you an option. You deserve better.

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Joe Paul

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