During a recent life coaching session, a client contacted me because they were nervous about a position they had applied for. Naturally, we all get a little nervous when we are unsure of a particular outcome. As the session continued she said something that caused me to pause. She said “I don’t think I’m going to get the position”. My reply was simply, “How do you know?” I was very confused as to why she thought she would not get a position in which she hasn’t even interviewed for yet.
Oftentimes we talk ourselves out of opportunities because we lack the understanding that our words are extremely powerful and have the rare ability to create our reality. In addition, our thoughts have the ability to become things. Most people have difficulty understanding why they don’t win as often as others do. Some believe that they are just plain unlucky. I am here to tell you that success has absolutely nothing to do with luck and everything to do with how you think, what you say and being ready to accept challenges head on.
Like the old adage says, “As a man thinketh, so is he”. If you think you cannot accomplish something, chances are you won’t. It is imperative that you change your mindset if you are not currently experiencing the joy of accomplishment. Most winners win because they think and believe that they can. There are no secret recipes to winning. It simply starts with your self-talk; what you constantly tell yourself about your situation. At all times maintain a positive mental attitude and you will attract positive things into your life. Believe that you can and you inevitably will.
Success is reserved for those who believe they can succeed; it’s all in your state of mind. Think BIG or don’t think at all.
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It is my unwavering belief that you have two arms so that you can use one to reach back and bring someone up with you. It is true what they say; it’s lonely at the top but it really doesn’t have to be. Understand that once we have reached a pinnacle in our lives it is imperative that we give back. When we give back, we are essentially positively affecting the life and destiny of an individual. Some people lack the necessary drive, passion and discipline required to succeed. Yet there are far more who simply lack the opportunity.
You are where you are because someone gave you a chance. Someone saw that spark in your eye as you attempted to climb the ladder towards ultimate success and they made a decision to reach out and take a chance on you. You must now pay it forward. By paying it forward, you are choosing to help others who simply lack the opportunity yet possess the characteristics of someone with great potential. Sometimes it takes others to help us discover the greatness hidden within ourselves. Don’t be afraid to take the lead and help those around you discover their greatness, especially if you’ve managed to discover yours.
I strongly believe that if you give someone an opportunity to succeed, they will almost always rise to the occasion. Most people aren’t successful because they don’t seek opportunities where they can be successful. Even when they do, those who can help influence that opportunity seldom risk it on these individuals. Why is that? It’s quite simple. Some people stop chasing their dreams once they’ve reached a red light. We all know that all red lights eventually turn green, yet very few are willing to sit and wait until it does. Simply, they give up once they have reached an impasse. It’s difficult for someone to offer you an opportunity if you are not actively seeking one. Go and get what is rightfully yours.
The only thing most people need to be successful is an opportunity. If you are in a position to offer opportunities to others, take a chance on someone who you normally wouldn’t take a chance on. If you are currently seeking opportunities to be successful, don’t give up until the opportunity you seek presents itself. If you don’t give up, it will inevitably show up.
While success is measured in many ways, I personally measure it by how many people you help get to where they are destined to be.
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When it comes to being successful in life, all of the issues that we face bring us down to making two choices; we can either fight or we can take flight. With fighting, at least you have a chance to overcome this obstacle. However, choosing to flee from your problem doesn’t mean that it’s going to go away. It almost never does until you handle it. Our problems are designed to offer us only two possible outcomes; we can either choose to swim and stay above the water or we can allow the problem to force us to sink. Either way, they are both choices we are choosing to make. Since you now know this to be fact, choose to swim.
Choosing to swim simply means that you are not going to allow your problem to defeat you. In fact, the power we possess to change our circumstances is often handed freely to our problems. Take back control of the power you possess to change your circumstances and start finding solutions now. You have every resource you will ever need to be successful. Your greatest obstacle will always be yourself and what you allow your mind to think. A successful person’s mind always thinks of possibilities, not limitations.
Challenges in life are meant to strengthen us, if and only if we are strong enough to outlast them. It is indeed a test of endurance. You must be willing to do whatever it takes to stay above the water, even when you feel the constant tug of your problems trying to pull you under. It simply means that you must paddle harder and swim faster. Make the conscious decision to not let your problems win. With every challenge there are hidden opportunities to be better. Always search for the opportunities in your problems and shift your focus towards solution-driven thinking.
You control your destiny. You control your fate. You control your outcomes.
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Contrary to popular belief, there are no shortcuts on the way to the top. While some may seem to have it easier than others, someone along the way had to work for the freedom they currently enjoy today. Some people waste precious time focusing on the lives of others completely ignoring the personal inventory and work they must do themselves. All winners remain focused on areas of improvement in their own lives at all times.
Successful people are rarely concerned with what others are involved with because they are too busy trying to figure out how they can better themselves. Use your time wisely by focusing on self-improvement. Malcolm X once said “Anytime you see someone more successful than you are, they are doing something you aren’t.” Understand that success is not prejudice yet it does not reward laziness. The roads that successful people travel are typically roads less traveled yet that does not mean that a map does not exist. Follow the same route and you’ll arrive at the same destination.
If they can do it, why can’t you? The quote above truly says it all. If you want to be successful it is imperative that you are hardworking; committed to achievement; be able to maintain strict discipline and you have to be fearless. You cannot be afraid to fail. You cannot be afraid to challenge the status quo. You cannot be afraid to take risks. You cannot be afraid to rise to the top.
If you want to be successful, start doing what successful people have done and are currently doing. It is not unrealistic to expect similar outcomes.
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We are at an impasse as a society. As the financial divide widens, between the declining middle class and the increasing gap between the rich and the poor, most people are faced with the difficult decision of continuing with the daily grind or taking a risk and starting their own business. These brave folks are venturing out and doing what they’ve always been passionate about. Discovering your passion and taking risks allows you to benefit from the immeasurable rewards that typically follows such risks.
Most successful people find a niche or something they do better than most and execute it. Successful people typically involve themselves with a job that they would do even if they weren’t paid to do it. In fact, they don’t even see it as a job. Successful people maintain a deep understanding of the importance of the following phrase; “If you love what you do for a living, you’ll never work a day in your life”. It makes absolutely no sense to waste your time in a career you have no interest in. Some people are perfectly fine with what they do whether they love it or not; most winners think differently.
The tides are changing and those who are wise enough to change with the tides will not risk drowning or capsizing. The best way to ensure a positive outcome is to do what you love and love what you do. Most people will not subscribe to this rule mainly because it requires a significant amount of risks. Understand that rewards are reserved only for those who are brave enough to take risks. If you are gainfully employed in an industry you are not passionate about, spend time focusing on a hobby that can increase your streams of income. You cannot reasonably expect your quality of life to improve if you only have one source of income.
When you are passionate about your work and you love what you do, the money will always seem like a bonus simply because you would do it for free.
Turn your passion into profit.
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My mother always had dreams of me becoming a medical doctor; a profession I have absolutely no interest in. Could I have been a doctor? Without a shadow of a doubt. Would I have been happy? Probably not. Instead, I choose to do something that makes me happy. I choose to do something that I would do for free. I choose to do something that I am truly passionate about. I choose to improve the lives of those around me by serving as an example of what could be in spite of the devastating events that can occur in one’s life.
One of the key ingredients to experiencing wild success is self-motivation. While others around you serve a definite purpose in shaping your limitations, it is ultimately up to you to determine how far you will truly go. You are uniquely made the way you are for a reason. Focus on your strengths and what you were born to do, not what others think you should do. After all, you are responsible for your own fate.
What specifically motivates you to be better than you already are? What explicitly drives you to accomplish your goals? Is it your children? A spouse? Is it the possibility for advancement at your current place of business? Is it to gain the validation of a parent? Is it a fear of failing? Whatever it may be, if you don’t already know, it is imperative that you discover what motivates you to be better. The answer is usually in the mirror.
Your motivation to be better should come from no one and nothing else but yourself. Don’t worry, I’ll be here to help give you a push when you need it most but ultimately it’s up to you.
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Several weeks ago I decided to recommit myself to reading more works of the great scholars of old. I have always been fascinated by the way their minds seemed limitless. I decided to take a special trip to a local bookstore to reacquaint myself with a passion I had grown to love, reading. The sad news is I hadn’t even bothered to pick up a book until that day. While in the bookstore, subconsciously I was lead to the works of the great Greek philosopher, Aristotle.
While rummaging through the stacks of books and attempting to breeze through the reading to see if it interests me, I slowed down almost to a halt when I read the following quote. Of the many quotable quotes from Aristotle, the one that stood out the most at the time was “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.” Simply, whatever it is that we repeatedly do inevitably turns into a habit; failure and excellence included.
Your own actions have gotten you to where you are today; good and bad. In order to be great, you have to be willing to do what others won’t do while being consistent and steadfast in achieving your goals. You must be willing to change your ways if you are not getting the results you expect. A habit is formed by doing the same thing day in and day out. Hence, anything that you do consistently, day in and day out, has a great likelihood of turning into a habit.
Your ultimate goal should be to make winning a habit; the only way you can do that is if you win consistently and the only way you can win consistently is if you are not afraid to enter the competition. What has become a habit in your life that you know shouldn’t be? Which habit have you formed that you feel is keeping you from reaching your full potential? You already know the answers to these questions, now work on changing those habits.
At all times focus on the things that you repeatedly do and you’ll develop the power to change your outcomes. You are what you repeatedly do. You were born to win and nothing and no one can change that except for you.
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You have been very cautious about whether or not you should take risks. You continue to question whether the risk is worth taking or if it is right or wrong. At times, you may even ask yourself if the risk is worth the potential reward. Please understand that the system of Risks and Rewards works hand in hand. You cannot reasonably expect to claim inevitable rewards if you don’t bother taking risks. Understand that I do not mean taking unnecessary risks; I encourage you to take calculated risks that have the potential to yield positive results.
Take a second to imagine that you are standing at the edge of a cliff but you can’t see the bottom. There is either a bed of pillows at the bottom of the cliff or a bed of thorns; you will not know what is down there until you jump. Some people would stop there and not jump thinking that surely the bed of thorns is a more fitting end to their story. Winners understand the importance of taking risks so they would most likely choose to jump and find out.
I for one would jump without even thinking about it just to see where I land. I am almost certain I would land on the pillows; a bit optimistic I guess but thats the power of positive thinking. Perhaps it is due to my deep understanding of the importance of taking chances. I encourage you to start taking risks. Helen Keller once said “Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure.” This message should be very clear to you. You know what you have to do, now do it.
Take that chance, make that move, and believe that the path you are taking, while it may be laden with obstacles is one that has already been charted for you.
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When things are meant to be, it seems as if all of the pieces start to magically fall into place. There is a test that I used to conduct just to test this theory and see if it’s true; I have never been disappointed. I first start by picking a start date, an end date and sticking firmly to both of them. Next I commit myself to ensuring that everything is in place so my desired outcomes happen on the specific date I choose, if not before. Then, almost like magic, all of the other pieces start coming together almost seamlessly.
Oftentimes, we ignore the obvious signs that are pointing us in a different direction. This happens when we try to force a square peg into a round hole; it simply won’t fit. Learn to quickly recognize which steps are ordained and which ones are not. You will know if what you’re doing is the right thing to do if you experience very little resistance or obstacles along the way.
I firmly believe that God wants to see His children succeed. I seriously doubt we were placed on this earth to fail. Walk in the understanding that God’s got your back. Work on creating a plan of action then work even harder on the execution of this plan. If you start, God will help you finish.
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There may come a time when you look over at the sidelines and no one is there cheering you on. Unfortunately, there may be more times than you or I would like to think about but know that they will come. When that happens, learn to be your biggest cheerleader.
Sometimes we look to others to provide us with encouraging words and motivation when all the while we should be consulting the person who knows us the best; yourself. It is imperative that you understand the importance of being your biggest fan. You cannot reasonably expect everyone to celebrate you every time. However, you can choose to celebrate yourself as early and often as possible.
All throughout high school, I participated in organized sports and extracurricular activities. For a number of reasons, my parents were not able to attend any of my games or ceremonies. During those times, I developed and strengthened the “cheer yourself on” muscle. Sometimes you have to motivate and encourage yourself. Although no one was there to cheer me on, it did not prevent me from winning.
Be your biggest fan.
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