Morning Cup of Joe – Living In The Past

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This may come as a surprise to some but to my knowledge there is no time machine that has yet been invented. We all dream about going back to the future and hopefully fixing something we played a part in breaking. In many cases, we hope yet never act on finishing something we started. This is the unfortunate plight of many people who fail to understand that you cannot change the past; all you can do is learn from it and apply those lessons to the future.

Your past, whatever it may be, should merely serve as a reference guide for the future. Most people allow their past to hang over their heads in such a way that it stifles their growth. Your growth is based on your ability to learn lessons from your mistakes. We have all made mistakes, no exemptions. The separation from this group comes when you realize the intended lesson that was meant to be learned from making that particular mistake. Continuing to repeat the same mistake simply means that you haven’t learned the intended lesson.

If you are thinking about an event that occurred in the past or even yesterday, understand that this is not the highest and best use of your time or mind space. You cannot change the past, at all times focus on the future. Tomorrow is not promised but that was true for yesterday and thankfully you are still here. Make today what it should be by thinking forward progress only. So, what’s it going to be? Are you going to live in the past or focus on the future?

Stop living in the past. Yesterday really did end last night.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Confront Your Past

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There is a reason why you haven’t been able to fully move forward. There is something that happened in your past that you haven’t completely recovered from. There is someone in your past that wronged you and you haven’t been able to forget nor forgive. Today is the day you choose to muster up enough courage to confront your past. It may take a little longer than a day to gain enough courage to face the truth but the end goal must not change.

The more time passes, the more hurt you will continue to feel. Understand that the pain you continue to feel is a direct result of the fact that you haven’t yet confronted the person who wronged you. Some people don’t know how bad they’ve hurt us and they very well may not know especially if you haven’t told them how they have and continue to affect you. In order for you to fully recover from the pain, you must be willing to face the truth. You must be willing to tell the person who hurt you that what they did was wrong.

Many of us have suppressed memories and feelings while falsely believing that we’ve moved on but every now and then we think about the event or person and the hurt resurfaces. Suppressing the memory that caused your pain will only cause you to feel more pain. Not dealing with your issues will continue to affect the way you react to the world around you and the way the world responds to you. Do not be misled, this is not easy. I myself did not know where the pain I was feeling derived from because I had completely blocked that memory from my mind. So much so that at one point I thought I made it all up in my head until I called a childhood friend to confirm that it actually did happen; he confirmed it.

God brought you this far without you having to face your past but it doesn’t mean that you have fully recovered. Some may think that they really don’t have to confront the past because they’ve figured out a way to succeed in spite of the devastating events that occurred in their lives. They continue to hide the pain without having to face the truth; that can be dangerous.

Your life will be a million times better if you build up the courage to confront your past. Do not allow your mind to continue to make excuses and concessions for your negative experiences. You can fully recover from this if you decide today that you will no longer give the person a free pass. This is a major part of your healing. It doesn’t matter how they receive it or what you think they may say or react; the fact of the matter is, you must tell them. Do not be afraid.

Are you ready to live a healthy and fruitful life? Are you prepared to have healthy relationships moving forward? If so, then it’s time to confront your past. The hurt and pain you feel is very real and the person who caused it is also real. You deserve to live a life without regret; don’t regret not telling the person who hurt you how they’ve hurt you.

The reason why you haven’t fully recovered from the pain is because you haven’t confronted the person who caused it. Confront your past, you deserve closure from this.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Yesterday’s Gone

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While we obviously cannot change the past, we can build on the lessons learned to create a better future. Our future success depends on whether or not we learned from the mistakes of the past. It makes sense that if we do not learn from our past, we are doomed to repeat it. If you did not effectively evaluate the reasons why something didn’t work out in your life then you will certainly be repeating those same errors and thus continuously produce the same disappointing results.

Don’t be one of the countless people who blame their past for their shortcomings. Blaming anything or anyone but yourself is another sign that you may be insane. It is very convenient to pass the buck and not accept responsibility which explains why so many people do it. If your past is the reason why your current situation is what it is, you haven’t learned the intended lesson. I have learned that if I am unsuccessful at something it is critical that I understand the reasons why. If you know why something went wrong, you can fix it. Answer the “why” question.

Our past should merely serve as a reference guide for the future. Our past should never be viewed as a crutch. Every experience has shaped us into who we are today. If it weren’t for our past, our future would not exist. Understanding the past allows us to create directional roadmaps, analyze the present situation and respect the inevitable growth. You may not be where you want to be but thank goodness you are not where you used to be. Learning from your past is exactly what has gotten you this far and is what is going to take you to the next level. What you need to know about the past is that no matter what has happened it has all worked out to bring you to this very moment.

The beautiful thing about the past is that everything you have lived through helped to create the dynamic person you are today.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Life Is Too Short

The motivation behind this message is a text message my sister sent to our entire family. At first, I didn’t know the basis behind her text but she later shared. She mentioned how a co-worker of hers had passed on unexpectedly and how important it was to forgive. The message read “If you have anyone you know you’re holding a grudge against, please let it go and forgive them.”

We all have someone or some past event that is adding extra weight to our lives due to the fact that we have not forgiven them. It is critically important that you learn how to forgive and forget in order to move forward. If you do not forgive someone who has done you wrong or mistreated you in the past, you will continue to be stagnant. You cannot turn to a new chapter if you haven’t read the previous one completely nor can you move on if you don’t turn the page. Simply, you cannot fully move on with your life if you haven’t determined nor completely dealt with what has been holding you back in the first place.

One of the most difficult things to do in life is to forgive. What’s even more challenging is to forget how someone has hurt you. Once you build up enough nerve to forgive someone, only then can you start living a more free & fruitful life. Some folks may argue that forgetting is much easier than forgiving and I there is some truth to that. However, forgetting takes little to no effort yet in still the issue remains and has not been resolved. In fact, it is possible to forgive someone and they never even know about it. You can forgive by choosing to let go of the past and forgiving all those who have trespassed against you.

The reason why you have not hit the next level is because you are holding on to the memory of someone from your past who has done you wrong. Let go of that right now today. Forgive them for their wrong doings. Forgive all those people who came in and out of your life and added no value. Forgive everyone who thought you would never amount to anything. Forgive those people who didn’t realize how special you truly are. Forgive and you will find that a more fruitful life awaits you.

Some people may say that there are certain things that are unforgivable and I disagree completely. There are certain things that may seem unforgivable, but your heart should never be one of those. Choose to forgive today because life is too short to hold grudges.

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Joe Paul

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Morning Cup of Joe – The Reset Button

Sometimes we allow the past to hover over our heads like a dark cloud in the sky. Some of us have made it a habit to transfer the power we have to influence and direct the present to a past we can no longer control. Whatever happened in the past is over and done with. There is no need to dwell on something that you cannot change; that is certainly not the highest and best use of your time.

Your energy, attention and focus should always be directed to the present. The control that you maintain in your life is limited to the present, not the past and not the future. Do not be misled; what we do in the present certainly has an effect on our future. However, the emphasis should always be placed on what you can control; the present. When we try to change our yesterdays or focus too intently on our tomorrows we neglect our todays. Don’t neglect your right now. Right now is all you truly have control over.

There is a particular beauty that comes with a new day so do your very best to embrace it. Each new day presents another opportunity to try it again or as I like to call it “press the reset button”. A new day gives us a chance to start over, only if we perceive the gift of a new day in this manner. There is absolutely nothing wrong with starting over. Most people are afraid to start over because they fear that all of the work they put in the past would have all been for naught. That is the farthest thing from the truth.

Your experiences, trials and tribulations of the past are what provide the strength necessary to face the future. Choose to press the reset button that each new day presents and start anew. Today is a new day and you should treat it with the care and attention you typically treat anything that is new.

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Joe Paul

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