100 Days to a Better You! – Day 25

Day 25 –

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Mind, Body, Spirit.

Your mind is so precious. There is a myth that says human beings only use 10% of their brain’s capacity. 10%! Whether its true or not, lets go with it for the sake of this message.

If we only used 10%, I wonder what 100% would look and feel like. Would it be similar to the experiences of the main characters in movies like “Lucy” or “Limitless?” Would we be able to move inanimate objects with our eyes? How about read a 500 page novel in less than 5 minutes? What about read minds? Would we be able to do that? Whatever it is, I think its fair to say that everyone wants to know and experience it.

Although we may not be using our brain to its full capacity, I am confident that we can use our braun. Here’s the interesting thing about it all, we need to use both in order to yield maximum results. What your mind is capable of conceiving, your body is capable of achieving. Your mind has the ability to create something from absolutely nothing but can’t make it tangible up to and until your body is involved.

I know there are times when your mind is telling you yes but your body is telling you no and vice versa. The key is to push forward anyway. I’m not saying to hurt yourself, I’m simply telling you to push it to the limit every now and then and persevere even if it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable.

If you don’t find time for something as important as executing your 100 Day plan, you will never see results.

To The Top!
Joe Paul

100 Days to a Better You! – Day 24

Day 24 –
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I attended an event with my girlfriend where her company along with others were being honored as a Top 25 diversity council in the nation; her organization placed 10th beating out many notable companies. This is their first time entering and they placed in the Top 10! Quite an accomplishment. Needless to say, I was very proud of her because I personally witnessed all of the hard work she put into completing the 35 page application.

A major victory came right before the dinner reception. We asked a colleague of hers to snap a shot of us so we can capture the memory of the evening. As I reviewed the picture, I started thinking to myself, “Who is that guy with my girlfriend?!” I hadn’t noticed how much change had taken place in a little over 3 weeks!

I wanted to make sure I actually made progress so I went through my phone trying to find a picture of us before my 100 Day plan started. Much to my amazement, there was a dramatic change.

Trust that progress is being made even if you cant see it. If you continue to work toward a goal on a daily basis, you will inevitably accomplish it. I am living proof. Once I showed my girlfriend the picture, she was shocked herself but hadn’t noticed the change either since she sees me as frequently as I see myself.

I turned to her and said, “If I look like this right now, wait til you see me on Day 100!” She smiled.

Keep on pushing! 76 Days Left!

To The Top!
Joe Paul

100 Days to a Better You! – Day 23

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I’ve become an avid reader as of late and one of the books I’ve been reading is by Charles Bukowsky called “Factotum.” One of the quotes that stand out and certainly worth mentioning, if not memorizing, lines perfectly with the mindset we all must have as it relates to executing your 100 day plan.

In the book, Charles says, “If you’re going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don’t even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean mockery–isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it. And, you’ll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you’re going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It’s the only good fight there is.”

I can sum up this quote in two words “sacrifice” and “determination”. If you are going to do this 100 Day plan, go all the way or don’t waste your time. This plan isn’t for the weak, it isn’t for the feeble minded, it isn’t for quitters.

Decide right now if you’re in this for the long haul. If you are, blessings will be waiting for you at the finish line.

To The Top!
Joe Paul

100 Days to a Better You! – Day 22

Day 22 –

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The “100 Days to a Better You” plan is designed to be a life-changing experience with long-term implications. It’s designed to change you from the inside out, strengthening the good while reducing and inevitably eliminating the negative or less desirable habits in your life.

The only way to permanently change your old way of doing things is to spend more time building the new. Change is not easy; permanent change is even harder. You must be willing and make a conscious effort to be in this for the long haul; that is the only time that true lasting change occurs.

The key ingredient to change is desire. You really have to want it more than anything. At this point in the plan, so many have given up and reverted back to their old ways. It’s easier to be comfortable but it’s more rewarding to facilitate necessary change. Do you want “easy” or “rewarding”?

Socrates says about change, “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” How much time are you spending building the new? How much time are you spending fighting the old? Your focus should be on Day 100, not on anything that happened before today.

Change is good, especially when its for the better.

To The Top!
Joe Paul

100 Days to a Better You! – Day 21

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You may not see the changes but others do. 21 days ago we started on this journey towards a better you and although progress for some may be slow, trust that progress is being made nonetheless. Even if you can’t see the progress is being made and the changes occurring in your life, trust that progress and changes are happening.

I ran into an old friend a couple of days ago. I hadnt seen him since I started my 100 Day plan and when he saw me he asked inquisitively, “hey Joe, have you been working out? You look like you’re slimming down bro.” Elated with his observation I responded, “YES, yes I have. But I didn’t think anything was happening because I wasn’t seeing any changes.” He responded, “no man, I can definitely see the change.”

There is nothing more satisfying than working hard for something then acquiring that thing. Even more satisfying than that is being acknowledged for the hard work itself. The underlying story is although you may not see how far you’ve progressed in a few weeks, others can.

Bottom line, wether people notice it or not, acknowledge you for your progress or not, your goal is to remain focused on finishing these 100 days strong. It doesn’t matter if you cant see the progress you are making, just trust that progress is being made. Keep working and don’t give up. If you fall off the horse, get back up and continue riding.

We’re in the 70’s! 10 more days until we usher in the 60’s! LET’S GO!

To The Top!
Joe Paul

100 Days to a Better You! – Day 20

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If you dont work for it, you are never going to appreciate it. A memory that sticks out in my mind growing up was when I asked my parents for a bicycle one Christmas. My father asked, “How are you going to pay for it?” I was stunned. Especially since I didn’t have a job; I was only 11 years old. I didn’t know how I was going to pay for it nor did I think I would ever have to; I actually expected them to pay for it. I thought he was kidding around but the look in his eyes confirmed that he was serious.

For 2 whole months I worked tirelessly trying to earn enough to purchase that bike. I knocked on neighbors doors offering to cut grass or wash their cars for a nominal fee; some took me up on my offer while others dismissed me. I even got together with a very good friend going door-to-door offering to do nominal chores like rake yards, take out trash and sweep front porches. I was willing to do anything because I was determined to have that bike.

On Christmas morning, I anticipated disappointment because I didn’t raise enough to purchase that bike yet I did give my father everything I had earned. I walked downstairs toward the basement and there it stood, a shiny black BMX 10 speed bike; it was a beauty.

I had no idea my father was standing in the corner as I admired my new toy. He looked at me and said “When you work hard, you get rewarded. Nothing in life is free. If you want something, you are going to have to work until you get it. Do you understand me?” I nodded my head to let him know that I understood.

I am more fortunate than most to have learned this valuable lesson at the tender age of 11; some people go a lifetime without learning this lesson. You’re going to have to do some unconventional things during the course of these 100 days if you want to achieve your must outcomes. Be prepared for it because there’s no way around it.

There are no shortcuts to success. If you want something bad enough, you must be willing to work like hell until you have it.

Keep working, your BMX bike is right around the corner.

To The Top!
Joe Paul

80 More Days!

100 Days to a Better You! – Day 19

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One thing I know for sure, nobody is perfect. Even the people you try to emulate are not perfect. The person with the washboard stomach or the long flowing hair is not perfect. The person with a PhD or the one with a net worth of over $100M is not perfect. The person with the exotic car or the person with the big corner house is not perfect. The person who preaches in front of the pulpit or the one who seems to have it all is not perfect. Perfect should never be your goal or objective. If you are trying to be perfect, you will always fail.

While you work your plan, do not think for a minute that the people you try to emulate are perfect because they aren’t. Do not be misled, I think it’s perfectly fine to choose someone you are striving to be like. Guess what? My goal, even after these 100 days have passed, is to have and maintain a body like Idris Elba’s. Daily, I visualize myself having a body similar to his and I will reach that goal. The fact is, even Idris strives to be like someone else himself and he isn’t alone; we all strive to be like or better than someone else.

When you chase perfection, not only will you never catch it, any progress you make will never seem enough. No matter what you do, think or say, there will always be someone who you think and falsely believe is better than you are. News flash, do not base your progress on someone else’s perceived perfection.

Your goal during this “100 Days to a Better You” should be progress, never perfection. As I stare in the mirror, I see progress. As I look at my finances, I see progress. As I look at my relationships, I see progress. As I evaluate my relationship with God, I see progress.

Your 100 Day Plan should be viewed as a pursuit of continuous progress, not perfection.

Remember, progress, not perfection.

To The Top!
Joe Paul

100 Days to a Better You! – Day 18

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I’ve been in rooms with people who were smarter than me, attended better schools than I did, had a better upbringing, had a stronger support system, better job, more accomplished, more access to resources, taller, more fit and more privileged but I have NEVER been in a room where someone was more hardworking than me.

If nothing else, I will always outwork my competition. And everyone knows that hard work pays off. It doesn’t matter what type of “advantages” someone else seems to have over you, as long as you’re willing to work like hell, you will always win.

I make it a point to work harder than the hardest worker because its hard work that takes you to the top, nothing else. People can have all of the aforementioned advantages in life and still be mediocre. We have all seen and personally know many people who fit that description.

I grew up poor, and I mean dirt poor, so I had no choice but to be scrappy. I had to earn everything I have. Nothing was ever handed to me. It doesnt matter who I am competing against, my ultimate goals is ALWAYS TO WIN!

100 Days to a Better You means that you are competing against your greatest competitor; yourself. You are working your tail off for the expressed purpose of becoming a better you. Understand this, nothing worth having ever comes easily.

Success is the outcome of hard work and there is no substitution for hard work!

Keep Pushing!

To The Top!
Joe Paul

100 Days to a Better You! – Day 17

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One of the most powerful and certainly one of my favorite quotes of all time is from T.E. Lawrence and it says, “All men dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds, wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act on their dreams with open eyes, to make them possible.”

This 100 day plan is for dreamers. Dreamers who dream by day and not by night. Dreamers who dare to dream then stay awake chasing it until it becomes a reality. It’s for those who believe the possibilities in the impossible. For people who want more out of life and are not satisfied with mediocrity.

The excuses you create serve as barriers to your endless possibilities. Excuses only delay the inevitable. You will always be too tired, too hungry, too weary, too poor, too sick if that is how you choose to view your circumstances and live your life. No matter how I feel, I am relentless in my pursuit toward accomplishing my goals; relentless! Nothing and no one can stop me but myself.

Your dreams and goals aren’t going to accomplish themselves. It’s ok to dream but only if you work tirelessly toward its attainment. How bad do you want it? Hopefully bad enough to chase it until you have it.

To The Top!
Joe Paul

83 more days!

100 Days to a Better You! – Day 16

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A goal is defined as the state of affairs that a plan is intended to achieve and that (when achieved) terminates the behavior intended to achieve it.

What is most interesting about this definition is it clearly states not only what a goal is but what a goal is intended to do. Goals are plans designed to change your behavior once you accomplish it. What behaviors are you trying to change based on the must outcomes on your 100 plan?

Since one of my must outcomes is to be at a healthy weight at the end of these 100 days, one of the behaviors I intend to change during that process is my poor eating habit. Poor eating habits like eating late, eating too many fried foods, eating too many processed foods, eating the “wrong” kinds of foods at the “wrong” time too often.

Everything in moderation. Its ok to have a burger or a slice of pizza every now and then but its not ok if these foods are part of your daily menu. Yes, they taste better than broccoli but they are not better for you. By increasing the amount of fruits and vegetables I consume each day, I am decreasing the amounts of fatty foods. Once I reach my goal of a healthy weight, what I did to get there would have helped to terminate the behavior that got me to the point of creating this type of goal in the first place.

What I’ve learned in life is that sometimes you’re going to have to do things you’ve never done before in order to see things you’ve never seen before. What are you doing differently?

To The Top!
Joe Paul