If someone loves you, trust me, they’ll show you. Telling someone you love them does not take much effort, showing them does.
Above all else, love yourself first!
Anything worth having never comes easily. In fact, not only does it not come easily but you have to be willing to work twice as hard to keep it. Think about the things you may still have in your life right now that was simply given to you. How did you treat it? Do you still have it? Is it in good shape? Now think about something that you definitely have that you worked hard for. I bet you take care of it. You may actually still have it. You probably thank God for it as often as you can.
When we work hard for something or have to earn it, we treat it better. Whether it’s a relationship or a material item, we work harder for something that we’re vested in. Not only do we work harder, we treat it differently. The best example is a rental car. Think back to a vehicle you rented. How did you treat it? I can bet you didn’t wash it; you may have driven over speed bumps going 40mph. You treated it like it wasn’t yours. Now think about the car you actually make payments on or the one you own outright. You probably wash it every weekend. Keep it gassed up and treat it like a prize possession.
What’s the difference, you ask? They are both cars, aren’t they? Well, the difference is in the fact that with one of the cars you actually had to work hard to get it and even harder to keep. With the other, the sense of pride of ownership simply doesn’t exist because it isn’t fully yours. Your relationships work the same way. You must be willing to give in order to receive. You can’t treat others like they are rental cars and expect them to treat you like a car they make payments on. Treat people the way you want to be treated.
Remember, nothing worth having ever comes easily. If you worked hard to get something, you must be willing to work hard to keep it.
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When we try to please people we become their slaves. We become their slaves because everything we do is to ensure their own happiness. The problem with that equation is that you are forfeiting your own happiness for the happiness of others. With the exception of a spouse, you must ask yourself; “If I’m trying to please everyone, who is trying to please me?” Chances are the answer is no one.
Don’t get caught up in trying to make everyone happy. I know I always say that anything is possible but this is the exception. It is impossible to make everyone happy. In fact, that should never be a goal of yours. Shift the focus to yourself; work on making yourself happy. Your ultimate goal is to try to please God anyway, not man.
Think of your life as a subway train and you’re the conductor. You have a finite destination and many people will come into your life along the way; some will get off early, some may never get on and very few will ride with you until the end. At any rate, at all times focus on the destination. Bill Cosby once said, “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody”. Remove that need of wanting to make everyone happy; you simply can’t.
Happiness comes from within; you cannot reasonably expect someone else to fill that void.
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While scanning through the new releases on Netflix, I realized that one of the greatest movies of all time, in my humble opinion, was listed. With much excitement and anticipation, I selected it and began watching. One of the more powerful scenes early in the movie is captured in a conversation had by Marcus Aurelius and Caesar. While this movie is riddled with memorable quotes, one stood out more than the others.
Marcus Aurelius turns to Caesar and says, “When a man sees his end, he wants to know that there was some purpose to his life.” I pressed paused then rewind on the remote control so that I could hear it again. I started thinking to myself, why wait until a man sees his end? Why not make his life purposeful while he can?
So many of us are waiting for the right time to follow our purpose, while others are waiting for the right sign. I’m here to tell you that the right time doesn’t exist and the right sign may never happen. You must take control of your destiny. Don’t wait until your life has passed before you begin to reflect on it, START NOW! We all want to live a life filled with purpose; at least I believe we do.
We don’t know what tomorrow is going to bring nor do we know if we will be fortunate enough to meet it. What we do know is that you have complete control over today! Do you want to wake up one day and wonder where all the time has gone? Do you want to wake up one day wondering what you have to show for your time spent on earth? Or do you want to wake up at the end of your days and KNOW that you lived a life of purpose?
If you want to live a life filled with purpose, first you must decide to relentlessly follow your dreams. Discover what is most meaningful to you and vigorously pursue it. I have discovered my purpose in life which is to enrich and embolden the lives of others by using my God given gifts and talents. What’s yours?
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