Morning Cup of Joe – Moving On


Letting go doesn’t mean giving up. Just because you release yourself from a toxic relationship doesn’t mean that you’ve completely given up. In fact, you are freeing yourself from the possibility of recurring hurt and disappointment. How much hurt can you take before you decide that enough is enough? Some relationships simply run their course. Some relationships are naturally incompatible yet many of us try to force that relationship to work; this method is doomed from the start. When we try to force something that doesn’t naturally fit we will be met with countless road blocks.

When you let go of a toxic or unhealthy relationship, you are releasing yourself from the grip of one in order to open yourself to the possibility of another. Simply, when you decide to move on, you are increasing the possibility of moving forward. Relationships come and they certainly go. Some are permanent, some are not. The constant in all of this is you. You need to constantly change what you are doing and in some cases how you are doing those things until you get what you’ve always wanted. Be true to yourself. When we change our lives for the sake of others, we end up losing in the long run. The goal is to find someone who you are compatible with, someone who knows you well and someone who shares the same morals and values as you do. Most importantly, the goal is to establish a relationship with someone who loves you just for you.

Don’t be afraid to let go of the past; that is truly the only way you can progress into the future. Remember, letting go doesn’t mean giving up; it simply means you came to an understanding that there are some things that simply cannot be and perhaps were not meant to be. Just because your relationship failed doesn’t mean that you did.

Letting go doesn’t mean giving up and giving up doesn’t mean you are weak. It simply means that you are strong enough to let go.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Forward Progress


There are people in your life right now that is keeping you from reaching your full potential. These people may be really close to you or may be someone you interact with a little less. These people and/or person may be the one you turn to for advice. This person may be someone you trust. Besides you, this person may be partially responsible for some of your failed dreams.

Sometimes in order to move forward, we must leave some things behind. This is perhaps one of the most challenging things to do. Earlier on in my journey, I was faced with a similarly difficult choice. My best friend since elementary school and I were starting to grow apart; our interests were constantly clashing. While I was focused on creating a better tomorrow, it never seemed to make the top of his list. I did not want to accept the fact that in order for me to get to the next level I would have to part ways with people I’ve known for most of my life. While some choices may not make us feel good they are certainly good for us. I did what I had to do to protect and preserve my future and I challenge you to do the same.

Change is not easy but it is certainly necessary. Some decisions are exceptionally difficult; that doesn’t mean we should shy away from making them. Reevaluate who is in your support circle. If you have someone in your circle who you cannot count on, you need to cut the dead weight. If someone in your circle is constantly negative, you may want to limit your communication with them. If you are wondering why some of your dreams aren’t coming true, check your dream supporters. There are some people who simply don’t want to see you succeed. Figure out who they are and separate from them.

Not everyone who is around you is on your side.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Holding Grudges

Life is too short to hold grudges. Whenever we are in an argument or a disagreement with another person our principle goal is to not only hurt them verbally or physically but we want to be the one who is right. We already know that you cannot force someone to see things your way and when they don’t we tend to hold grudges. I know far too many people who held grudges against another person and never had a chance to make amends because the other party is no longer here. Don’t fall into that trap; choose today to forgive the person you hold a grudge against. More importantly, choose today to forgive yourself.

While it can be challenging to forget how someone has wronged you, it is imperative that you forgive them. The extra weight you hold in your mind and in your heart is a direct result of you holding on to a resentment that you should let go of. In many cases, the person you hold a grudge against may not even know that you do; they may not even care. That is even more reason to forgive them and move on with your life. Apologizing costs you nothing and accepting one doesn’t either. In addition, forgiving costs you nothing but the return on investment is immeasurable.

An ancient Buddhist quote says, “Holding a grudge is like drinking the poison and expecting the other person to die.” What it simply means is by holding a grudge you allow yourself to be so upset at someone else for something they did and they may not even know you are upset at them. When we hold a grudge against someone, it eats away at us slowly. It truly is like drinking poison but in most cases we are the ones who are ultimately affected. Don’t drink the poison, forgiving is less dangerous.

Release yourself from your grudges and your need to be constantly right. Don’t let life pass you by while you are holding this extra baggage. Letting go of a grudge will allow you to live your life more fully. Today, choose to forgive, let go of any grudges you may be holding on to and watch as the doors where blessings flow open unto you.

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Joe Paul