This may come as a surprise to some but to my knowledge there is no time machine that has yet been invented. We all dream about going back to the future and hopefully fixing something we played a part in breaking. In many cases, we hope yet never act on finishing something we started. This is the unfortunate plight of many people who fail to understand that you cannot change the past; all you can do is learn from it and apply those lessons to the future.
Your past, whatever it may be, should merely serve as a reference guide for the future. Most people allow their past to hang over their heads in such a way that it stifles their growth. Your growth is based on your ability to learn lessons from your mistakes. We have all made mistakes, no exemptions. The separation from this group comes when you realize the intended lesson that was meant to be learned from making that particular mistake. Continuing to repeat the same mistake simply means that you haven’t learned the intended lesson.
If you are thinking about an event that occurred in the past or even yesterday, understand that this is not the highest and best use of your time or mind space. You cannot change the past, at all times focus on the future. Tomorrow is not promised but that was true for yesterday and thankfully you are still here. Make today what it should be by thinking forward progress only. So, what’s it going to be? Are you going to live in the past or focus on the future?
Stop living in the past. Yesterday really did end last night.
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For far too long we’ve held on to the idea that the calm comes before the storm. Scientifically, this does make sense. However, I write this note encouraging you to accept a new way of thinking concerning the aforementioned statement. Please understand that as it relates to your life, the calm does not necessarily come before the storm. In fact, the calm typically comes after the storm; all you have to do is continue to fight and choose to hold on.
Many of us have experienced and continue to experience tumultuous times riddled with trials & tribulations. Rarely do we consider the fact that sometimes we have to go through a storm before we can fully understand the satisfaction that comes with the calm. Simply, if you are currently experiencing a storm in your life, hold on to the idea that all storms eventually pass. Some will argue that the calm comes before and after the storm. I completely agree. Do not be misled, the calm you feel before the storm is meant to prepare you for what’s to come.
Understand that whatever it is you are going through is temporary; you must be willing to endure. Like the old adage says; “trouble don’t last always”. Understand that if you outlast your storm, only then will you be able to appreciate the sunshine that inevitably comes afterwards. Hopefully this new knowledge gives you comfort and understanding that your storm will pass and that your sun will shine again. Make a decision right now today to choose to outlast your storm.
Maintain a firm understanding that after the rain, the sun always shines. After the storm caused by your problems have passed, your sun will also shine. No storm nor problem is everlasting, this too shall pass.
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Letting go doesn’t mean giving up. Just because you release yourself from a toxic relationship doesn’t mean that you’ve completely given up. In fact, you are freeing yourself from the possibility of recurring hurt and disappointment. How much hurt can you take before you decide that enough is enough? Some relationships simply run their course. Some relationships are naturally incompatible yet many of us try to force that relationship to work; this method is doomed from the start. When we try to force something that doesn’t naturally fit we will be met with countless road blocks.
When you let go of a toxic or unhealthy relationship, you are releasing yourself from the grip of one in order to open yourself to the possibility of another. Simply, when you decide to move on, you are increasing the possibility of moving forward. Relationships come and they certainly go. Some are permanent, some are not. The constant in all of this is you. You need to constantly change what you are doing and in some cases how you are doing those things until you get what you’ve always wanted. Be true to yourself. When we change our lives for the sake of others, we end up losing in the long run. The goal is to find someone who you are compatible with, someone who knows you well and someone who shares the same morals and values as you do. Most importantly, the goal is to establish a relationship with someone who loves you just for you.
Don’t be afraid to let go of the past; that is truly the only way you can progress into the future. Remember, letting go doesn’t mean giving up; it simply means you came to an understanding that there are some things that simply cannot be and perhaps were not meant to be. Just because your relationship failed doesn’t mean that you did.
Letting go doesn’t mean giving up and giving up doesn’t mean you are weak. It simply means that you are strong enough to let go.
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A book has many chapters; a beginning, middle, and certainly an end. Relationships are like books, some are about one subject and focus on that particular subject for the duration of the book and others simply last a few chapters until the content runs out and there are no more pages to read. What I want you to understand is that some relationships are detrimental to your personal growth and development; you’ve got to let them go. There are some books you keep and others you pass on once you’ve read them. Relationships are exactly the same, learn to discern between the two.
You never know why God saw it fit to remove you from a situation or relationship. No matter how hard you try, you cannot force a square peg into a round hole. If it isn’t meant to be, it simply will not be; accept it and move on. Once you fully release yourself from the past, only then can you appreciate the beauty of the present. Look around you at the people who are in your life right now at this moment, those are the people who love you the most. Your attention should be focused on them, the present and not the past. The only reason to look back at the past is to remind you of the mistakes you’ll never make again and the lessons you learned from those mistakes.
The past is truly just that; let go and move on. So many people live their lives based on the “I wish I would’ve” mind-set. I wish I would’ve done this differently or I wish I would’ve said this or that. The fact is, unless you know how to travel back to the past, you can’t spend precious time focusing on something you cannot change. Shift your focus to something you do have control over; the present. All of your energy should be focused on the present. By focusing on the present, you are in turn preparing for the future. By focusing on the past, you are taking away precious time from the focus that should be on the present.
Learn to accept things the way they are and trust that you are where you are meant to be at this very moment with the people you are meant to be with. Leave the past in the past and move on.
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