One of the greatest barriers to success is placing your trust in someone else’s opinions about what you should do with your own life. Everyone will have an opinion as it relates to your life but only yours matter. Often times we seek out the advice and guidance of others to help direct our path, all the while we are the answer to the questions we’ve been asking all along. One of the most important factors to experiencing wild success is trusting yourself.
Growing up, my mother would constantly say how proud she would be if her baby boy ever became a doctor. I didn’t think her vision for my life was far-fetched nor did I think it was unreachable; it just wasn’t my goal. It wasn’t a future I envisioned for myself. Now don’t get me wrong, I had no idea that I would become a keynote speaker either. My goal was simply to use the gifts God has blessed me with to help leave an indelible mark on the world by positively affecting the lives of those whose paths I am fortunate to cross.
One of the most common mistakes we make on the road to success is talking ourselves out of inevitable blessings simply because we don’t trust ourselves enough. In my humble opinion, I do not believe that there are right or wrong decisions but rather each decision we make leads us closer to our predestined fate. Those same decisions should be yours and solely yours. Everyone is equipped with an incredible sense of intuition, always trust yours.
The fact is, right or wrong, you must live with every decision you make. It’s critically important that you trust yourself and trust that the decision you make is the right one for you. Do not be misled; am I saying not to seek the advice of others? Absolutely not. I’m just saying to trust yourself a little more. You may not even need the advice of others. The answer you seek is well within you.
The late visionary Steve Jobs once said, “Don’t let the noise of other peoples opinions drown out your inner voice.” Remember to trust yourself always.
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No one should know what’s going on inside your house, especially if they’re standing on the outside. When you look at some people you can tell exactly what they are going through. Indeed some people are interested in the attention they may attract and others fall into the category of “misery loves company”. Wearing your feelings outwardly is obviously done at your discretion. The issue comes when you allow those feelings to dictate your actions and/or in-actions for that matter. For some strange reason, the opinions of others matter to us so much so that many of us live our lives based on this premise. That is something you must work on eliminating from the equation. What others think should not matter to you and it shouldn’t prevent you from striving to be your very best at all times. What others think about you is none of your concern.
Wearing your feelings outwardly is only one piece of this puzzle; another vital piece is your appearance. It is critically important that you look the part. Fake it ‘til you make it simply means look like you already have that which you are seeking and it will appear into your life more willingly. Please be clear, I’m not saying “perpetrate” or try to be something you are not. I am saying take pride in your appearance. I remember my father once saying; “It doesn’t matter how much money you have in your pockets, you need to look like you have a million dollars somewhere.” Wiser words have never spoken.
The final piece to the puzzle is your words. There is so much power in the spoken word. Your words are so powerful in fact that they can cut deeply and heal a broken heart simultaneously. What you say to yourself or your self-talk dictates how you interact and impact the world around you. Your words are powerful. Speak confidence into your life. Do not wait for others to compliment you, walk in the understanding that all God’s children are beautiful. What you show to the world is exactly what you can expect to attract back into your life.
Understand that you are in complete control over your own life so start acting like it.
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Sometimes we can get so wrapped up in what others think, say and feel about us and our inevitable success. So much so that another person’s words can pierce through the armor we’ve been able to build over time with relative ease. The interesting thing about the mind is that it has the capability and capacity to retain information and memories, good and bad, whether we like it or not. The question I want you to ask yourself the next time someone has something to say about how you are choosing to live your life is, “Who cares?”
Who cares what they think about you? Who cares how they feel about you? Who cares what they say about you? It certainly shouldn’t be you. Sometimes I wish there was a surcharge for people to share their opinions; something like one hundred dollars per word. Perhaps more people would keep their thoughts and opinions to themselves. While some opinions and most constructive criticism offer insight into self-improvement, most people would rather seek to tear you down with their words. The reason why most people feel the need to spew out some of the senseless and thoughtless words they say is because to them there are no repercussions or consequences. Let them say what they will; you stay focused on succeeding in spite of it. Make your success the consequence and repercussion.
You are on a mission, at all times stay focused on your desired end results. As you drive in your proverbial car towards the top expect delays and expect distractions. Just because you have delays and/or distractions along your journey doesn’t mean you should stop driving; keep moving. Others opinions and thoughts are there to serve as distractions, sort of like an annoying fan waving created signs while a basketball player is attempting to make a free throw. Condition your mind to make the free throw in spite of the distractions that are attempting to prevent you from scoring. Remember, you are on a mission, you are in control and absolutely nothing and no one can stop you.
People share their opinions because they are free, and we all know that most things that are free have little to no value.
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