You’re probably like most people who begin their day by repeatedly pressing the snooze button. Am I right? The blaring and sometimes startling sound of the alarm clock certainly adds to the negative reception of the morning. After several grueling minutes and the inevitable end to the battle between you and your alarm clock, you finally drag yourself out of bed. You have officially started your day on the wrong foot.
How you start may not always determine how you finish but that should not prevent you from starting strong. The sooner you realize that you are in control of how you receive the day, the sooner you can start your day with purpose. Wake up and be thankful. Wake up and receive the day as an opportunity to get closer to achieving your dreams. Wake up and greet the day with enthusiasm.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and today is a gift; that’s why it’s called the present.” Unwrap the gift that is today and start walking with purpose. It is difficult to reach a particular destination if you aren’t sure if you even want to go. Live a life that’s full by walking in the understanding that your blessing is right around the corner; meet it half-way.
The first step is taking the first step.
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We have all been in arguments which seemed to have no end and no solution in sight. We have all had to agree to disagree at some point in our lives; most of the time with people who we really care about. We have all been in situations where we felt hurt because of something someone said or did. During an argument, we all feel the need to win. Winning an argument has nothing to do with the person who can scream the loudest nor does it have anything to do with the person who makes the biggest threat. Winning an argument has nothing to do with winning at all.
Understand one important fact; you are not going to win every argument and it should not be a goal. The goal is to maintain cordiality at all times, especially during the times when we allow our emotions to get the best of us. Let’s face it; no one likes to lose at anything, especially arguments. If you look at it from a win/lose perspective, you will have difficulty overcoming this minor obstacle. In order to establish a win/win situation, you must be willing to be the bigger person. You must also be willing to look past the present situation and hope that tomorrow will bring the possibility of a better relationship and possible solutions.
A good friend once told me, “Sometimes being the bigger man sucks but it sure beats the alternative”; and we can only imagine what the alternative is. I am not interested in finding out and neither should you. Being the bigger person doesn’t mean that you are weak. Being the bigger person doesn’t mean that you are any less effective at arguing your point. Being the bigger person means that you made a conscious decision to move forward. Don’t lose a friend or spouse over your foolish pride. Don’t end a good relationship because your pride won’t allow you to apologize first. Be the bigger person, apologize and choose to move forward.
Not every battle is worth your energy. Sometimes we are the hardest on the people who are the closest to us simply because we want to prove a point. Prove that you can stay above the fray and be the bigger person.
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Sometimes you have to take one step back in order to take 1000 steps forward. Just because an opportunity does not perfectly match your expectations does not mean that it is not the opportunity that was meant specifically for you. Opportunities are such that you can mold them into what you think they should be. For most of us, our pride restricts us from recognizing clear and present blessings.
During a recent conversation with a friend who is actively searching for a job, I was able to discover a fundamental error in the way he was viewing his circumstances. He expressed to me that he has participated in over fifteen job interviews and has received over nine offers but none of them matched the salary he felt he should be paid based on his years of experience and his advanced degrees. He felt insulted by their offer at such a low salary. After he shared this story with me, I scratched my head and thought to myself “he turned down nine answers to his prayers”.
Had he taken one of the nine job offers, he could have easily changed the scope of that opportunity by putting forth maximum effort no matter the circumstances. Your work ethic should always speak for itself. This action will always yield positive results. So what if the salary is not up to your standards, the fact of the matter is the salary they are offering is much greater than the nothing you are currently earning. You never know if the opportunity that gets you in the door is the same opportunity that will help you climb the ladder. First you must accept the opportunity then make it what it should be.
Stop turning down blessings that are specifically meant for you. Many of you are guilty of not accepting blessings then blaming God for not giving them to you. Learn to recognize when your prayers are being answered. Just because the opportunity does not appear to be fruitful to you does not meant that it is any less of an opportunity. Understand that cream eventually rises to the top. Even if you accept an opportunity that does not meet your standards it is imperative that you work as if you are the President of the corporation and inevitably the title will catch up to the work.
Do not decline opportunities because you are too proud; your pride will keep you penniless and hungry. It’s not the opportunity that is offered to us but what we do with that opportunity that matters most.
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One of the toughest things to do is put your pride aside and ask for help. Perhaps a principle reason could be because you don’t want to seem vulnerable or weak in the eyes of the person you are seeking assistance from. It could be because you falsely believe that you are “strong and independent” enough to handle any challenge that may come your way. Whatever your reason, understand that everybody needs help sometimes. If you are afraid or ashamed to ask for help, how will you ever get it? While you may even believe that you can do it alone, no one who has ever experienced any level of success did so alone.
Could you try figure things out on your own? Of course you can. Keep in mind that not asking for help only makes the burden tougher to bear. Almost everyone has had to move from one home to another at least once in their lifetime. Imagine not soliciting the assistance of movers, friends or family to help you and attempting to do it yourself. Imagine trying to carry a refrigerator by yourself or move a dresser on your own. You probably can’t even imagine it because you probably wouldn’t do it. Asking for help should not be limited to certain things. When you’ve asked for help in the past, you typically received it. Didn’t you? This time will be no different.
Understand that two heads will always be better than one. Much like two hands working to solve the same problem will help achieve a solution more expediently. Your pride is what will keep you from reaching the next level. Your pride is the difference between climbing out of the hole you are currently in and spending a little more time in it. Don’t be afraid to ask for help; you never know who will come to your rescue.
Don’t allow your pride to come in between you and your blessings.
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I come from a very big family. I am the middle child of eight children that my incredibly amazing mother birthed. I am not sure how she did it but I sure wasn’t going to tell her where she should’ve stopped; she could’ve stopped before me and we know how that story would’ve ended. At any rate, growing up, my father was the bread winner while my mother took care of home; equally difficult jobs yet they both pulled it off quite seamlessly. My father was charged with feeding, clothing and protecting ten individuals including his self. He almost never complained, the key word there is almost. There is one memory I will never forget that has helped me shape the way I see assistance.
I remember one of his co-workers from the manufacturing plant coming over to our house for a beer with my dad one Saturday. They sat outside on the porch and talked about life and typical grown-up stuff. Outside of school, those were the best classes to me, eavesdropping on adult conversations; you can truly learn a lot. My father’s co-worker turned good friend said to my father “with all of those children you should probably get food stamps to help feed them”. My father turned and looked at him and I immediately recognized that look, it was the same look he would give us when we were in trouble. My father said to him “I can provide for my family, if I can’t afford it then we don’t need it. I’m not taking any handouts from anyone. We’re doing fine.”
I will never forget that day because I learned a few valuable lessons which I still practice today. There is a clear difference between needs and wants. I will always be able to afford my needs but I should be able to live without my wants. Many people have difficulty with that concept. I also learned the incredible amount of pride that one can have when they are able to provide for themselves and their family. I’ve never believed in hand-outs but certainly subscribe to hand-ups. If you are going to ask for assistance, it should be temporary and it should be to lift you up. No one should have anything hanging over your head because they’ve helped you out. Do for yourself or live without it.
Finally, I learned that although we didn’t have much growing up, we had more than we needed. Yet in still we were always giving to others. I truly believe that is how people receive, through giving. The more you give, the less you’ll need. The less you need, the more you’ll have to give.
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