Letting go doesn’t mean giving up. Just because you release yourself from a toxic relationship doesn’t mean that you’ve completely given up. In fact, you are freeing yourself from the possibility of recurring hurt and disappointment. How much hurt can you take before you decide that enough is enough? Some relationships simply run their course. Some relationships are naturally incompatible yet many of us try to force that relationship to work; this method is doomed from the start. When we try to force something that doesn’t naturally fit we will be met with countless road blocks.
When you let go of a toxic or unhealthy relationship, you are releasing yourself from the grip of one in order to open yourself to the possibility of another. Simply, when you decide to move on, you are increasing the possibility of moving forward. Relationships come and they certainly go. Some are permanent, some are not. The constant in all of this is you. You need to constantly change what you are doing and in some cases how you are doing those things until you get what you’ve always wanted. Be true to yourself. When we change our lives for the sake of others, we end up losing in the long run. The goal is to find someone who you are compatible with, someone who knows you well and someone who shares the same morals and values as you do. Most importantly, the goal is to establish a relationship with someone who loves you just for you.
Don’t be afraid to let go of the past; that is truly the only way you can progress into the future. Remember, letting go doesn’t mean giving up; it simply means you came to an understanding that there are some things that simply cannot be and perhaps were not meant to be. Just because your relationship failed doesn’t mean that you did.
Letting go doesn’t mean giving up and giving up doesn’t mean you are weak. It simply means that you are strong enough to let go.
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Today, I encourage you to change the way you look at things. I also want to encourage you to take a closer look at your list of priorities. There are some things that you are making a priority that should not even have made the list. Furthermore, there are some people in your life who you are making a priority while they only consider you an option. Choose today to pull out that list and check it twice.
You know who these people are and they need to be removed from that list of top 5 that don’t even include you. How someone can have a list of priorities and not have themselves at the top of that list is beyond me. The only exceptions may perhaps be your children and your spouse and the higher power you believe in. Even with those considerations, most folks still don’t round out the top 5 with them making the list.
Once you are clear about what you will and will not take, then and only then can your intentions be made clear. Don’t put up with someone who does not treat you the way you deserve to be treated simply because you are afraid to be alone. Don’t you think you deserve better? I know you do and so do you. Reevaluate your list and consider making some changes. Sometimes we have done all we can with what we have and still nothing changes. It does not necessarily mean that we are doing something wrong; it simply means that we are directing those actions at the wrong person. The right person will respond reciprocally.
Someone will appreciate the amazing person that you are but first you have to make room to invite them in. Never make someone a priority when they only consider you an option. You deserve better.
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A book has many chapters; a beginning, middle, and certainly an end. Relationships are like books, some are about one subject and focus on that particular subject for the duration of the book and others simply last a few chapters until the content runs out and there are no more pages to read. What I want you to understand is that some relationships are detrimental to your personal growth and development; you’ve got to let them go. There are some books you keep and others you pass on once you’ve read them. Relationships are exactly the same, learn to discern between the two.
You never know why God saw it fit to remove you from a situation or relationship. No matter how hard you try, you cannot force a square peg into a round hole. If it isn’t meant to be, it simply will not be; accept it and move on. Once you fully release yourself from the past, only then can you appreciate the beauty of the present. Look around you at the people who are in your life right now at this moment, those are the people who love you the most. Your attention should be focused on them, the present and not the past. The only reason to look back at the past is to remind you of the mistakes you’ll never make again and the lessons you learned from those mistakes.
The past is truly just that; let go and move on. So many people live their lives based on the “I wish I would’ve” mind-set. I wish I would’ve done this differently or I wish I would’ve said this or that. The fact is, unless you know how to travel back to the past, you can’t spend precious time focusing on something you cannot change. Shift your focus to something you do have control over; the present. All of your energy should be focused on the present. By focusing on the present, you are in turn preparing for the future. By focusing on the past, you are taking away precious time from the focus that should be on the present.
Learn to accept things the way they are and trust that you are where you are meant to be at this very moment with the people you are meant to be with. Leave the past in the past and move on.
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