As I sat on the tourist filled train patiently yet eagerly awaiting my stop, I put my book down and took a moment to inspect my surroundings to see who my temporary neighbors were. To my immediate left a new couple embrace as they lovingly stare into each others eyes. Behind them an elderly man focuses intently on the stories of the day written in a semi-crumpled newspaper someone left behind as an unruly and clearly unsupervised child raced up and down the center isle of the pod.
Sitting directly across from me is a man, seemingly tired from a long days work as he unsuccessfully attempts to take a quick nap before he reaches his final destination. His weathered uniform with dusted flour stains and slightly worn cap deduced that he must be a line cook at a restaurant. What stood out most about this man was an abnormally large tattoo scribed from to the top of his forearm all the way down to where his wristwatch would normally go in a dark green hue that read “Born To Die.”
As I looked momentarily trying to avoid being caught staring, I started to wonder why anyone would get a permanent reminder of something so dreadful and uninspiring? I started to think about what his life-experiences must have been to motivate him to get this “message” tattooed on himself. How bad does life get for you to think and even believe that you were in fact born to die?
While death is a guaranteed experience that we all grudgingly yet inevitably share, I am not entirely convinced that it is something we should remind ourselves of daily. Our focus should remain on maximizing the beauty, opportunities and blessings each day presents. I truly believe that our thoughts have the incredible power to become things. I also believe that there is an immeasurable amount of power in the written word and the message you continue to drill into your head.
You create the reality in which you exist. If you want the best life has to offer, you must first believe that you deserve it then go and create it. The world has the potential to give you constant reminders that you simply dont measure up. Dont allow a third party to run your private corporation! In other words, OWN YOUR DESTINY!
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Joe Paul is an author, speaker and coach. www.JoePaulSpeaks.com
I have a confession to make. At one point in my life I actually thought that there was a substitution for hard work. I falsely believed that there were shortcuts on the road to success. No seriously, I thought it had more to do with luck and being at the right place at the right time but I was sadly mistaken. The time I spent looking for shortcuts was certainly time that I could have invested to vigorously pursuing my dreams.
Think about the most successful person you know. What do you think separates them from everyone else? What makes them successful? What are they doing that everyone isn’t? I can tell you what separates them from everyone else; it’s hard work. I’ve seen people with less charisma, less talent, less appeal become more successful than others simply because they chose to work harder than their counterparts.
Understand that anything worth having never comes easily. Whatever you want in life you have to vigorously pursue. You have to chase it like you don’t know any better. You have to work like hell to get it and work even harder to keep it. There are no shortcuts. There are no handouts. Don’t expect people to just hand it to you because it doesn’t work that way.
What you should understand about hard work is that it is not prejudice, it’s not racist or sexist. Hard work is not exclusive to a particular group of people and neither is success. However, success is the result of hard work. While you are sleeping, your opponent is working hard to make sure that you are not better than they are. Your opponent is taking 100 more practice shots than you are. Your opponent is waking up 2 hours earlier than you. Your opponent is out creating opportunities while you are sitting at home waiting on opportunity to come to you. It doesn’t work that way.
It is a common thought that successful people experience success because they are lucky or blessed with talent. The truth is, successful people simply work harder than the average man. Luck is the byproduct of hard work. That’s the secret to success.
Victory does not always go to the person who is the smartest or the most talented but to the person who works the hardest.
THERE IS NO SUBSTITUTION FOR HARD WORK!
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There is a man who lost his job the same year he was defeated during a run to serve in the legislature. A year later, after several attempts, his business failed. Shortly thereafter, his significant other passed away. Nearly a year after that, he had a severe nervous breakdown. This same man would experience over a dozen losses spanning over three decades. His tenacity and ability to stick with it despite his failures allowed him to become the 16th President of the United States of America.
President Abraham Lincoln’s attempts at success was rejected countless times before he finally heard his first YES! It may take you 10,000 times or 10 times to accomplish your dreams; either way, do not give up. We can only imagine what kind of world we’d be living in had he not persevered; the landscape of the world would be significantly different. The secret to his success was that he remained disciplined and committed enough to continue to keep trying until he received a favorable response. This is the recipe for success and exactly what you need to do.
The interesting thing about setting goals is that we really don’t know the exact date we’ll accomplish them; yet it is imperative that we continue to work diligently towards the accomplishment of said goals. Understand that we will never know the exact date that we will win simply because most people give up right before they get the thing they were working so feverishly for. Many people give up because they lack the necessary patience and perseverance required to accomplish any goal. You must stick with whatever it is you are doing, even if it seems like there is no end in sight. Your goals can and will be achieved if you simply choose not to throw in the towel. Quitting will never be an option for a winner.
Don’t give up 3 seconds before the miracle happens.
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There is something I am going to tell you that may surprise you but please understand that it is a fact. The fact is that some battles aren’t yours to fight. Although we are strong, most of us are too stubborn to realize when our strength is not enough to win a fight. Yet that does not prevent us from entering a fight. When you find yourself starting to lose strength or when you feel that you may lose a battle, simply turn it over to God.
Sometimes we enter unwinnable battles; at times on purpose. I believe that when we are tested or thrown off course, it is God trying to tell us something. What He’s trying to tell us is that He possesses the necessary power to win any and every battle. You don’t have to fight alone, you are just choosing to. If you are in a situation where you are constantly battling the same demons, it is because you haven’t asked Him for help.
Imagine fighting your battles in a wrestling ring; you against your problems. Your problem has an issue waiting to be tagged in once you get weak enough for them to tap you out. What you must ask yourself is at your weakest moment, who will you tag in? Look over your shoulder, reach out your hand and tag God in; I guarantee you He won’t lose. Although most of us try, we cannot win every battle on our own. In fact, some battles aren’t meant for you to fight alone.
When you feel like you are in one of those unwinnable battles against your problems, simply call out to God, ask Him for help or turn it over to Him completely. Trust me, He can handle it.
Remember, turn your battles over to God or simply tag Him in; you can’t lose.
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It isn’t over until it’s truly over. Don’t count yourself out before you even get into the battle. Oftentimes, we talk ourselves out of a battle before we even jump in. Citing countless reasons why we shouldn’t do something. In the same vain, you must also consider citing reasons why something may actually work. Everything is dichotomous in nature; meaning there are two ways to look at everything. There certainly are positives if you focus intently on discovering them; consider the positives.
You will never know the outcomes of the battles you don’t fight. If you choose not to fight, you’ve already lost. Understand that nothing in this world comes easily; nothing. The outcome of your battles has already been determined yet that should not prevent you from fighting as hard as you can. The fact that you are still living simply means that you are on the winning end of the battle. It also means that, to date, no problem has claimed your life and thus has made you stronger.
Your primary goal each and every day should be to never quit. Quitting is not nor should it ever be an option for you. First, understand and commit to memory the fact that you were born to win. There is no such thing as an insurmountable battle. No matter how hard it seems and will become at times, you cannot quit. No matter how difficult the battle appears, you cannot quit. Even if it looks like you are going to lose, you cannot quit. Your reward is waiting at the finish-line and you cannot claim any rewards if you don’t finish. Be a finisher.
The only way you’ll know if you can truly win a battle is if you make it to the end. No matter how long and arduous the journey may seem, you must focus on the end result. Do not fear defeat, focus intently on the finish-line and you will win every time.
You can win and you will win; simply because there are no other options for you.
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There is an ongoing battle between being cooperative and being competitive. Oftentimes, the thin line which separates the two becomes obscure. Most extreme competitors expect to win and most inevitably do. The problem comes when our expectations aren’t met and the results aren’t favorable. Many of us are so competitive that experiencing any loss would result in complete disappointment and utter devastation.
There are countless people who quit after they experience a loss or a failed attempt. My life experience has taught me that if perhaps I don’t win today, it doesn’t mean I can’t win tomorrow. Every loss presents an opportunity to learn, grow and get better. When I was in college, I ran for Student Body President. I truly gave that election my all and I mean ALL. After several grueling months of campaigning from dorms to classrooms, Election Day had finally arrived. Almost ten hours later a winner was announced. My name was not called.
Although I did not win the election, in many ways I still considered myself the victor and did not accept that this one loss would ultimately dictate my future. A winner understands that it is not over until it is completely over. Whether you win or lose, remember to always give it your best shot. While I was devastated at the time, I had to wrap my mind around the fact that failure is an event, it is not a person. No matter the results, you should never walk away from an experience hoping you did a little more. Leave it all on the battlefield.
The greatest difference between a winner and a loser, is that a winner always gets back up.
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There aren’t too many folks who enter a competition innately expecting to lose. While this may seem obvious, many people actually believe they will lose before throwing their hat in a race. The issue isn’t with the fact that most people count themselves out before jumping in, it’s that we don’t learn from the losses. There is something to be said about learning a lesson after each experience no matter the outcome; win or lose.
The greatest difference between a win and a loss is the lesson you choose to learn from that particular experience. Just because you win doesn’t meant there aren’t lessons to be learned. A couple of key questions that deserves an answer after a disappointing loss are “why” and “what”. If you ask “why” this particular situation ended up the way it did and “what” you could’ve done differently then you are less likely to repeat those errors that initially contributed to the loss. The same formula works with a win. Visionaries are quick learners and always ask what they can do differently that will yield different results.
Losers are devastated after a loss while winners understand that in order to conquer the world it takes winning one battle at a time. Losers fight battles they know they can win while winners understand the importance of accepting a challenge; great or small. Every experience has a lesson. It doesn’t matter if you win or lose, it’s how you analyze and execute the game. Learn to understand the key differences and similarities between your wins and your losses and you will be able to have a greater influence on your outcomes.
Losers fight until they are tired and winners fight until they’ve won.
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Before entering a competitive challenge, most people try to size up the competition or at least attempt to discover who they will be competing against. During this process, most people play out the entire situation in their minds even declaring a winner prior to the start of the competition. The fork in the road occurs at this very moment; you are forced to choose between believing that you will win and believing that someone else will. Whichever outcome you believe in the most will be the result that you will inevitably receive.
In addition to how you view your circumstances, be mindful of the negative self-talk you have before you enter a race. Most people talk themselves out of a championship simply because the competition may look a little tougher, faster, stronger, or bigger. I say to those folks that it does not matter. We have all seen and/or heard of countless David vs Goliath battles, many of which we have been personally involved. What was the ultimate outcome? In some battles Goliath is triumphant and in others David hoists up the trophy. That’s the name of the game; you win some and you will certainly lose some. The goal is to fight until the end, no matter how you initially perceived the outcome. Fight until the end.
Understand first that the race does not always go to the stronger or faster man. Your competition will in many cases be bigger and stronger than you, learn to accept the fact that those particular attributes are not what wins races. Just biggest you look like you can win doesn’t mean you ultimately will. Be the winner no one expects to win by understanding that the battles end goes to the person who is the last one standing. Before you enter a competition, commit to battling until the end. Before you write down a goal, commit to sticking with it throughout its entirety. Before you start to dream, commit to building it. Commit to fighting the entire battle and give maximum effort at all times. Fight as hard as you can either until the clock runs out or until you win; whichever comes first.
The race is not given to the swift or the strong but to the one who endureth to the end.
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One defeat does not determine a persons potential nor does it determine how high they have the ability to rise. Oftentimes we place more emphasis and power on a loss rather than a win primarily because of our natural reaction to both events. We respond and react to a loss with a mental attitude of the sky is falling or the world is ending. That is a typical reaction to a loss. Although your reaction can be typical, your goal should be to ensure that it’s temporary.
What matters after you’ve failed or fallen short of your goal(s) is that you get back up again. Figure out why you failed, analyze the reasons and make the necessary adjustments to secure a victory moving forward. Maintain the understanding that failure is an event and it is not a person. Just because you experience failure doesn’t necessarily make you one.
A loss of any kind can certainly be devastating; I know. What is even more devastating after you’ve experienced a loss is if you choose to wallow in your sorrow and marinate on the loss. Thinking about a loss never created a win. If you want to win, you have to be determined to win. You have to do whatever it takes in your power to create and produce your desired outcomes.
Do you want to win or are you satisfied with losing?
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