Morning Cup of Joe – 6 Rules of Success

SuccessAnyone who has ever amounted to anything became a diligent student of their craft. They learned the ins and outs of what makes someone successful in their industry. They’ve read countless books and articles on how to perfect their craft by learning from others who have been in their field and have experienced some form of wild success. As a keynote speaker it is incredibly important for me to learn from other successful speakers. My principle goal when studying successful people is to learn about the nuances of what works and what doesn’t when you’re on stage. I study other speakers as if it’s a final exam that I want so badly to ace.

While studying I received a phone call from one of my very good friends and I explained to him what I was doing. He explained how he is also a student in his craft and how he’s constantly learning about new things and how to be better at what he does. He is an engineer. He directed me towards a commencement speech given by Arnold Schwarzenegger to the graduating class at the University of Southern California where he was awarded an honorary doctorate degree. The speech is entitled “Six Rules of Success.”

Over the next several Morning Cup of Joe’s, I’m going to break down Arnold’s six rules in order to help you better apply it to your life and experience the wild success that Arnold has.

Arnold Schwarzenegger’s 6 Rules of Success
1) Trust yourself
2) Break the rules
3) Don’t be afraid to fail
4) Ignore the naysayers
5) Work your butt off
6) Give Back!

Here’s a link to the speech. Check it out!

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Joe Paul
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Morning Cup of Joe – Living The Dream


Are you living the life you’ve always dreamed of? Or are you still dreaming? When it comes to happiness and the eminent pursuit of it, one must be intently focused on living their dreams while maintaining an understanding that dreams only come true for those who are brave and/or crazy enough to try to live it. Living the dream is reserved for those who will do whatever it takes for as long as it takes to make sure their dreams come true. It is going to take work, hard work but you must be committed at all costs.

While dreaming may be considered a temporary getaway, the life you dream about living is not impossible if you work tirelessly and feverishly to ensure that it does indeed happen. Unfortunately, the test usually comes before the lesson. Simply, if you are committed to accomplishing your goals and dreams, get ready to be tested. Nothing worth having ever came easily. Why would it change now? Dreams only seem impossible to those who aren’t willing to work to make sure they come true. Once you start your journey, if it is meant to be, everything will fall right into place much like a perfect piece to a puzzle.

The greatest difference between living your dreams and dreaming about living is a fraction of a percentage and is primarily based on your own efforts to make that particular dream come true. Contrary to popular belief, living the dream is not only reserved for those who are affluent and have access to resources. Living the dream is a reality that can be yours if you are not afraid of failing and of falling. The Japanese proverb, “fall seven times, stand up eight” speaks directly to this. You must crawl before you can learn to walk. And you must walk before you can learn to fly.

If you are serious about making your dreams come true, simply be committed to finishing everything you start even if there are bumps in the road. Expect a bumpy ride and expect turbulence. Much like an airplane, if you continue to fly and raise your altitude, sooner than later you will reach an altitude above the clouds where you can soar like the eagle you are.

Stop dreaming and start living your dream; the differences between the two are fractional. What are you willing to do and for how long are you willing to do it to ensure your dreams come true? Quitting is not and should never be an option. Your dreams can only come true if you make them come true. Don’t ever stop believing.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – The Battle Is Not Yours


You’re going to have people who are going to mess with you, test you and try to throw you off course. There will be some people who blatantly disrespect you. Believe it or not, there are some people who truly don’t want to see you succeed. These same people will try to push as many of your buttons as they can until one eventually releases you from who you are.

Recently, I almost allowed someone to take me there. You know, take me to a place my mother wouldn’t be proud of. I immediately thought about a message a close mentor and friend shares with me often; “Never allow someone else to set your thermostat”. In the heat of the battle, this is one of the toughest things to recall and initiate. Remember, just because someone else is disrespectful to you doesn’t mean you should respond reciprocally; never allow someone else to make you lose your cool.

Before I allowed myself to go there, I silently called out to God and asked for him to fight this battle. I didn’t ask him to help me. That’s where many of us go wrong; we ask God to help us win the battle. Sometimes we have to step aside and let God fight the battle. Simply, give it to God. To some, this may sound preposterous because one may think that you should be the catalyst in finding solutions to your problems. I agree to some degree but know that every battle isn’t yours to fight.

If you trust God, he will never disappoint you. Turn your seemingly unwinnable battles over to Him; He’s accustomed to winning.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – The Greatest Difference


There is an ongoing battle between being cooperative and being competitive. Oftentimes, the thin line which separates the two becomes obscure. Some extreme competitors expect to win and most inevitably do. The problem comes when our expectations aren’t met and the results aren’t favorable. Many of us are so competitive that experiencing a loss would result in complete disappointment and utter devastation.

When I was in college, I ran for Student Body President. I truly gave that election my all and I mean ALL. After several grueling months of campaigning from dorms to classrooms, Election Day had finally arrived. Almost ten hours later a winner was announced. My name was not called. That was my first experience losing an election. There are countless people who quit after they’ve experienced a loss. My life experience has taught me that if perhaps I don’t win today, it doesn’t mean I can’t win tomorrow. Every loss presents an opportunity to learn, grow and get better.

Although I did not win the election, I was not willing to accept that this one loss would ultimately dictate my future. A winner understands that it is not over until it is completely over and even then you must fight some more. Whether you win or lose, remember to always give it your best shot. While I was devastated at the time, I had to wrap my mind around the fact that failure is an event, it is not a person. No matter the results, you should never walk away from an experience hoping you had done a little more. Leave it all on the battlefield.

The greatest difference between a winner and a loser is that a winner always gets back up.

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – Are You A Quitter?

No matter what you’ve been through or are currently going through it does not have to stay like that. While some of our problems may be the result of our circumstances, a majority of those problems are a result of the sum of our choices. We have all made questionable decisions and poor judgments in the past. Those decisions and choices are exactly why we are where we are today.

If you truly want to change your circumstances, you have to first believe that change is possible. Secondly, you must be willing to start from where you are right now. Lastly, you must be committed to that change. Understand that we place many of our perceived limitations on ourselves by not acknowledging the fact that others with similar situations have found a way out. Guess what? Your way out is possible if you follow a similar path. If you follow the path of a successful person, you will get similar results. No exceptions.

Did you know that there are others like you who have experienced similar turmoil? While your issue may seem like the biggest one in the world, you are not alone. Did you know that most successful people have one key thing in common; they never give up. They keep moving and working tirelessly until they reach their desired results. As long as you are not willing to quit and commit to being successful, it can and will happen. There is truly no time like the present. Take advantage of the days you are blessed to see.

Don’t wait until tomorrow to get what you know you deserve today. The change you seek happens when you decide enough is enough. If you can read this, it’s not too late. In fact, it’s never too late. Everyone has to start somewhere. When will you decide to start?

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Joe Paul

Morning Cup of Joe – First Day of Your Life

Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Today and each day, spend time thinking about of all the things in your life you are thankful for. Be sure to focus on the non-materialistic reasons you are thankful; family, a great career, a wonderful spouse, etc. Today, I want you to think about all of the sacrifices you have made in your life to this point in order to get to where you are today. Today I want you to walk around with a renewed spirit while you express gratitude for the incredible progress you’ve made to this point in your life.

Today I want you to think about why you are here. Most people will continue to take up precious space while others like you and I will continue to discover and live our purpose. If you are having trouble figuring out your purpose in life, you must simply answer one question; “What am I able to do that is effortless to me while I can use it to serve others?” Answer this question and you will be one step closer to discovering your purpose. Your purpose also has to do with doing what you love. When you do what you love and love what you do, wealth comes in abundance. Today I want you to focus on discovering your purpose.

Today I want you to place emphasis on your gifts. Your gifts and/or unique abilities are ones that come naturally. Today I want you to focus on what you were born to do. It is my belief that you were born to leave your mark on the world. It’s not enough that I believe it, what do you believe? We truly only have one life to live so you must make this one count. Believe it or not, there are very good reasons why you are still on this side of the dirt; your purpose has not yet been fulfilled. Trust and understand that your life has meaning and watch as it begins to unfold once you decide to take the first step toward that discovery.

Who besides Martin Luther King Jr., Gandhi, Mother Teresa and countless others are going to leave their mark on this world? Today, I ask, who else will join the ranks of these great avatars? Today I want you to stand up and add your name to the list.

Today is all we’ve got; Live it!

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Joe Paul

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Morning Cup of Joe – Turn On Your Light

During a conversation, a friend expressed how they were modest and did not want too much attention focused on her. She was tasked with being the keynote speaker for the graduation ceremonies for her collegiate Alma Mater and was experiencing challenges formulating her speech. As she was writing her speech, she did not want to focus too much attention on her accomplishments and awards because she felt as if the audience may think that she was self-centered. She also did not want to seem conceited or pompous so she shied away from talking about herself. I had a different idea of how she should approach her speech.

She had experienced some challenges and setbacks in her life which helped her build the tenacity and perseverance necessary for one to experience success of any kind. Without going into details of her story, I encouraged her to focus on the lemons she had been able to turn into lemonade. If you don’t share your story, how can you inspire someone else who may be experiencing the same challenges as you? At the very least they will think to themselves “If she can make it, maybe I can.” When I speak to a crowd, my goal is never to reach everyone as I believe that this is an unrealistic goal. I only seek to touch one person. If I reach more than one person then that’s great but my goal is only to reach one.

I share this story with you because you may be shy about sharing all of the trials and tribulations you have been able to turn into triumphs. I encourage you to share with the world how far you’ve come. Although you may not be where you thought you’d be at this stage in your life, thank goodness you aren’t where you used to be. Share your story and inspire others. Don’t be afraid to talk about the amazing things you’ve been able to accomplish in spite of the devastating events that may have occurred in your life. The world is listening, share it and inspire others!

How can someone see how bright a light is if it’s turned off? Turn on your light and shine! I invite you to join me and shine as bright as the sun at nine. Don’t be afraid to shine and tell the world how far you’ve come. Be the light that will guide the path for others to follow.

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Joe Paul

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Morning Cup of Joe – One Win, One Loss

It’s funny how some people sit on the sidelines patiently waiting for you to fail. They watch your every move and hold on to your every word while maintaining hope that the next move you make is the one that will cause you to fail miserably. They could easily stand and cheer for you while you are winning but that would go against what they stand for. It’s easier for some people to find fault and hate than it is for them to show love. If only those people knew that it’s the other way around, maybe their lives would improve.

Just like one win doesn’t determine a champion, one loss doesn’t determine a loser. Some people would rather see you fail than succeed because of their own perceived limitations. Misery loves company and so does failure. In a twisted kind of way their way of thinking sort of makes sense. They don’t want to see you win because the top is lonely and there’s always room to join them at the ever so populated bottom. Who wants to be at the bottom? Certainly not a champion. Still we rise.

In any given competition, there are several people competing for a top spot and there can only be one winner. If you are competing, I can understand the need to see your competitors as the enemy. However, if you aren’t even competing, you really don’t have a dog in the fight. You certainly can’t win if you don’t play. And if you don’t play, you should stay in your lane and watch from the sidelines. When you are on top, there will be people who not only want to bring you down but they will work tirelessly to see that it happens.

Maintain the understanding that the hard work you put into being the best increases the distance between you and those who want to see you fail. The harder you work the greater the distance increases between you and your haters. While they are busy hating, you stay busy working.

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Joe Paul

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Morning Cup of Joe – Have What It Takes

When you set out to accomplish a goal it is critically important that you stick with it and see it through to completion. Now, re-read the first sentence a few more times. Most of the time when we take the initiative to start something, it is almost certain that we are going to be met with obstacles; some of which we cannot avoid. The goal is to simply focus on what matters most; finishing and finishing strong. Remember, it’s not how you start, it’s how you finish that matters most.

It costs you absolutely nothing to create a goal nor does it cost you to have the desire to pursuit a dream. The cost that you must consider when you are attempting to make your dreams come true is the price you are willing to pay to make certain that they do. Sweat equity is what you must be willing to invest in order to see a positive end result. Your goals are truly an arm’s reach away but you cannot get to them if you’re sitting down. Stand up and chase your dreams. Do not stop until you get them and even after that, keep going.

The road to success will seem long and at times bumpy but commit to memory the fact that you were born to win. I firmly believe that you were not put on this earth to lose. You were put on this earth to make an impact on the world around you. We all have a purpose in life; the goal is to discover yours then share it with the world. Do not think about the journey, simply focus on the destination. It doesn’t matter how you get there, just get there.

Remember, anyone can set a goal but it takes a winner to complete one.

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Joe Paul

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Morning Cup of Joe – Man In The Mirror

Some may find this hard to believe but I do not own an alarm clock. In fact, my internal alarm clock is set to wake me up at or before 6:30AM every morning, weekends included, and it never fails. It is a very calm way to arise from a deep slumber and certainly beats the alternative of the blaring and annoying sound of a traditional alarm clock that is meant to startle you out of your sleep. Well, this morning was no different except for the fact that I stared in the mirror for about a minute or so as I thought to myself; “Am I where I want to be at this stage in life?”, “Am I as successful as I thought I would be by this point in my life?” and “What am I willing to do to get what I think I deserve from this life?”.

We all have moments where we contemplate where we are, how we got there and can we go a little further. These thoughts are not unusual and provide for deep introspection and self-examination. It is better to have these types of thoughts than to go about your day in a robotic sheep-like fashion. Unfortunately, contemplating alone never created anything. You can’t think your way to a better physique or health. You can’t think your way to a better job. You can’t think your way into a better relationship. Do thoughts have the capability and capacity to become things? They certainly do. However, you must be willing to do your fair share to make those thoughts become things. Imagine a life where all you had to do was think of something and it suddenly appears. I don’t know about you but to me that is a scary thought based on some of the malevolent minds in the world.

As I stared in the mirror and contemplated about my life and accomplishing goals, I had a moment of clarity. The only person keeping you from accomplishing your goals is the person you see in the mirror. No one else is responsible for your outcomes, successes and failures except for you. If you want to lose weight, stop eating unhealthily and start exercising. If you want a better job, stop complaining about your current one and start looking for a better more fulfilling one. If you want a better relationship, stop complaining about how terrible your significant other is and start finding someone who appreciates you for who you are. Stop thinking and start doing.

It’s really simple, start taking full responsibility for your actions and your inactions. You cannot blame the world for your personal problems. Only you can fix what you know is broken simply because you are equipped with the tools necessary to fix your own problems. You can’t count on anyone else to do it. If you want the best that life has to offer, ask the person in the mirror what they are willing to do about it.

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Joe Paul

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